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Posted: 02-25-08 13:12pm
Hey there, all!
I'm a old, old male who has read this
thread with interest because I'm seven
years older than my wife. We get along
great and have never had any problems.
However, she is still within my generation
and we have all the same reference points
in our lives.
I think most of the women on here would
also say that 17 is a little young to tie
yourself down, especially with someone
much more mature. Believe me, life is much
more fun if you hook up with a person who
has similiar life experiences than someone
in another generation.
I know that the "heart wants what the
heart wants", but, as someone else said,
you need to think of your baby's future
also. I am sorry that the guy seemed to be
leading you on, but look at it as another
chance to slow down and consider a better
future.
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Little Miss Oops
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Joined: 22 Oct 2007 Posts: 542 Location: Just Know That It Sucksville, Usa
Posted: 02-25-08 13:47pm
age is just a NUMBER!!!! my boyfriend is
24 and i am 17 and weve been together
almost 3 months and havent had one fight.
as many ppl on here have heard before my
graqndparents were 21 years apart and they
had 15 children together him being older.
they lived very happily until he died then
10 years later she died.
if he makes you happy go for it. if it
doesn't work out it's not like your going
to be 40 at the most maybe 18 maybe even
20. please don't let ppl that think it's
wrong to have a gap in age to affect the
way you feel for him. just let things "go
with the flow"
please keep me updated
XOCassieXO
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Lauren_Jay15
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Posted: 02-25-08 14:30pm
I've landed on my arse, because I have
fallen for him so much and don't know what
to do. Things are fine between us, altho
my ex and his situation are getting in the
way. I agree that age is a number, but I
used to think there were limits, thats why
I dont this post, because it would seem,
there are no limits with love. Meh, what a
carryon!
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 02-25-08 14:34pm
your right: there are no limits for love,
it's everywhere and you can't really stop
it when it happens.
best of luck to you hon
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 02-25-08 16:20pm
here's the same topic but it wa a while
back though, check it out
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Posted: 02-25-08 16:48pm
have you met his ex whom he lives with?
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Lauren_Jay15
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Posted: 02-25-08 20:27pm
jessamyn
wrote:
have you met his ex whom he
lives with?
Nope. lol.
He's invited me away this weekend to a gig
festival from sat til tuesday. if i can
sort out childcare, and i know paige will
be ok, im there!
how exciting lol
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Kaoriie
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Posted: 02-27-08 18:34pm
How long have you been together? I suggest
to wait a little bit longer, see how your
relationship goes. Maybe a little later
you will find out he's just not the type
of guy for u anymore. That might make you
feel better.
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Reptar
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Posted: 02-27-08 19:03pm
The oldest I dated was 7 years older than
me, and he was a really nice guy. He was
totally against sex before marriage so it
was never a sexual relationship. While at
first we got along really well, things
just didn't work out. His experience was
frightening to me, and regardless of how
alike we thought, there was always an age
barrier. It may not be the same way with
you and this older man, but do take things
slow. Older men have a much easier time
with manipulating young girls and they
also can stay detached. If this is meant
to be, it WILL stand the test of time, and
waiting won't change that.
My current boyfriend is almost a year
younger than me, so I might be biased, but
I just haven't had any long relationships
with people older than me. My best friend
(for the past 5 years) is 5 years older
than me, so sometimes people just click.
It doesn't have to be romantically either.
Good luck
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 02-28-08 15:52pm
Reptar
wrote:
My current boyfriend is almost a year
younger than me, so I might be biased, but
I just haven't had any long relationships
with people older than me. My best friend
(for the past 5 years) is 5 years older
than me, so sometimes people just click.
It doesn't have to be romantically either.
Good luck
my boyfriend is 7 years older than me and
we joke about our ages lol. he says the
reason we get along so well is because i
am much more mature than a 17 year old
should be at this point in time. it's the
complete opposite with me i have never had
a lasting relationship with guys my age or
younger. my longest is with the guy im
with now, the other 2 longest were also
with older men. but 7 years is the oldest
ive gone and i plan to go.... lol
good luck to you !!!!
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Lauren_Jay15
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Joined: 16 Mar 2007 Posts: 483 Location: ,
Posted: 02-29-08 11:55am
We aren't together, just friends, but I
have feelings for him and I think/thought
he does for me, its all getting on my
nerves now! It's an impossible situation
to say the least!
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Pocahontas101
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Age is nothin but a number. Posted: 03-10-08 15:53pm
Hey Lauren_Jay5, There is nothing wrong at
all with dating a man thats way older then
you. If you get along with him and you
like him for who he is and visversa then
you go for it enjoy life together, Just
dont rush into it. Give it some time to
see he's true colors, and if he is what
you say he is then move on to the next
step. Know what puts a question mark on my
head is why is he livin with another woman
if their not together that doesnt sound
right at all. I think you need to do more
reseach on him before you give up the
cookie. If he's a older man he should have
his own place by know. Something is very
fishy about that issue. Dont fall to hard
for him yet. Keep it smooth. Good luck.
XOXO
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nightangel73
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Posted: 03-10-08 19:11pm
Lauren I'm sorry but trust me that you are
going to be much happier in the long run
without this man.
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marvin5
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age dif Posted: 03-29-08 18:47pm
Hi,
from a man's perspective, I can tell you
that is a huge age difference. he has 20
years of living and experience beyond what
YOU have.
Most of the time, men like some younger
gal (basically, you are still a kid,
sorry) so that they can control them.
seriously, what would the attraction
really be other than he can emotionally
dominate you.
I also believe he is pulling your leg
about his living arrangement. I am a guy,
I know all the stuff that is said, and
most of the tricks guys use to hook
someone in.
your parents divorce is hard. No two ways
about that one. You may not think you are
affected by it, but you are, and you will
be for years to come.
concentrate on getting yourself together
for the sake of your kid. Then, go out
there after a few years and grab a decent
guy who is close to your age.
