feeling ugly and undeserving of love Posted: 02-21-08 13:04pm
Hi everyone. lately i feel crappy, or
lonel, ugly etc. i feel undeserving
of friends and love, acceptance. i've had
this issue for awhile now. i see a
counselor hopefully she can help. i
usually become depressed after looking on
Facebook.com and seeing my old classmates
from high schools' pages and how they were
all friends. i had my own group but its
like i still become angry because somehow
i feel they're much happier and confidetn
than i am and their lives are more
fulfilled. i begin hating them. does
anyone have and thoughts and/or advice?
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mominashoe
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Joined: 04 Dec 2007 Posts: 1687 Location: , KS USA
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Posted: 02-21-08 17:41pm
You never can really know what's behind a
face. Just remember that. People talk
about "judging" others when they say not
to try to figure out why someone did
something that was questionable. But the
same applies to how we look at others.
Everyone has their own problems and issues
that can make them feel bad behind the
picture perfect smile and profile that you
might see on facebook.
The only way you are going to deserve
friends is to make yourself a happy person
and available to other people. You don't
know for sure that the other people that
were your classmates are all doing better
than you are....but it is up to you to
realize that you don't have to be the way
you are and if you really want to, you can
be happy.
And don't compare yourself to other
people. That's never the way to go.
Every single person is different and has
their own special qualities and purpose in
the world. Trying to be like other people
is what is going to drag you down. Be who
you are and be happy about it....and
people will be drawn to you for that and
think that you are amazing, because quite
frankly you are, especially when you are
brave enough to love who you are and not
be afraid of the acceptance scale.
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flava106
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 3
thanks alot Posted: 02-22-08 17:57pm
hey. thanks for ur advice, it sounds so
true and i think i'll take it, i'll try to
do just what u suggested. i have 2 good
friends now, we just became friends last
semester so hopefully we can contuinue our
good relationship. but thanks again, i'll
try to work on me more in order to be
happier in the future.
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woops
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jul 2007 Posts: 222
Posted: 02-22-08 18:51pm
contrary to popular belief confidence and
happiness isn't a good sign, especially in
this situation. You probably just have
more experience, intelligence, perhaps
even wisdom.
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Fairy*Godmother
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Joined: 11 Oct 2003 Posts: 1407 Location: , Georgia USA
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I agree Posted: 02-22-08 20:05pm
I totally agree wiht
mominashoe............I would say stop
going to this website. It only makes you
feel sad and upset. Instead, find
something positive about yourself. What is
it you want in life and what is it you do
that make YOU happy. You can't depend on
anyone else to make you happy. Once you
figure out what this is, you will see the
world with a different set of eyes. God
does not make junk. I am most certain
there is something spectacular about you.
Beauty comes from within....why is it you
feel ugly....and like mominashoe
says.....STOP COMPARING YOURSELF.....you
are unique and one of a kind.....There are
thousands of people on this earth....make
a new set of freinds who will appreciate
you for the person you are............I
don't even know you.....but i know your
words and I see a beautiful
person.............Hugs!
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flava106
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 3
thanks Posted: 02-23-08 15:19pm
u are all right, maybe i shouldnt be
comparing myself to others, it only makes
you feel miserable. thanks for ur kind
words, all of u, they kinda uplifted me a
little bit and make me think. thanks so
much. HUGS!!
i feel undeserving
of friends and love, acceptance. i've had
this issue for awhile now. i see a
counselor hopefully she can help. i
usually become depressed after looking on
Facebook.com and seeing my old classmates
from high schools' pages and how they were
all friends. i had my own group but its
like i still become angry because somehow
i feel they're much happier and confidetn
than i am and their lives are more
fulfilled. i begin hating them. does
anyone have and thoughts and/or advice?
HUGS!!