At what age- do you think it's too old to
have a baby? Has anyone on here ever
gotten a test tube baby-- if you aren't
dating anyone, or if you never gotten
married- to decide to have a baby on your
own?
Just curious!
Yettie
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jessamyn
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Posted: 02-19-08 13:54pm
IMO you never know because there are
exceptions but I would say 43-45
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mominashoe
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Posted: 02-19-08 14:18pm
I don't know. I think anywhere over 50 is
really pushing it. I mean even if you did
have a successful pregnancy, can you
imagine keeping up with a toddler running
around and being 70 at his graduation? I
think any mom would want to provide
everything she could for the child and not
die before he's old enough to leave home.
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KatherynML
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Posted: 02-19-08 21:31pm
Well, I love my mom and all, but she was
pregnant with me at the age of 38, I'm now
17 and about to have a baby of my own. But
when I was growing up, My mom was always
tired, and started to get artheritus
(spelling) So I think it's better to be
younger to have a baby (I don't approve of
my age, but, Like in your 20's to early
30's)
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 02-20-08 14:12pm
I think 45 should be the last year.
Anything after that is really pushing it,
like mominashoe stated. I also think 25 is
the perfect age to start. Schools done,
life starts to get 'boring' so why not
start a family? Although I'm 18, I think
it evens out because my fiancee is 32.
Plus he has a 9yr old, so I didn't want
too much of an age gap there...
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 02-20-08 20:02pm
after 45 i think is to old. My aunt had
her 9th kid at 41 AND her first grandchild
within 3 weeks of her youngest being
born... I do think she was a bit old but
she still has all the energy with a 4 year
old as she did 13 years ago when her
oldest girl was born (her oldest son will
be 28 or 29 and youngest will be 5 in
sept)
i think 21-28 is a great age to have kids.
your body is best ready for it and you are
finishing/finished with school
I agree with the 45 age that a woman
should consider to stop having or decide
to have a baby. I'm 25 years old & I
feel likes its a good age, I wanted to
wait for my son until I was 30 but now
that he is here I'm glad he came sooner.
I'm so tired now, could imagine at 30...
let alone even older. I have just enough
energy for his demands! =D
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-22-08 11:05am
I wouldn't want to have kids after 40. I
would rather start having kids between the
ages of 25-28 (starting). I don't want to
be old and too tired to play with my kids.
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angelinhiseyes2007
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Posted: 02-23-08 15:39pm
i thhink it depends on you life situation
on when to start.. no sooner than20 no
later thanyiour mid 40s im 21 ill be 22 in
may my husband will be 27 in may and we
have a 2 week old daughter...
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 02-23-08 17:00pm
I think it is a very individual thing.
Everyone is so different in terms of
health, financial stability, career,
family around to be supportive, etc., etc.
So I guess I don't think there is an
actual age limit, but there is a health
(and all of the other stuff I just wrote)
limit.
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Posted: 02-25-08 10:17am
futureshock
wrote:
I think it is a very
individual thing. Everyone is so
different in terms of health, financial
stability, career, family around to be
supportive, etc., etc. So I guess I don't
think there is an actual age limit, but
there is a health (and all of the other
stuff I just wrote)
limit.
I ask because I am 28, have had 2 wacked
out ex's.. and about to can number #3 due
to his nonactive lifestyle! I swear- I
hear a clock ticking away, and my older
sister had a baby when she was 27 and I'll
be 28 this wednesday! Am I going through
a mid-life crisis? LOL I look around to
all maried off friends/family-- and
everyone seems to be having babies left
and right around me. I adore my nephew,
and since he has just been diagnosed with
mild autism, I want to have a child too-
not only because of his condition, but I
want to bring a life into this world one
day. I would also want my sister's son to
have the option of having someone "there"
for him when my sister and I are gone.
Maybe I look way too forwards sometimes...
I know I need to finish college 1st, and
have everything ready so the child can
have a great life with lots of options. I
just keep hearing that darn clock lol
Yettie
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 02-25-08 10:24am
Yettie, I don't blame you for worrying.
You are absolutely right to be doing what
you can in order to make this happen. I
misinterpreted your question, so I am glad
you clarified it in this last post.
Your real question, I think, is more along
the lines of, how long are most women
fertile? How old is too old meaning, when
can you no longer get pregnant, that's
what you are really asking, right?
I waited until my mid 30's to have
children, and it was simply because I was
not in a relationship with a stable enough
man until then. I would have had them
earlier if
I had married my husband or a man like him
earlier, and if my finances were in
order.
My husband is almost a decade older than
I, but even so we had absolutely no
problem getting pregnant immediately. I
hope this helps.
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YettieGal
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Posted: 02-25-08 10:34am
futureshock
wrote:
Yettie, I don't blame you
for worrying. You are absolutely right to
be doing what you can in order to make
this happen. I misinterpreted your
question, so I am glad you clarified it in
this last post.
Your real question, I think, is more along
the lines of, how long are most women
fertile? How old is too old meaning, when
can you no longer get pregnant, that's
what you are really asking, right?
I waited until my mid 30's to have
children, and it was simply because I was
not in a relationship with a stable enough
man until then. I would have had them
earlier if
I had married my husband or a man like him
earlier, and if my finances were in
order.
My husband is almost a decade older than
I, but even so we had absolutely no
problem getting pregnant immediately. I
hope this helps.
Thank you for your
reply- I tend to type one thing and mean
another thing in my head at times! That
does bring some relief to me, since I am
going to be older when I have a child.
Thanks!
Yettie
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 02-25-08 11:29am
You are welcome.
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motherofhighspiritedones
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Posted: 05-27-08 15:20pm
IMO 38...after that the risks are just too
high
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 05-30-08 15:31pm
When your body says no. Personally i find
it a bit wierd after 4 because when my mum
was 40 she was becoming a grandmother for
the first time and there were people on
the ward with my sister who weremy mums
age who had just had their first baby
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 05-31-08 00:21am
Personally, I don't want to be having
children after the age of say 32. Most
people are having kids at this age but
rheumatoid arthritis runs in my family. I
have a high likelihood of having this and
know that it usually starts hitting our
family in the mid thirties and fourties
quite badly. My mom is 51 now and doesn't
really have the strength to have my four
month old over to take care of her. This
just breaks my heart because she wants to
experience all the things that a
grandmother should. I'm trying to have my
children as soon as I can so she can enjoy
them as much as she can.
