how to know it's the right time Posted: 02-13-08 10:26am
I am going to tell all and ask for honest
opinions,good or bad,for or against.All I
ask is that people be understanding and
not be rude please.
Okay.Here I go...
I am 19 years old, I'll be 20 in March.I
am engaged to a 20 year old named Austin
and he's definitely my best friend and I
couldn't have picked anyone that would be
more compatable.I have a full time
job,insurance,401k,and I invest in stocks.
He has a part-time job that will
eventually lead to full-time in the near
future.Combined, we bring home about
$2,500 a month.
We live with his parents to save money as
of right now so we can get on our feet and
be able to make it out there without
living from paycheck to paycheck.
Okay, so here's the burning question;
We both feel really strongly about having
a family while we're still pretty young.We
know we want children, but we also know
that it won't be easy and it'll take alot
of sacrifice.My question is when do you
know it's the "right time"?Everyone has
always told me that it doesn't matter how
prepared you think you are that you can
never really prepare for a child.So does
when you start a family affect how
successful it will be?Sometimes I find
myself craving a family now but I talk
myself down from it because of things
people say to me,telling me to wait and
that I'm too young.Something so strongly
though, keeps telling me it's the right
time and I just want some validation or
helpful opinions I suppose.Is now the
right time?Should I give into my urges to
start a family or exercise my will
power?If I shouldn't try right now then
when?What steps should I be taking to
assure myself of when it's the right
time?I just want a healthy,happy
environment to raise my future children &
I believe being a mother is the most
stressful,difficult,but amazing job & gift
in the world.
Feel free to ask me any questions you've
got to help give more accurate
advice.Thanks.
-Melissa
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 02-22-08 11:55am
Hi Melissa,
That is a really hard question to answer.
I'm not sure anyone can tell you when the
"right time" is. It's something that you
just know for yourself. You know when you
are mentally and emotionally ready for
another person to be 100% completely
dependant on you 24-7. Only you know if
you have the means (income) to support
that life, as well as yourself. Only you
know if you living arrangements are
suitable for newlyweds with a baby.
I really wish I could give you some real
advice, but all I can tell you is to think
of your furture children. If you are
truely ready to have children, you stop
thinking of you and start thinking of
them. Are you in the position to give them
everything you feel they deserve?
I wish you all the best in the world with
making this decision. It's a big choice.
