Sharing pregnancy with parents Posted: 02-06-08 13:58pm
Okay so maybe a slight introduction. My
name is Danielle (17) and I'm in Canada.
Just found out im pregnant. Ive been with
my WONDERFUL boyfriend for 2 years. We
decided were going to go move to a two
bedroom apartment soon and try to get
through the toughness and find something
good throughout it.
ANYWAY My boyfriends parents (his mom
expecially) can get under my skin. Last
year we had a scare about this but I was
15. So it sount a lot worse. And his
parents (as most parents would) flipped
when they found out (NOT my idea telling
them before we knew!)
This time I know they will think Derek (my
boyfriend) Is RUINING his life doing this
with me. And they're going to push
abortion on me (we have decided to have
the baby 100%). But it REALLY bugs me when
this is going to come up "You probley
tried to get pregnant to lock Derek in".
That makes me what to turn around and
knock her out. I've never done anything
bad to my boyfriend. He is spoiled. But
Derek is her first child. So shes
protective but I think you could all
imagine what it would feel like when you
feel like your doing the right thing
working hard, saving money, having the
baby then having the boyfriends mom tell
you you did this on purpose to ruin his
life.
Any ideas how i can maturly reply to that
when it comes up?
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Ingi
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Posted: 02-06-08 14:15pm
You could tell her that while she is
entitled to her opinion, her son does not
feel the same way and you hope that she'll
be happy when her grandchild arrives so
she can share in the joy of the new baby.
Because, really, bitterness is best left
behind - since saying 'you could have' or
'you should have' is all fine and dandy,
but it is now a moot point. There is a
baby coming!
Good luck.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 02-06-08 14:23pm
Your bf needs to step up and tell his
parents this was a planned pregnancy and
you both planned it together, and he wants
the child as much as you do.
Are you two getting married? Sometimes
that softens the blow to parents. Many
parents can feel like, if their son wanted
a child, he would have proposed to the
girl, making a commitment to her first.
Since it is very difficult for many people
to understand why anyone would do things
in reverse order, have a child first and
then get married, sometimes the assumption
is that someone tricked someone.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 02-06-08 15:04pm
Parents think that because the majority of
the time it is true. In most cases at 17
when a girl winds up pregnant the father
leaves, or they are irresponsible, or just
not ready. A parents job is to be over
bearing and over protective especially in
sitautions such as these.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-06-08 15:21pm
So tha majority of the time a 17 year old
girl gets pregnant, she did it on purpose?
I strongly disagree with you on that. She
cannot get pregnant alone and if said bf
didn't want his said 17 year old gf to get
preg, they would use protection.
this isnt a post on abortion debate guys
ok so please keep your opinions to
yourself she needs support not your
personal oppinions thank you
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 02-07-08 00:57am
id point out you didnt undress him and
make him have sex with you. but in a nice
way cuz like the saying goes "kill them
with kindness"
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-07-08 02:45am
im so sorry hes got parents like this
unfortunatly that sounds like the kind of
parents a spoiled only child would have.
its because shes not ready to let go yet.
some parents feel like that. but thank god
its your choice and your decition. she
might be a b(&*(*^ at first but when
that baby is born she wont be able to
resist or turn away. after all its from
her SON. she is the GRANDMOTHER ya know?
she will come around. it might just take
time for her to relize that her son loves
you and wants this too.
stick to your gun and dont worry
it will be stressful at first but it will
pass
good luck
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 02-07-08 13:27pm
Why can't the bf stick up for her and set
his parents straight? Has this happened
to anyone else, where you and your bf
agree on having a child and he never tells
his parents that he was part of the
planning?
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