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Posted: 02-20-08 12:17pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | Mother and son...that is
interesting...and kind of cool that they
are both out and open with each
other. |
Indeed. The thought never really occured
to me until I was talking with someone
online, and then it clicked.
I believe my sister-in-law's brother is
gay as well. I have only met him once
(pretty cute looking if I recall  ).
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Posted: 02-20-08 12:20pm
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I hear ya...I had a cousin and when we
were younger...well, we were close if you
know what I mean... 
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JYoungBear
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Posted: 02-20-08 12:27pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | I hear ya...I had a cousin
and when we were younger...well, we were
close if you know what I mean... |
can't say I was really too close with any
cousins. In all reality, the closest I
have ever been to anyone was my first
boyfriend.
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Posted: 02-20-08 12:45pm
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Nothin' wrong with that...
I have a cousin that is a lesbian and my
nephew is gay and I had a tans aunt...my
family shunned her and I only met her once
but I remember I really thought she was
glamorous and sweet. She lived in an
apartment in West Hollywood and always
smiled and dressed to the 9s and had a
great attitude. I think she finally died
from lung cancer...although I didn't
really know her, I felt a connection.
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Fairy*Godmother
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I vote............
Posted: 02-20-08 12:54pm
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NO.....From what I have read and this all
makes sense, you are born with a certain
gene that "kinda dictates" your sexuality.
Its has something to do with neurons,
although I am not sure what. I have a lot
of friends that are gay, and I do not
recall anyone else in their families that
are gay....or will admit to it. Its not
like its a disease or something. Its
sexual preferance.....being gay does not
change who you are. And I also believe its
no one elses business........Its how you
treat others in this life that matters!
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Re: I vote............
Posted: 02-20-08 13:28pm
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| Fairy*Godmother
wrote: | | NO.....From what I have read
and this all makes sense, you are born
with a certain gene that "kinda dictates"
your sexuality. Its has something to do
with neurons, although I am not sure what.
I have a lot of friends that are gay, and
I do not recall anyone else in their
families that are gay....or will admit to
it. Its not like its a disease or
something. Its sexual preferance.....being
gay does not change who you are. And I
also believe its no one elses
business........Its how you treat others
in this life that
matters! |
Thats true also...if you treat others with
respect then you should be treated with
respect. But I do not think it is a
preference. I think its innate. I know I
didn't choose to be gay, I just am. 
With the way the world is, why would any
one chose to be discriminated against? I
was born gay just like a straight person
is born straight.  
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Posted: 02-20-08 14:05pm
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Whether or not it is a hereditary
characteristic, wouldn't it be conceivable
that growing up knowing that members of
your family are gay/lesbian/bi, influence
one's own sexual preferences. Thus, the
unusual coincidences of there being few to
several gay/lesbians within the family
(not necessarily immediate family), is
attributed because they've influenced each
other?
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Posted: 02-20-08 14:19pm
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| Mikolas
wrote: | | Whether or not it is a
hereditary characteristic, wouldn't it be
conceivable that growing up knowing that
members of your family are gay/lesbian/bi,
influence one's own sexual preferences.
Thus, the unusual coincidences of there
being few to several gay/lesbians within
the family (not necessarily immediate
family), is attributed because they've
influenced each
other? |
But if that were the case there wouldn't
be gay people because we are influenced
mostly by our parents and most all of us
had straight parents. I didn't know I had
gay relatives until I was grown and out
myself. My cousin didn't come out till she
was in her mid 20s and she was married to
a man at the time. I think that if people
are influenced by other peoples sexuality
then there would be no GLBT people...we
would all be straight. Thats what we learn
in school, thats what we see at home. And
you cant be influenced to be attracted to
someone, if you could I would be straight.
Thats what my family wanted and both my
brothers are straight yet I am gay so I
guess its a mystery. 
