is it wrong to want my bf bac after he
dumped me when i told him i was expecting?
I know he is scared and I hope that over
time he will change his mind. But all my
friends and fam think i am crazy for still
loving him....am I?
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softerxsin
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jan 2008 Posts: 133 Location: ,
Posted: 02-11-08 16:23pm
No you just can't stop loving someone even
if they hurt you badly.
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Ayrshire-lass
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 656 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland
Posted: 02-11-08 16:41pm
ok im soo sorry i hope everything gets
better.
im alone as well its realy tough but
always keep in contact with your friends
and family the'll help alot
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falafal4ever81
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2007 Posts: 79
Posted: 03-02-08 15:05pm
im sorry to hear you are going through
tough times. unfortunatly your heart cant
be turned off like a switch. i think it is
sad that he freaked out like that, and if
the only reason he left was because you
are pregnant than that guy needs a wake up
call. wether you are together or apart, he
is still the daddy and you are still
having a baby. the only thing he is
accomplishing is creating a whole lot of
headaches and problems. he cant run from
this problem. if there is other legitamate
reasons for him leaving then it is
probably in your best interest. you should
never stay together for a child, raising a
baby in a house full of resentment is not
good for that little one, especially if
the feelings are directed at it.... thats
how a lot of abuse starts.
i hope things work out for you, it will
take time and talking but things will be
ok in the end.
best of luck
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lonestarguy
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 592 Location: , Hoosierland, USA
Thanks: 10
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Posted: 03-02-08 15:56pm
The advice above is good. Men sometimes
get cold feet when they are first faced
with responsibility. It's not wrong to
still love him, even if he has abandoned
you. He is still the baby's father and
always will be. Love doesn't just
disappear when he leaves.
It does take time to get over the hurt of
losing your love, but it does get easier.
Your baby should be the focus now because
it will need your full attention. Have you
considered whether you want to keep the
baby or are you willing to raise it
yourself?
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jessamyn
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Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 03-04-08 11:52am
I think you just want the life you know
back, which is totally normal! In my
personal opinion... a man who chooses to
and cannot be there from the begining
doesnt deserve to be there at all! Dont
let him be part time in your life its all
or nothing...
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z8NeonGenesis
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2008 Posts: 58
Posted: 03-05-08 06:12am
jessamyn
wrote:
I think you just want the
life you know back, which is totally
normal! In my personal opinion... a man
who chooses to and cannot be there from
the begining doesnt deserve to be there at
all! Dont let him be part time in your
life its all or
nothing...
I somewhat agree with this, as a male i
think that if another male can be like
that towards women even if he was scared
then that is quite shallow, i mean having
a baby is one of the most exciting
prospects a woman and man can face and is
nothing to be scared about.
Hope things go well for u and
congratulations
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hannahgrace
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 1 Location: ,
Posted: 03-25-08 14:54pm
Its hard. I'm going through the same
thing. I was with the guy for the better
part of 3 years. I just have to remind
myself it's nothing I did. It's his
weakness. There are men out there who
won't abandon a woman as soon as things
get serious, and this is serious. You
deserve someone to really love you. It's
hard now but you're better off. I know I
am.
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Lafi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Apr 2008 Posts: 2
should i leave him? Posted: 04-07-08 22:37pm
Hi,
I am almost 2 months pregnant and Im
thinkin about leaving my boyfriend. He
wants the baby, but he is so immature and
doesnt try to support me emotionally at
all. He is trying to find a job, so
between interviews he is at home, I just
started working a day after I found out I
was expecting about a month ago. The thing
is, that im quite stressed recently, and I
know It should be mostly because of the
hormones, but Im not sure. what my bf is
doing is, staying at home watching
basketball leaving all the cleaning and
housework to me. I leave to work around
7am and get home after 7, and by this time
I usually really tired, sometimes I go to
bed around 9. He never even made me
dinner. And during the weekends when we
could finally be together, he leaves
around noon and comes back around 9 pm,
cuz he wants to play basketball with his
friends and then have dinner with them.
Ohh, and sometimes it seems as if he was
the one pregnant, cuz he gets pissed off
so quickly if its about me, and he is
complaingin me not loving him ebnough, and
taking care of him as before.... Yes, he
was quite spoiled. So Im getting fed up
with the whole situation, its just even
mre scary, cuz Im abroad and only have 1-2
friends here. COuld u give me some advise?
I dont know if i should leave him, or just
move out first, and move in with other
foreigners, or just leave him and go home.
I havent even told anyone that Im
pregnant.
its realy tough but
always keep in contact with your friends
and family the'll help alot
