Would a foot fetish ruin my life Posted: 02-14-08 16:38pm
I am a 42 yr old male, single father of 2
young girls, 11 and 13. Since like the 9th
grade, I have had an obvious attraction to
the female foot. I have pretty much kept
my attraction, or fetish, to myself, as
many would find this a bit strange.
I was married for over 12 years to the
mother of my children. She was very much
on the straight and narrow and would of
considered a foot fetish something very,
very screwed up.
4 years ago, I left my marriage and became
a single father for my 2 girls and they
are my life. For the past 3 1/2 years, I
have had a girl friend who is VERY much
open sexually and although she found my
fetish very different, she had no issues
sharing it. She is a very sexy lady too.
We had one of these " love/ hate"
relationships and split a few times over
many issues. During one of what I called
our " mini splits", I went on a foot
fetish forum site. A site where guys send
stories, pictures and links to anything to
do with the female foot ( legal
disclaimers of over 18 too) My girlfriend
actually new about that site years before,
just hated me on it and said there was no
need for it, as obviously I get all I need
at home, right?
One of the submissions from that site
talked about another forum site to look
at, called " studentfeet.com". Since I
didn't want to type it in my address bar,
I googled it. It had pictures, postings
and pretty much everything the other site
had. My problem here is that one day
recently my gf looked at my google
searches and seen the website.
The next was a freak show. She stormed to
my ex-wife, went to the police and made a
report and now after the dust cleared
(there was no illegal underage conduct), I
lost a relationship out of the ordeal and
I'm devastated. She claimed that when she
looked on that site, it had girls on it
(showing their feet) and they were
basically my oldest daughters age. She, by
the way, also has 3 teenage girls herself.
My question here is, even though I have
NEVER looked at my girls feet,any of their
friends or any child in a sexual way, is
my fetish dangerous in the future. Is the
sexual side of my admiration or fetish
that my gf shared with me,a threat in some
way? I lost a relationship over this and
now my family and my ex-wife also must
wonder about what this is all about. Do I
need some real therapy here? My gf, or
apparently now my ex, considers me a quote
" closet child pervert".
Any suggestions would be appreciated here,
especially a woman's perspective.
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Cicatriz
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Im a 18 year old nieve kid Posted: 02-15-08 05:23am
But to each its own?
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Rosie H
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Posted: 02-15-08 14:36pm
I dont think there is anything wrong with
you and I think that its a shame for your
ex to tell you you were a child
pervert....that is just wrong. You sound
like a great father who has been there for
your kids through all of this...
I feel that your fetish is completely
normal and healthy. A LOT of people share
this fetish. I think you need to find a
women that shares your fetish and that
will be more open and willing to make you
happy. Like I said this is nothing to be
ashamed about or feel bad about. You arent
doing anything to harm your kids,
yourself, or your girlfriend. If your
fetish interferred with your life or
harmed anyone then I would say you have
something to worry about.
There is a women out there to share your
fetish with that wont make you feel like
you are doing something wrong. I am sorry
someone already has made you feel bad.
