Ilovejulietannafaye
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PLEASE HELP
Posted: 02-06-08 18:45pm
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I just was on my boyfriends myspace.. and
he has been talking to his ex.. I mean.. I
know that i should not spy... but he has a
letter on there from her today.. and I
have not read it.. I want to.. but he has
not read it yet.. I could read it and then
just permenantly delete it.. .like he read
it and did not respond.. I really want
to.. cause.. this girl was pregnant.. when
he got with her.. and he likes to say it
is his baby.. but it ain't and they were
not together that long..and.. I don't
know. I think one of the problems is.. we
are so far apart.. and they are right
there together.. I mean like with in five
streets of each other.. I really don't
like this.. I want to read it, Another
things is .. I feel all insecure.. like
she is prettier than me.. so... and
skinnier.. and.. Oh look I made my self
cry...
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Ayrshire-lass
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:49pm
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calm down. i wouldnt read it incase he
found out u did n delete it just incase
its nothing. wait until hes read it n then
read it.
ok im the nosey type and would do it.
if theres anything in there that make it
defo that hes cheeting get rid of him. but
dnt do anything drastic untill you have
PROOF!!.
i talk to all my ex's and id hate to think
that one of them was sneeking about in my
mail to see if i had been cheating.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:52pm
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I am a very paranoid person so I would
read it. This may sound hypocritical, but
don't do it. It could be nothing at all,
and if he finds out about it it could
cause a lot of problems for your
relationship. I know this from personal
experience. Ask him about it in a
non-threatening way.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:54pm
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k..I will wait till he reads it.. but the
thing is.. he knows i have his password..
but today he made a slick comment.. about
how he needed to change it. If he changes
it.. I am hiring someon to hack...
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Ayrshire-lass
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:56pm
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| Ilovejulietannafaye
wrote: | | k..I will wait till he reads
it.. but the thing is.. he knows i have
his password.. but today he made a slick
comment.. about how he needed to change
it. If he changes it.. I am hiring someon
to hack... |
Okay, that wouldn't be the best idea.
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:57pm
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i agree with samantha
id read it.
but it might be something you totally dont
need to see. or it might be nothing at
all.
just talk to him ok. ask him "so have you
talked to so and so lately?" and see what
he says
also you could always just wait and see if
he reads it and replies to her. if he
doesnt then dont worry about it. but if he
does talk to him about it further. dont
freak out on him though. not yet.
i really dont know what to say about the
whole its his baby thing. id be heck a mad
if travis ever pulled something like that.
just stay calm ok? if you need to pm me...
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:58pm
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probably not.. but I am so paranoid.. and
then again I shouldn't be.. I have my
baby.. and he is not the father... so.. I
don't have to have him..I would like to..
but in the long run.. There are plenty of
guys out there, and if he is a loser
enough to cheat he ain't worth my time..
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-06-08 18:58pm
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dont ack him. that just sounds a little
over the top lol
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:01pm
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | i agree with samantha
id read it.
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No, no, no. I am in no way telling her to
read it. I said I would, but she
shouldn't. I have none of Jon's passwords
for this exact reason. It makes me turn
into a crazy person.
I used to do stuff like that all the time
and there was never anything. Obviously,
I'm not saying that is the case with their
relationship, but it will ruin the trust
and cause a lot of problems that you don't
want. Just talk to him.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:01pm
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He is not trust worthy, he has cheated/
hit everyone of his exes but me.. I know
that is not good.. we have been together a
year.. I am having a boy..and he flirts
and talks about getting "strange" alot
just joking.. but.. behind every joke
there is some truth...
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:02pm
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| Ilovejulietannafaye
wrote: | | probably not.. but I am so
paranoid.. and then again I shouldn't be..
I have my baby.. and he is not the
father... so.. I don't have to have him..I
would like to.. but in the long run..
There are plenty of guys out there, and if
he is a loser enough to cheat he ain't
worth my time.. |
honey he might not even be cheating on
you.
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:03pm
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Okay.. Let me get this straight. You have
been together for a year and you are 20
weeks pregnant, but he isn't the father?
Wouldn't that make you the untrustworthy
one?
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:03pm
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I know.. but.. If i was with me.. I
would.. ugh.. i feel so fat and just
ugh... i shouldn't think like that.
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:04pm
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| SamanthaM
wrote: | | the_girlfriend
wrote: | i agree with samantha
id read it.
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No, no, no. I am in no way telling her to
read it. I said I would, but she
shouldn't. I have none of Jon's passwords
for this exact reason. It makes me turn
into a crazy person.
I used to do stuff like that all the time
and there was never anything. Obviously,
I'm not saying that is the case with their
relationship, but it will ruin the trust
and cause a lot of problems that you don't
want. Just talk to
him. |
no i know what you meant lol im not
saying she should read it either im just
saying i would read it too LOL
i have travis password. and he knows it.
but if i ever saw something like that id
just ask him about it.
good thing is travis cant lie for crap
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:05pm
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we broke up for a few months... because of
his drinking and verbal abuse.. I just..
decided to give him another chance but..
he wanted to keep the date that we started
dating
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:05pm
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Okay, I just wanted to make sure my post
wasn't confusing.
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:05pm
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ok ok i see whats going on. you have a
HUGE insecurity issue
thats your problem
you cant trust him
if he wasnt there "you would feel fat"
and YOUR the one who cheated on him (since
hes not the dad right? does he know
that?)
you just dont need to be in a relationship
at all right now. you need to get yourself
together before this baby comes.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:06pm
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I did not cheat we broke up and wre both
seeing other people.
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young Girl
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Posted: 02-06-08 19:11pm
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| Ilovejulietannafaye
wrote: | | I did not cheat we broke up
and wre both seeing other
people. |
ohh ok i see now. so why did you guys
break up if you dont mind me asking
honestly you do what feels right to you.
if he was abusive in his past and he
cheated before he could do it again. but
still, sometimes people change. so like i
said dont freak out on him. he may be
doing absolutly nothing wrong. and
everyone is right if you freak out and its
nothing then he may loose trust in YOU
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