homerx
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Does being gay run in your family?
Posted: 02-11-08 20:04pm
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Do you have gay siblings and you are gay
also? Cousins? Aunts? Uncles? Does it run
in your family? Is it hereditary?
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Posted: 02-12-08 12:29pm
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not sure, I have two cousins who are
lesbians and I tend to lean towards
bisexuality. Not sure you can say that its
hereditary though - what is the proof?
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Posted: 02-12-08 12:41pm
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I don't have any proof, I was just
curious.I have 2 gay cousins, a lesbian
cousin and a trans aunt. I have heard that
it did and I was watching LOGO the other
night and there was this family of 6 kids
and 5 of them were gay or lesbian. I just
thought it was interesting and decided to
take a poll..
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MikeH90
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Posted: 02-12-08 12:51pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | I don't have any proof, I
was just curious.I have 2 gay cousins, a
lesbian cousin and a trans aunt. I have
heard that it did and I was watching LOGO
the other night and there was this family
of 6 kids and 5 of them were gay or
lesbian. I just thought it was interesting
and decided to take a poll.. |
I've always felt that your born with it,
that you don't choose it, it chooses you.
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homerx
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Posted: 02-12-08 13:20pm
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Yeah, definitely. I was born gay, no doubt
about it. 
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MikeH90
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Posted: 02-12-08 13:59pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | Yeah, definitely. I was born
gay, no doubt about it. |
Your born with it but it may take awhile
for you to realize it and then inform
others. That leaves most of them to think
that you chose it IMO.
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Posted: 02-12-08 14:02pm
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I never thought of it that way...that
really makes a lot of since!
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Posted: 02-12-08 14:48pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | I never thought of it that
way...that really makes a lot of
since! |
What you "chose" is when you accept it and
when you tell people. But its already been
pre-determined IMO.
So when did you chose to
accept/acknowledge it?
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Posted: 02-12-08 15:03pm
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When I was 16 I came out to my family but
I always new. I was born gay and have
always been gay because ever since I had
my first crush it was on a boy at school
and I have never been in love or had sex
or strong feelings for a girl...although I
love them I am not attracted to them
mentally or physically.
How about you?
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Posted: 02-12-08 15:48pm
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| homerx
wrote: | When I was 16 I came out to
my family but I always new. I was born gay
and have always been gay because ever
since I had my first crush it was on a boy
at school and I have never been in love or
had sex or strong feelings for a
girl...although I love them I am not
attracted to them mentally or physically.
How about you? |
When I was like 10 or 11 I was attracted
to a couple of neighborhood boys that I
played with. But it was around freshman
year in highschool when I was in gym class
watching the other guys change that I
wondered why I was staring at them. I
dated girls and all, was attracted to them
as well but there was still the highly
charged feelings of seeing a naked guy. To
this day I still like looking at gay porn
even though I am married, attracted and
totally in love with my wife.
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Posted: 02-13-08 13:14pm
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I guess that makes you bi...does your wife
know?
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Posted: 02-13-08 13:41pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | I guess that makes you
bi...does your wife
know? |
no.
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Posted: 02-13-08 13:51pm
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Don't know my family history past my
grandmothers, but in the current
generation my daughter is BI, 2 nephews
(brothers) are gay. We suspected about 1
nephew when he was a toddler. I just
found out about the other. One is out to
parents, other isn't. Parents are real
jerks about it all. I found out about my
daughter by accident. She hasn't come out
to me, but it doesn't matter. I'd love
her any way she was.
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Posted: 02-13-08 14:04pm
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| bakin_april
wrote: | | Don't know my family history
past my grandmothers, but in the current
generation my daughter is BI, 2 nephews
(brothers) are gay. We suspected about 1
nephew when he was a toddler. I just
found out about the other. One is out to
parents, other isn't. Parents are real
jerks about it all. I found out about my
daughter by accident. She hasn't come out
to me, but it doesn't matter. I'd love
her any way she
was. |
I wish you were my parent!... It is so
refreshing to hear pure love is still
alive and that some parents are able to
love there kids no matter who they fall in
love with.   We could use more
like you on this planet.
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Posted: 02-13-08 14:12pm
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I can't understand how you can love a
child and alienate them at the same
time??!!
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Posted: 02-13-08 15:04pm
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Me either...it is so sad and unnecessary.
I know if I had a child I would have to
love him or her no matter what there
sexuality, after all, it isn't something
you choose, its just who you are..I
believe sexuality is innate and being gay
or bi or trans or straight doesn't make
you a good or bad person, that comes from
the heart. There is good and bad in
everyone and who you love and who you are
attracted to has nothing to do with it.
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Posted: 02-13-08 15:48pm
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BTW, my daughter and nephews are the sole
children of their generation in the
family. I find that to be interesting.
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Posted: 02-13-08 15:54pm
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| bakin_april
wrote: | | BTW, my daughter and nephews
are the sole children of their generation
in the family. I find that to be
interesting. |
Really? That is interesting indeed! 
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Posted: 02-20-08 11:55am
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I have two cousins that are gay - one is
lesbian, the other is gay - also, they are
mother/son.
Mother had two kids previously before
coming out and dating women. Her son just
came out recently.
From there, not sure who else is gay/bi in
my family.
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Posted: 02-20-08 12:14pm
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Mother and son...that is interesting...and
kind of cool that they are both out and
open with each other.
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