Can you tell the difference between a guy
who really likes you and a guy who is
just not that into you?
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Excerpt from 'He's Just Not That Into
You'
By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Chapter One: he's just not that into you
if he's not asking you out
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will
ask you out
Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run
the world." Wow. That makes us sound
pretty capable. So tell me, why would you
think we could be incapable of something
as simple as picking up the phone and
asking you out? You seem to think at times
that we're "too shy" or we "just got out
of something." Let me remind you: Men find
it very satisfying to get what they want.
(Particularly after a difficult day of
running the world.) If we want you, we
will find you. If you don't think you gave
him enough time to notice you, take the
time it took you to notice him and divide
it by half.
Now you begin the life-changing experience
of reading our book. We have put the
stories we have heard and questions we've
been asked in a simple question-and-answer
format. If you're lucky, you'll read the
following questions and know what they
are: Excuses that women have made for
their unsatisfying situations. If you're
not so lucky, we've also included handy
titles to clue you in.
The "Maybe He Doesn't Want to Ruin the
Friendship" Excuse
Dear Greg,
I'm so disappointed. I have this friend
that I've known platonically for about ten
years. He lives in a different city and
recently he was in town for work, so we
met for dinner. All of a sudden it felt
like we were on a date. He was completely
flirting with me. He even said to me, as
he was checking me out, "So, what, you're
working the whole 'model thing' now?"
(That's flirting, right?) We both agreed
that we should get together again soon.
Well, Greg, I'm disappointed because it's
been two weeks and he hasn't called me.
Can I call him? He might be nervous about
turning the friendship into romance. Can't
I give him a nudge now? Isn't that what
friends are for?
Jodi
Dear Friendly Girl,
Two weeks is two weeks, except when it's
ten years and two weeks. That's how long
ago he decided whether or not he could
date a model or a girl who looks like one.
Can you be a pal and give him a nudge?
Nudge away, friendster — but watch how
fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone
call. And if your dinner/date did feel
different to him, it's been two weeks and
he's had time to think about it and decide
he's just not that into you. Here's the
truth: Guys don't mind messing up a
friendship if it could lead to sex,
whether it be a "(expletive) buddy"
situation or a meaningful romance. Go find
someone that lives in your zip code who
will be rocked to the core by your deep
conversation and model looks.
I hate to tell you, but that whole "I
don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse
is a racket. It works so well because it
seems so wise. Sex could mess up a
friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire
history of mankind, that excuse has never
ever been used by someone who actually
means it. If we're really excited about
someone, we can't stop ourselves — we
want more. If we're friends with someone
and attracted to them, we're going to want
to take it further. And please, don't tell
me he's just "scared." The only thing he's
scared of — and I say this with a lot of
love — is how not attracted to you he
is.
