My son said his first swear word,what can I do? Posted: 02-25-08 10:38am
The other day I took my son to Walmart and
as we were walking down the aisles a group
of teenage girls was walking towards us
swearing up a storm,every other sentence
was 'f-this and f-that'. I put my hands
over my sons ears and told them that they
were in a public place and needed to act
appropriately.
Anyways,I got home and I was playing with
my son.I was chasing him around and he was
laughing his head off,then he stops,looks
at me and says F***.It shocked me,I put
him in timeout,and told him that it wasn't
a nice word and that I never wanted to
hear him say it again but my son is 2
years old,he doesn't understand what he
said,he doesn't know that it is wrong.
What can I do to teach him that those
words are bad?
I have no ideas!
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tdr
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Posted: 02-25-08 11:49am
I'm probably going to get a lot of flack
for this, but....
If/when he does say it again, ONE tiny
drop of Tabasco/hot sauce on his tongue as
a pre-explained consequence. Let him taste
the tabasco on his own terms, and then
he'll know that he doesn't want it on his
tongue again. This was my consequence as a
small child for much lesser words (I think
it was "hate") and let me tell you, it
worked. I don't remember the experience in
the slightest, but I didn't use the word
again.
If you're unwilling to use tabasco, black
pepper works too.
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Bridget
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Posted: 02-25-08 11:52am
i would have ignored it the first time. if
he sees it gets a rise out of you he may
continue to say it. if he said it a second
time, i would have explained that it's not
a nice word and we don't say it in this
house. after the third time there would
have been consequences like time-out.
has he said it again?
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sweet_mom
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Posted: 02-25-08 12:58pm
No.
He's only said it the once so far.I think
it was just because he had JUST heard it
from those girls and he is at the mimicing
stage right now.He copies everything I say
and even some things he sees other people
say.
I couldn't ignore it,when he said it my
jaw just dropped.I wasn't ready for it and
so I just reacted.He did his timeout and
then he came over and gave me a hug.
I think he's too young to know any better
but I know I need to nip it in the bud
now.
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Hart74
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Posted: 02-25-08 13:40pm
You did the right thing by telling those
girl, I personally don't have the guts to
do that but you did and Kudos for being
brave. About your son tell him that it's
not nice to say that and it's not right to
use those words, my 2 years old son said
'Loser' after listening to a song and I
told him 'Boy...no don't say that okay,
not nice to say that'. Children at this
age imitates what they see and hear
eventhough they didn't know what they say.
Tell him why he can't use it and the
consequences when he use.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 02-25-08 14:32pm
I would have said something to the girls
as well. I think you handled it fine.
Make sure he knows that was a naughty word
and be consistent with his consequence of
a time out if he does it again.
I would have said to ignore it too, but he
may think it's not a big deal enough to
say it again and next time in a store or a
restaurant.
