I had the perfect idea.. I am going to
introduce myself.. since I never really
did... My name is Cayla.. I am 19 my
birthday is JUne 25 i am 21 weeks and 1
day pregnant.. with my first child. who is
due 2 days before my birthday.. I live at
home with my mother and stepfather and
little brother.. My ex/ not ex boyfriend
and I are really always at odds.. and I
just feel bad cause he has already tried
to kill himself cause I broke up with him
once.. So i don't want him to do it again.
There are two possibilites to who my
babies dad is and neither one of them
care.. So it looks like besides my parents
I am on my own.
no your not you have your parents and the
girls here for support hun
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:34pm
Wow hun, that sounds rough. Do both the
possible dads know about each other. Is
you ex/not ex bf one of the possible dads?
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Rise_Above
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:35pm
nice to meet you! my name is krista! no
kids for now but hopefully in the future.
i am a sophmore and live with my parents
in chicago. no siblings either.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:36pm
yea.. they both know about each other and
no... it is not him.. But i just got an
email telling me he has a gun.. and all
that.. waving it around.. saying if he can
not have me no more then he might as well
die.. I don't want to be with him...but..
I don't want that on my mind either...
what do i do?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:39pm
Call the police. That's not a relationship
you want to be in, and if he's emotionally
blackmailing you into being with him,
it'll never last. Call the police and tell
his parents, or your parents, or both.
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Rise_Above
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:43pm
that stinks about your boyfriend. i would
call someone who can help him get through
it in a healthy way
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:46pm
three problems One my parents could not
care less.. they would hope he does it two
his grandparents are out of town with no
phone and three..I have no clue where he
is/
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Rise_Above
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Posted: 02-12-08 20:51pm
maybe if you call the police and they can
look? they can probably run a search on
his computer or something right?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-12-08 21:02pm
He's obviously near a computer if he's
emailing you. The way I see it, this could
go one of two ways.
1. He's playing you. He wants to be with
you, and figures the only way to get you
to be with HIM is to threaten to kill
himself. He'll probably have to keep doing
this every time you guys have a fight, and
let's face it - there's no room for
manipulation and head games in love.
or
2. He's serious about killing himself if
he can't be with you. If this is true, he
probably has a mental or chemical
imbalance, and there isn't much you can do
to help that. You're not a professional,
and just simply being with him will not
solve the problem. He needs to be treated
by a doctor.
In both situations, there's not much you
can do except take a step back and try to
help him in a realistic way. Neither
situation are of your doing - they're of
his. I suggest calling the police and
asking them what they think you should do.
They might ask you for his IP (and would
probably help you find it if you didn't
know how) or might ask for his family's
contact information. It's worth a shot.
They can help you better than we can.
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 02-13-08 02:32am
good idea introducing yourself Im morgan, 22 with
a 5yr old (5 in 2 weeks ahhhh!) his "sperm
donor dad* has never been in his life. I
was in a similar situation before I was
pregnant as you. One of my ex's was just
like how your bf sounds! threatened to
kill himself and all this crazy stuff, he
would stalk me and phone all the time, sit
in his car outside my parents house for
hours, call me in the middle of the night
saying his mum kicked him out so he was
sleeping on the streets etc etc and like
an fool I would believe him. I felt really
guilty and would let him talk to me and
stuff but they become so posessive
thinking they own you, you wont be happy
in that type of relationship. I think its
best to walk away. I kept threatening to
go to the police about him, and eventually
I did. -Well *he thought* I did, him
seeing me go into the police station when
he was following me one time, was enough
to make him leave me alone. So you could
try that, hopefully its enough for him to
know you're serious about breaking up with
him...if not then you can tell the cops
and they will speak to him for you. Ive
been there too but thats another story.
Im morgan, 22 with
a 5yr old (5 in 2 weeks ahhhh!) his "sperm
donor dad* has never been in his life. I
was in a similar situation before I was
pregnant as you. One of my ex's was just
like how your bf sounds! threatened to
kill himself and all this crazy stuff, he
would stalk me and phone all the time, sit
in his car outside my parents house for
hours, call me in the middle of the night
saying his mum kicked him out so he was
sleeping on the streets etc etc and like
an fool I would believe him. I felt really
guilty and would let him talk to me and
stuff but they become so posessive
thinking they own you, you wont be happy
in that type of relationship. I think its
best to walk away. I kept threatening to
go to the police about him, and eventually
I did. -Well *he thought* I did, him
seeing me go into the police station when
he was following me one time, was enough
to make him leave me alone. So you could
try that, hopefully its enough for him to
know you're serious about breaking up with
him...if not then you can tell the cops
and they will speak to him for you. Ive
been there too but thats another story.