Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 649 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland
Best Friend Dating Someone Else Posted: 02-11-08 17:17pm
hay as a topic i posted like ages ago. im
currently preg with my best buds baby. i
just found out
he started going out with someone
how the hell can i cope with that
watching him all the time all over her.
its soo heart braking
what do i do??
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ladyT02
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Posted: 02-11-08 19:33pm
hey i remember reading your post. it
sounded like everything was gonna go ok.
but from what your saying it seems like
hes the type of guy that yea he'll be
there financially and emotionally for you
(because you guys are JUST friends) but he
feels that he has the right to make his
own life with other people.
your getting attached to him because you
thought that he would magically fall for
you and suddenly turn into mr.mom just
because you ended up prego. when its
between friends and that happens it rarely
turns into anything more.
if i were in your situation, and mind you
this is my own opinion i would have the
baby, but i would end the friendship with
him. cut off all contact, go to court and
gain full custody of the child and give it
my last name. shoot if i had to move i
would. if you stuck around it would only
get worst emotionally for you and your
kid.
obviously and im not taking the guys side,
he has the right to date other people just
like you have that right as well. because
you were just friends hun. im sorry your
goin through this but its better to face
the reality straight on than to try to
change someone
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ladyT02
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Posted: 02-11-08 19:37pm
oh yea, you should deffinately get child
support from him. i wouldnt do the whole
visitation rights thing cause it would be
better off not seeing him or interacting
with him.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-14-08 09:37am
ladyT02
wrote:
oh yea, you should
deffinately get child support from him. i
wouldnt do the whole visitation rights
thing cause it would be better off not
seeing him or interacting with
him.
She can't do that (As far
as I know) if the man or boy pays child
support he has a right to see the child
unless for some reason the judge says he
may not. If he doesn't pay, he doesn't see
the kid.
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Seraph
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Posted: 02-14-08 09:44am
That is not right...not right at all...
He should be there for you all the way.
This child is just as much his
responsibility as it is yours...
Sorry, I know you still care for him but
really...it just aint right...what a Jerk.
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lats
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Joined: 25 Feb 2007 Posts: 64 Location: New Zealand
Posted: 02-22-08 21:16pm
I may have missed something coz i thought
he was happy about the baby and it just
seems that he just doesnt think of you in
the way that you think of him although it
might do some good if you actually talk
about your friendship and where he thinks
its going.....
Im not sure why the above post thinks hes
a jerk and stuff - Im sure if he knew how
you felt he wouldnt flaunt his gf and even
if he doesnt feel the same way it might be
best to lead separate lives (apart from
sharing the child of course). Unless you
feel you could handle a friendship where
he does see people - which im sure you
would be fine with if you didnt have a
thing for him so in his eyes hes not doing
any wrong.
So yeah just try talking to him and it may
turn out that he does have feelings for
you - goodluck!
Oh and I dont agree with previous posters
(unless i have missed something) that you
should make your baby have no father and
just expect him to pay child support just
cause he has a gf - if he wants to be
ahealthy influence and father to your baby
then let him (and im sure you'd understand
as im sure youd give anything to give your
first son his father back)
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ladyT02
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Posted: 02-24-08 21:48pm
i meant if she can raise the baby on her
own(cause the guy is showing hes a jerk
and wants nothing to do with both of them)
then she should. of cours if he wants to
be there for her and the kid he has all
the right to do so. just like if he doesnt
want to be there he should atleast pay
child support, he cant get off scott free.
i agree with melissa that if he doesnt pay
and wants nothing to do with her and the
baby then he cant see them.
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