So I've been lurking around these forums
for awhile, figured it's about time I told
you all why I'm pro-choice.
When I was 13, I went over to my friends
house for a birthday party. It was a
huuuuuge deal, there were like 100 +
people there with all of her friends and
her family members. It was held outside in
her back yard. It was a pool party, and I
was soooooo excited to show off my new
bathing suit. It was a pale pink tankini
set with little blue and yellow polka
spots all over it.
During the party, her uncle came out and
asked me if I could help him bring out one
of her presents. We went into the back
bedroom, he closed and locked the door,
and raped me. When he finally let me go,
he said if I ever told anyone he would
kidnap me and rape me every day for the
rest of my life. I went into the bathroom,
cleaned myself off, called my mom and told
her I felt sick, and went home. I wasn't
planning on telling my mom (some of you
know a bit about her and can probably
understand why.) but after a week and a
half I started getting really scared that
I could be pregnant. When I told her she
was pissed. At me. She told me I was
selfish for not telling her sooner because
now there was no evidence of what had
happened, and be cause of me he would
probably go and rape more girls. Thanks
mom.
Any ways a few weeks later we took a
pregnancy test and it came out positive.
We went to Planned Parenthood and they
gave me the abortion pill, then gave me
the second pill that I took 2 days later.
I felt.. relived. When I found out I was
pregnant I felt disgusted. I didn't have
any attachments to the "baby" in me.... to
me it was a "thing". Even now when I think
about it I feel sick to my stomach.
Aborting was, honestly, the best thing
I've ever done. If I had been forced to
continue the pregnancy, I never would have
met Jacob (I would have been 6 months
pregnant when I went to the party where I
first started talking to him) and we never
would have had Jayden, who is my entire
world.
Being forced to carry that thing in me for
9 months against my will would have been
like being raped all over again every
single day of the pregnancy. I probably
would have killed myself - I was that
disgusted with the thought of it.
When I was raped, I lost control over my
own body. When I got pregnant, I lost it
again. When I aborted, I got it back.
Every woman deserves to have that option
if she wishes.
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lucy315
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Posted: 02-07-08 19:20pm
I am truly sorry that you had to go
through that. I have known someone
personally who was raped, and she went
through the same feelings that you did
about aborting. Carrying the child of a
rapist is not something any woman should
have to do against her will. I'm glad
that things have worked out for you!
Thank-you for sharing your story.
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 02-10-08 18:29pm
I'm so
sorry! I still can't understand why men do
that, it's just so wrong! I think rape is
the main reason I'm glad abortion is
legal. Having to carry a 'child' of a
rapist is just as wrong as being raped,
IMO. Thank you for sharing your story.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 02-11-08 08:51am
Did the police find out? What ever
happened to the man? What is the reason
you didn't tell anyone right away? Were
you afraid because he threatened you?