I have had HPV for about 2 and a half or
so years now. I had many warts with mine,
especially when I was pregnant with my
daughter. Abnormal paps during pregnancy
led to cryosurgery (freezing of the
cervix) after my daughter was born. I have
had all 3 of the Guardisil vaccines and
have been clear of warts for about 4
months now. A couple of months ago, I had
hand-to-genital contact with a guy, and he
ended up with warts! I feel really bad
and I wouldn't want it to happen to
someone else! The thing is that I thought
we were being really safe, and now I'm
learning that there can be HPV on even the
hands of someone with HPV! I know that I
have at least one high-risk
(cancer-causing) strain of the virus, and
that these high-risk types may never go
away. I also know that condoms don't fully
protect against transmission, and that
oral sex with a person with HPV can cause
cancers of the mouth. Now I'm interested
in a very nice guy. I told him that I have
HPV, and now we don't know what to do. He
really wants to be with me, but he doesn't
want to risk getting warts and possibly
cancer. I have been calling up doctor's
offices to see it they'll give the
Guardisil vaccine to men, because I've
read that doctors have the ability to do
so if they wish. But, so far, no luck!
I've
heard that it may be 5 or so years before
they'll approve giving the vaccine to men!
How do people with HPV have sex again? I
know that it's really common and that
people with HPV don't not have sex for the
rest of their lives. What can I do to be
able to have a sexual relationship with a
man again? If you have any advice or
information, please help me out!
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nightangel73
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Posted: 02-05-08 22:42pm
Well I would think that yes if you have
sex with this guy he will get infected.
Bottom line with hpv you have to stay
monogamous. If monogamous both partner
will pass the stage of building the
inmunity to the virus. So the guy has to
accept that he will be infected and in my
experience if there is true love he will
accept it and love you as is. Guardasil
just only covers certain strains, surely
not all hpv strains which are hundreds so
no use with that one. About the chance of
mouth cancer I doubt this to be true but I
don't think would be good idea to have
oral sex if any has an active flare up of
warts.
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Roberta777
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Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 695 Location: ,
Thanks: 116
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Just Never Know Where It Came From Posted: 02-05-08 22:55pm
unless you were a virgin like Nightangel
and she knew good and well where it came
from.
Some of us are just made with flesh and
bone and we want to love a person. Our
bodies maybe over-react to any threat and
overcompensate with high antibody levels
against HPV.
I would listen to Nightangel. It truly is
hard not to be with a person, but,
honestly, condoms don't fully protect.
Also, to be with each other, and if you
already have, there you are. It is the
problem when one partner denies ever being
exposed to HPV, says they are free and
clear and maybe it is just you who has it
and now they don't want to be with you
because they could catch it from you.
I believe that even if we have HPV, there
is a chance of happiness for us. If you
find the right person, love comes in an
abundance of good things. Sex is
certainly one of the great things but
being able to share your life with
somebody you love is of the greatest
things we can be given.
I know I will find somebody for me. I
feel it.
My former bf was over here today talking,
talking about how miserable his life is.
Wife, ex-wife, won't let him see his
daughter, won't let him be there when his
son is born, basically had to sit him down
and ask him if he has ever been honest
with her about being exposed to HPV and
with the baby being born in two weeks. He
always feels sorry for himself and how he
got screwed. Sorry ladies.
Life has a way of payback.
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ivylove
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2008 Posts: 3
Thanks Posted: 02-08-08 00:07am
Thank you nightangle73. You're advice is
probably right on the money. I understand
the oral sex thing while flare-ups is
probably not appealing, but the hpv virus
that causes cancer of the mouth doesn't
cause warts, so that part doesn't make
sense to me for those reasons. Anyhow, I'm
not too sure what to do at this point. If
I care about someone, I wouldn't want them
to have to go through what I did. Since
I've had the vaccine, maybe I need to find
someone who has already had hpv. Or else I
need to just wait for the vaccine for men
so that at least I know that there is a
reduced risk of cancer and outbreaks for
him. I also have an active Hepatitis C
infection, so maybe I should just be
alone. It may be hard to find someone with
both hpv and Hep C, but then maybe
not....dunno, just gunna keep to myself
for a while...
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I feel really bad
and I wouldn't want it to happen to
someone else! The thing is that I thought
we were being really safe, and now I'm
learning that there can be HPV on even the
hands of someone with HPV! I know that I
have at least one high-risk
(cancer-causing) strain of the virus, and
that these high-risk types may never go
away. I also know that condoms don't fully
protect against transmission, and that
oral sex with a person with HPV can cause
cancers of the mouth. Now I'm interested
in a very nice guy. I told him that I have
HPV, and now we don't know what to do. He
really wants to be with me, but he doesn't
want to risk getting warts and possibly
cancer. I have been calling up doctor's
offices to see it they'll give the
Guardisil vaccine to men, because I've
read that doctors have the ability to do
so if they wish. But, so far, no luck!
I've
heard that it may be 5 or so years before
they'll approve giving the vaccine to men!
How do people with HPV have sex again? I
know that it's really common and that
people with HPV don't not have sex for the
rest of their lives. What can I do to be
able to have a sexual relationship with a
man again? If you have any advice or
information, please help me out!
