Herpes

You do need to go the doctor.

You do NOT need your parents consent to see a doctor for birth control or STD issues. (if you are under 1

Your b/f CAN easily spread his oral herpes to your vagina through oral sex. This can happen EVEN IF he does not have a sore on his lips.

That is because the virus 'sheds' itself even when there is not an outbreak.

The only way to PREVENT the shedding andoutbreaks, and thus prevent the spread of herpes, is through daily suppressive therapy.

Daily suppressive therapy is very effective at preventing the spread of the disease.

to hear about your infection. It always comes as a shock and surprise to discover you have been left with something.

Carifairy has given you good advise. She knows what she is talking about.

Good luck.

so no one thinks that this could have stemmed from my being sick all week? I'm screwed then haha. thanks for your replies

If you have lesions in your vaginal area, please seek medical care. That is abnormal.

Better sooner than later.

How are you screwed?

You have herpes, you are not going to die.

YOU DO NOT NEED PARENTS IN ORDER TO GET MEDICAL TREATMENT, do you understand??

I had a single boil on my butt cheek in the fall of 06 and lab tests confirmed it to be herpes 2...reoccurs now with period and stress....differing opinions as to if one can be a carrier w/out an outbreak for many yrs or if symptoms are immediate....I had been celibate for 9yrs then was careless one eve...he denies being a carrier/infected and we had unprotected sex in our 'relationship' for a few mos and he still has not had any symptoms.....says his doctor affirms, but I know testing can be difficult if timing is off or virus is in hibernation...

1. could I have harboured the virus with no symptoms at all for many yrs?
2. could it have come from a toilet seat contacting with skin?

I am still very disturbed about this diagnosis...I, myself had preconceived notions about the stereotype of herpes...how/when to ever tell anyone else...I have yet to accept the diagnosis and think someone healthy would be mad about wasting their time in the first place..but if revealed immed, risk is higher since no bond yet formed....I have a strong conscience so would never not want to inform someone who ought know....

3. how ever and whent to tell another...I am 43 yrs old...no kids...

@kitlaroo
1) Anything is possible
2) Anything is possible....regardless of what most people say
3) That's up to you. My advice would be to be open about it, because I'd be mad (and quite possibly violent) if I got it from someone who knew they had it but didn't tell me.

to the original poster: please see a doctor and ask for a blood test for herpes virus 1 and 2. Im sorry to say it but it sounds like you contracted genital herpes from oral herpes. Carifairy gave you great advice.

Your BF could just be a carrier and probably did not know he had oral herpes. I have oral herpes but have never had a cold sore. So you can either be a carrier and have no symptoms or you can only have 1 sore and then never have any again.

But I just want to say that you arent screwed. But it does change your life. You can go on suppresive therapy and could have no outbreaks. The only bad thing is having to twll someone that you have it.

Please have him get tested also. That way this doesnt happen to someone else in the future. Also do not have any kind of sexual activity until the outbreaks are gone. You can spread them back and forth to each other.

And no, sores could not develop on your genitals from a flu. Your flu like symptoms is most likely from your 1st herpes outbreak. An outbreak can cause achiness and fever just like the flu.

I have been dealing with herpes since I was 15 so I know how it feels. the second person I ever had sex with gave me herpes. Its hard when your young. But please pm me anytime to chat

to the other poster w/3 questions

Once you test positive for herpes you always have it and you can always pass it to someone else even if you dont have symptoms. My hubby got it from me. He had one outbreak. Went to the doc & tested pos for herpes 2. In 2 years of us having unprotected sex he has not had another outbreak. So its different for every person that has it.

You could have gotten it from a toilet but the chances of that are very slim. But there really is no way to back track.

Also the best time to tell someone is when you think you could have sex with that person. The other person has a right to know what they are getting into. Whether its the 1st date or the 10th. I wasnt given that choice and I would never do that to another person. I have told lots of dates and some never called me back, but the men that cared about more than getting laid stuck around.

is herpis 1 considered to be a sexual transmitted disease?
and once the blisters are gone would it be safe to continue oral sex with my partner?

in dealing with Herpes, HPV or any STD is trying to talk to the person you have been with after you have been diagnosed positive. For myself, I was only with one man after being in a long term marriage and not having had sex for many years due to my husband being diabetic, and stupid me didn't even consider that we needed to use protection. He was young and looked super healthy.

The following day, I asked him if he had lots of girlfriends as that would put me at great risk. He looked me right in the eye and said, noone, not since his wife. I believed him. Big mistake. He without a doubt gave me HPV with the high risk types that can lead to cervical cancer. To this day, he denies he is a carrier, his ex wife didn't have it, his GF doesn't have it. Has to just be me and my problem.

Only after he started being with the new GF, two months later I came down with a horrible vaginal infection and was diagnosised with HPV. He was still over here being with me and her too but kept lying about it. With the HPV, my doctors are watching it. All you can do.

At this point in my life, I have no intention of telling anybody about the HPV or getting involved with anyone. It would just be too hard. Now, the doctor removed a genital wart which left an ugly red scar. Might as well have somebody brand an A onto my forehead. That scar shows when I wear a bathing suit and I am a swimmer. Does cut back on your chances when these things happen.

You are a young woman and this is just one of the bumps in the road. Trust me, there are many but the good times always outweigh the bad ones.

Take care of yourself.

Bobbie