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Posted: 02-21-08 11:20am
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Me being gay made my family closer. They
kind of look out for me more. I have three
younger brothers and they couldn't be
happier for me. When I told them that I
was gay (when I was about 20 or so), they
were mad that I was so nervous to tell
them... like, seriously, they were pissed
because I should never ever be nervous to
tell them anything. My mom was so excited
when I told her. The first thing she said
was "I know". She knew all along and loved
it.
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Posted: 02-21-08 11:33am
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You are one lucky guy....you really are. I
was told that maybe I was sick and needed
a psychiatrist...I came out at 16 and
certain members of my family still have a
problem with it...but its there problem
not mine. I love me, I love being gay, I
love life and I love love...gay or
straight or whatever...love is love.
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Posted: 02-21-08 12:38pm
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| homerx
wrote: | | You are one lucky guy....you
really are. I was told that maybe I was
sick and needed a psychiatrist...I came
out at 16 and certain members of my family
still have a problem with it...but its
there problem not mine. I love me, I love
being gay, I love life and I love
love...gay or straight or whatever...love
is love. |
That, in my opinion, is the best way to
be.
I am sure my mother at least notices,
since I am the one that has had the least
girlfriends compared to my older brothers.
My mother has asked me numerous times,
and each time I denied it.
I am sure some family members will have a
problem with it. I have heard one of my
brothers use the dreaded f-word (and not
the 4-letter one either) quite freely,
which makes me a bit nervous. But that is
a part of me gaining the courage to
finally announce to my family that I am in
fact, gay, and be able to take the
response that follows.
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Posted: 02-21-08 12:42pm
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I hear you. People are very complex. My
older brother was a big fan of saying
sissy and f** and queer and all that B.S.
He doesn't any more,at least not in front
of me. Maybe its because I could kick his
ass now and he knows it!!
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Posted: 02-21-08 13:28pm
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Well, I wasn't stating that would be the
only cause, but if it could be a factor =/
It can't be all genetics can it?
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Posted: 02-21-08 13:34pm
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I wouldn't think so...is being straight
all genetics? Its hard to tell where
genetics start and end... all I know is I
am gay and I didn't choose it, it chose
me.
And I wouldn't have it any other way
now...when i was young it was hard because
most teenage kids are cruel and heartless
and don't even try to understand
differences in people..if your not one of
them and one of the cool kids then you
must be a loser or something. But its all
good. Most of those people I went to high
school with are still stuck in there
little town, had to get married because
they didn't know the meaning of safe sex
and are married and divorced and fat and
unhappy so I guess high school didn't
mater, it wasn't the real world. Its all
good!
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Posted: 02-21-08 22:12pm
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I don't think it's 100% genetics. I think
people are genetically predisposed to be
gay depending on their surroundings and
how they're raised, while some people are
gay from the second their born, no
questions asked. It's such a complex issue
that it's almost not worth trying to
figure out. Live and let live whether it's
genetic, socialised or a combo of both.
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Posted: 02-21-08 22:14pm
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PS: Funny story. I totally thought that
the the poll said "Does being gay ruin
families". hahahahahaa.
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Posted: 02-26-08 02:36am
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my father, my brother, and myself all are
bi, we never told each other and we never
knew about each other until just recently.
It was kinda weird. I came out, then my
bro was like, me too! ... and then my dad
informed us that he was too... and had a
bf. needless to say, my mother is not
happy and she is intent on destroying all
three of us to the furthest extent
possible that she can get away with.
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Posted: 02-26-08 11:52am
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Oh man....I think your dad should have let
your mom know in private and actually
before they ever got married...!Yikes!
Thats a bombshell!
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Posted: 02-26-08 11:54am
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wrote: | | I don't think it's 100%
genetics. I think people are genetically
predisposed to be gay depending on their
surroundings and how they're raised, while
some people are gay from the second their
born, no questions asked. It's such a
complex issue that it's almost not worth
trying to figure out. Live and let live
whether it's genetic, socialised or a
combo of
both. |
Live and Let Live has always been my
philosophy 2.! 
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