Here's the DL- Dating this guy for about 7
months. Long distance- we're talking 1200
miles here! He hasn't worked a job in 2
years. He inheritated $40k- and spending
it fast. He rents a room from a family.
Here's the beef-- I work two jobs. He
wants me to constantly call him. I find
more things wrong about him than right
now-a-days--- (ex. sleeping in until 12:00
pm-- not applying for jobs... etc.!) HE
DOES NOTHING!!!
I am starting to hate him than like him.
I can't stand lazy.. and don't think he's
ever going to change. Maybe too, it's
because I can't sleep my life away, and I
have goals- and meaning to my life- unlike
him with his darn x-box, wii, computer,
spending habits on wasteless junk---
eventually that money of his will be gone-
right?
When he visited me during the holidays, he
managed to reorganize my room- for his
liking, then went thru personal things,
papers, books- etc. Then turned around-
and mentioned that i should get rid of my
self-help books, since I am now with him.
Those books helped me through a rough
patch in my life, and I want to ensure
that doesn't happen again. Then he turns
around and points out that I have been
acting distant- since he read the
self-proclaimed "strange books" {he calls
them} quoting my books!! Not to mention
when in the heck did he think it was OK to
go thru my stuff- who does he think he is,
a tooth fairy or the grinch--wth??
So... I'm slowing down the calls to him..
I putting more distance between us, so it
will break off. I just don't want the
wackjob showing up at my place. Is this
the right thing to do? Am I right for
feeling this way- since I work so hard,
and want to do something with my life,
unlike him?
Thanks- Yettie
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-18-08 13:21pm
Is there any doubt in your mind?
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YettieGal
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Posted: 02-18-08 13:29pm
shonster
wrote:
Is there any doubt in your
mind?
To be honest... no doubt. I tend to be
compassionate..that is my downfall. I
know this will break his heart and he will
be upset. He is more in love with me than
I am with him. I am starting to notice
more things about him... and it just seems
like a change from night to day- to big
and major red flags that I hooked myself
another loser.
*note I am aware not all guys are losers*
Yettie
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-18-08 13:37pm
He sounds like a boy who has just never
grown up. I am not sure that he ever
will, now. You're right - move on and
leave him to his toys!
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YettieGal
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Posted: 02-18-08 13:54pm
shonster
wrote:
He sounds like a boy who has
just never grown up. I am not sure that
he ever will, now. You're right - move on
and leave him to his
toys!
I *love* what you just said- it totally
makes sense as well! THANKYOU!
Yettie
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-18-08 14:25pm
Well, you know, I had one just like him.
It lasted 3 years and same scenario - I
would go out to work and he stayed in bed
till mid-afternoon! I would plan a
holiday and he would be a willing
companion - so long as I paid! I wanted
to get on a bit in life but he was happy
to live from day to day. He thought
great, lofty thoughts and I can't deny it,
he was an attentive and caring partner,
but he was going nowhere and I was
beginning to go nowhere with him. I
missed him after we broke up but oh, what
a relief to start going out with someone
who would at leat go 50/50 on expenses!
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YettieGal
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Joined: 18 Feb 2008 Posts: 48 Location: Hell, MI
Posted: 02-18-08 15:16pm
shonster
wrote:
Well, you know, I had one
just like him. It lasted 3 years and same
scenario - I would go out to work and he
stayed in bed till mid-afternoon! I would
plan a holiday and he would be a willing
companion - so long as I paid! I wanted
to get on a bit in life but he was happy
to live from day to day. He thought
great, lofty thoughts and I can't deny it,
he was an attentive and caring partner,
but he was going nowhere and I was
beginning to go nowhere with him. I
missed him after we broke up but oh, what
a relief to start going out with someone
who would at leat go 50/50 on
expenses!
That's what's hard- he pays for his share-
but for some reason- I always feel like I
always put in more- not that I'm keeping
track- but like I'm paying for the more
expensive things! He is attentive &
caring too- like yours was- and I think
you are right- I will miss him, but be
relieved once it's done down the road.
Thank you- I feel a bit more at peace now
Yettie
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-19-08 08:42am
Misses Yettie, I think you already knew
the answer to this question before you
asked! You know what kind of man to steer
clear of so do it!
You know, I am so over with guys like
that. We all know it will hurt his wittle
feelings but guess what? I don't think you
should even put up with talking to him a
little when you don't want to just to
spare his feelings when in fact, he will
be hurt anyhow. I would completely cut him
off and say good riddance loser!
