A Mother's Empathy

Thankfully no. I can say with no problem My children come before anyone or anything in this world. I can't understand any mother who doesn't feel the same way.

i was just in that situation wed night thru thur afternoon with my destiny she had a bulging eardrum and wouldnt stop crying/screaming and i couldnt do anything to make her pain go away its heartbreaking. my kids are my weverything my air my life.

Sounds like my b/f :/ He only has empathy for our son when its convienant for him. >< I don't understand ppl like that and it hurts to see anyone with a child and not do w/e it takes to make them feel better.

I cried so hard when Jay got her shots

I can ignore her hungry cry and colicky cry, those don't upset me. But when she's in pain, man oh man ;-;

Thanks for the responses, ladies. Seeing parents who don't do everything in their power to ease their children's suffering breaks my heart.

Working with children and teens that have been removed from their family's homes because of abuse, I have seen and heard of some terrible things that people have done to their children. It really sickens me.

Then the family members come to visit and we are expected to be sweet and understanding of their loss. Blah

Every new parent goes through a learning curve, but it amazes me how some people simply can't see the difference between right and wrong.

Thomas's mom is exactly like that. She babysits Dante's cousin whose 6 months old, and he spends the whole day either in his car seat or in a swing. She will only hold him when he's being chaned or fed. Even then sh'll tell him to shut up when he starts to cry. She can stand there and llisten to him cry for hours. Its really sickening.Thomas and I have said stuff to her about it, but she says she knows how to raise kids cuz she had five boys.

If she was such a great parent, all her kids wouldnt have dropped out of hs.

She is not allowed to watch Dante unless Thomas is there.

"Self soothing" and letting their kids "cry it out" is complete bull. If a baby cries, they do it for a reason. I think it's child neglect.

me too

LOL no! I meant when she's crying for food or when she's up all nigh I can block it out and not get upset. I don't sit there and let her cry, I get her bottle!

Some people can just sit there and not fix the problem. They make excuses. It sickens me.

it depends if its something silly like falling over lol. if so they will run to you all the time. they use it against you grrrr lol

but if they actually have seriously hurt themselvs or arnt well. mummys ere to help

wow...this post seems like it's indirectly directed at someone in specific...

I KNOW ther are people out there that neglect their children. But there are also people out there that don't have the means to get what they need.

i.e, a car, money, husband/boyfriend, etc...

Sarah

I don't like judging people's parenting, but there are some people that have NO REASON being a parent.

My friend (Sam) is being nice enough to let her brother and his girlfriend (Jen) stay at her house. She has a 10mo old and Jen has a 4mo old. The 4mo old is either in her swing or carseat, and EVERY time she cries, Jen just pops a bottle in her mouth and leaves it there. She'll eat almost 16oz each time, then she won't even change her when her diaper is wet, so it leaks all over her clothes and carseat, and of course those never get clean. She was there for 2 weeks and that baby never ONCE got a bath. Sam offered a million times to get the baby bath out, but Jen refused saying 'oh, she'll be fine'. GRR. Plus, Jen gets food stamps, WIC, AND cash assistance, but eats all of Sam's food AND uses SAM'S baby formula AND cereal. She puts it in her bottle so she sleeps better at night.

I know there's worse, but I just can't stand when people NEVER hold their baby, not even to feed them. How can someone even do that? I don't understand some people.

I admit I am not as vigilant with my second child. The other day she fell off her tike head first and I didn't sprint out to get her, but I did hurry. I just worry a lot less now. I think it's probably because some bad owies have really happened ie skull fractures, concussions, etc and I dealt with those just fine so I nnknow frantic worry is unnecessary to help them with whatever owie they are having at the time. I still worry, just not obsessively. One thing Hannah has taught me is that you are not in charge of anything when you have kids, no matter how much you think you are!

I see your overall point, but falling head first? I'd rush out there at the speed of light.

Anyway, that's a little different than what I am trying to get at. By empathy I mean feeling your child's pain. Not exactly or literally, but more than just sympathizing.

If a child is sick or hurt, they are suffering. An empathetic mother will know that her child is suffering, and do anything in her power to ease the pain.