collegegirlie
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I want to orgasm
Posted: 02-15-08 15:22pm
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orgasm so badly. I have seen afew posts
about this problem but had to make one of
my own...
I am 19 and my bf and i have been together
sence i was 14. I love him and NO im not
tired of him.
He makes me orgasm GREAT and quickly
through oral sex but i just haven't done
it threw intercourse.
I have heard that usually this is
psychosematic (sp?) and I think in my case
it is. (atleast im admitting it. Thats the
first step!) What am i doing and how do i
fix it?
Yes I get nervous and I think...
"What if i dont do it?"
"Oh he will be so upset"
"Great now I can tell he is getting tired
of me taking forever...."
"Its so sweet that he tries so hard for
me. Why haven't I orgasmed!?"
"Ah this feels so good maybe thats it..."
"Ok just calm down. You know you have to
relax and just enjoy this or it wont
happen."
and things of that nature. I am nervous
that he'll get upset but also that its
just me. Sometimes i really DO calm down
and i just dont do it.
I LOOOOOVE sex and am a very sexual
person. It upsets me soooo badly that I am
not orgasming during sex. And luckily I
have a partner who is willing to work with
me and I dont have to be embarrised to
talk to him about what we need to do.
Is there anyone out there who has had this
problem and has over come it? How did you
do it?
Please, any advise you can give would be
VERY helpful to two young people who love
eachother very much  .
And I hope this thread will help some
other women who have the same issues and
thoughts.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:35pm
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Very few women orgasm through intercourse.
I think the stats are at about 10 do. Most
of the time it just takes work, practice
and different positions. Being on top
helps a some while doggy style helps
others.
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collegegirlie
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:41pm
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i like doggy alot ^.^ if that helps anyone
better understand how to help me..
I KNOW I can orgasm. But I am just hoping
someone can give me some tips to get over
this phsycosematic thing?
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:48pm
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All you can do it STOP thinking about it
but you already know that. The more you
think about it and think he is getting
tired of waiting, the more you will get
turned off and feel like you have to hurry
up. Stop making yourself feel like that
and just have fun and go with the flow!
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collegegirlie
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:52pm
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how can i help him be more comfortable
during sex? For example i like him to rub
my clit and well, hes more than twice my
size (im small and hes tall) so alot of
times it is uncomfortable or even hurts
his hand (then I get upset and start
thinking to hard again). Anyone know any
good positions for this so we can practice
something that doesnt hurt him, therefore
wont uspset me, and maybe.... we'll get
somewhere ^.~
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:55pm
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I know that being on top and riding him
super fast gets me off. The hair (or
stubble) from your mans privare area rub
on your clit while your going back and
forth and the fact that you have him
inside of you is so much better than
getting eaten out! It may take a few trys
but it's soooo worth it!
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collegegirlie
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:57pm
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ive done that too and love it. but it just
doesnt make me orgasm.... maybe i should
try it some more.
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Posted: 02-15-08 21:32pm
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My only advice is to reach down there and
touch your clitoris yourself!! You
masturbate right? So you already know what
YOU need to orgasm. It's not a sin or
detrimental or insulting to reach down and
stimulate yourself during sex. I too
CANNOT orgasm during sex unless I get
direct clitoral stimulation.
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Posted: 02-21-08 14:11pm
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Hi All,
I was exactly the same for many years! It
took me and my man years!
My advice...
First - stop worrying about - the more you
worry the worst it gets. I know its easier
said than done.
Second - try masterbating (I assume you
do) as you know what you need while he's
inside you till you cum. I found that the
first step - it's like telling your body
it's ok like this
Third - Try masterbating again with him
inside you, till you get really close then
stop and see if you can still cum with his
help alone
Forth - just keep trying, enjoying each
other and pleasure on the way.
My man works away alot, and I personnaly
found that if I masterbate, espeically
with a dildo inside, again it's like
training your body to cum with something
in there, that after a while when he came
home, after lots of foreplay and being
close to cumming before intercourse - I
found that I actually came from him just
being inside me - very suprising when it
happens and I find its a deeper more
fulfilling orgasm too.
I orginally resigned myself to never being
able to cum 'normally' but eventuall
decided it didn't matter - he used to make
me cum first before we had intercourse or
in the early years I pleasured myself
afterwards. I eventually forgot all about
it and then out of the blue POW - god what
was that!!!
So basically practice on your own (without
being embarrased) and with him if your
nice and close, share the learning
together and then it will probably happen
with out you thinking about it.
Hope that helps a little
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Posted: 02-21-08 19:40pm
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Completely agree with Eiri, do it
yourself! during doggy is probably easiest
and since you enjoy that position it
sounds like a good starting place. I used
to want my guy to do it but we just
couldnt get the co-ordination for him to
move his hips as well as keeping his hand
in a good motion so it was easier for to
me to just DIY!
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Posted: 02-21-08 20:04pm
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And don't forget that most useful of all
sexual stimulants - your brain! A little
bit of fantasy can add the zest to your
pith! Try it!
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positions that may help you come...
Posted: 02-28-08 13:34pm
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you can try a position, where you can have
easy access with your clitoris, so you can
stimulate it while he is inside you.
these are some positions that makes me
come...
try the doggy,
or when he is on top but he is not leaning
on you (it is like he is almost sitting
and he is holding your legs up),
also try the position where he is lying
sideways and you are lying sideways too
obliquely (start it with "the spoon") then
let him hold one of your legs high so you
can access your clitoris.
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collegegirlie
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Posted: 03-05-08 12:38pm
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I DID IT!!!
I didn't even have to do any of that stuff
all you guys said (i didn't see those
posts till now). I just had to calm down
and relax and ONLY think about how good it
feels. OH MAN THAT WAS AWESOME.
cant wait till he gets home from work
today! 
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Posted: 03-05-08 14:34pm
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^^ Good for you!! Sometimes it's all
mental!
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collegegirlie
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Posted: 03-05-08 15:25pm
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I knew it was only mental with me.
woo hoo! im so excited! I feel like I won
the lottery!
It happened yesterday evening. He's so
sweet. Says- "you just wait till I get
home today!" lol. sorry if thats TMI, im
just so happy. yay!
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collegegirlie
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Posted: 03-05-08 15:26pm
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Oh BTW
no i dont masterbate. (maybe once in a
blue moon!)
Sex is SOOOOOOO much better when you don't
masterbate. You want it so much more, and
you become more sensitive to it.
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Posted: 03-05-08 15:30pm
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I personally masturbated when I had sex
because I never orgasmed during it. BUt I
do agree that abstinence from masturbation
can make the next session of sex or
masturbation like WHOAH! 
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