Little Help (advice) Needed Posted: 05-03-04 20:47pm
Hey,
i was wondering if I could get some
advice.
I'm an 18 year old male and i'm very
active. Run a lot, eat pretty healthy,
etc...
Here's my problem. Last year I had mono
pretty badly, and I was with this girl (i
think she might have given it to me). I
had never really had a sexual experience
before, never gone below the belt. But
with her, she started rubbing me over my
pants and nothing happened. I'm not sure
what the problem was, I could have been
sick, it could have been the fact that I
wasn't really happy with the relationship.
It could have been anything. Since then
i've been really worried about performing,
worried that when it comes to kind of
sexual activity that I won't be able to
perform.
So now i'm with my new girlfriend, and i'm
really attracted to her. And when we kiss
if we're just hanging out, it's fine I get
an erection. Like sometimes I get one if
we're just sitting there in each other's
arms (i know it sounds corny).
But, when it gets to the point where it
could become really sexual. It's like I
just can't do anything. I can't get it
up. I just think about it too much, and
it seems like it just won't happen.
I don't have a problem masterbaiting. I
can get myself hard and go for like 30
minutes (longer or shorter if I need to)
on my own. I can do it many times in one
day. But there are times when I am with
her I just can't do it.
My father always says with the right
person and at the right time it will be
alright, and I know that with my last
girlfriend it was the wrong person. Well
i've found the right person now, but i'm
still worried.
What do you make of this? Do I have a
problem? Or do I just have to relax and
try not to think so hard about it?
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quikplatinum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2003 Posts: 12
Posted: 05-04-04 05:42am
You're stressing way too much, that has a
huge effect on your erection. Remember
that sex is suppose to be a moment between
you two where you will pleasure each
other. She obviously can't do this if
you're stressing and you wont be able to
either.. Just relax, let things flow into
sex ... You said that you get it up when
it's nothing serious... If you flow from
"unserious" to "serious" without thinking
about it, it will happen easily...
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-04-04 06:47am
Exactly. If you worry about it then it
won't happen. You said she is the "right
person" o.K then. Obviously you two
care about each other. So relax, you are
not going to "do anything wrong" in her
eyes. Just enjoy each other and let it
flow. Don't rush or pressure yourself,
or her, and it will happen.
