feel like everythings deteriorating :( Posted: 02-26-08 20:02pm
so this is gonna be
a little long but i would love to get
feedback.
2weeks ago while watching tv with my guy i
noticed his personal phone lit up and a
screen popped up that showed it was
locked. it didnt faze me at all at the
time. the next day i was curious and asked
my guy "i noticed you phone was locked
baby" those were the exact words i said.
he txt me back and said "i did that to
test you to see if you were snooping
around my phones. you seem to show too
much interest in them so i assume that you
are since you noticed it was locked."
i was crushed at
the fact that he FELT the need to test me
to see if i was snooping through his stuff
just because i noticed that it was locked.
i noticed a few times but until now was
when i brought it up. so many emotions ran
through me. i used to be able to confide
in him...i lost that that day. ever since
then i havent felt or acted the same
towards him. he'll ask me to get his phone
or charge it and i say no. he just
frowns.
im scared that if i confide in him he'll
just blow it up and blame me for
something. thats why i dont talk to him
about anything anymore. it sucks cause i
do love him. he'll ask me whats wrong and
i just shake my head. theres really no
time to talk to him when i feel the need
to because his friend always comes over
and sleeps over. or he goes out with his
friends right after work and comes home
around 12am while im fast asleep. thats
another problem. i even asked him today if
he felt scared being alone with me, that
if he got home i was going to nag him. he
didnt respond.
funny thing is that happens everytime we
have a serious conversation. he'll go and
hang out with his friends or bring his
friend over. its annoying.
like yesterday i finally had the courage
to tell him that i no longer felt that i
could confide in him or trust him ever
since accusing me and telling me he was
testing me. he never responded and you
know what he did that night? he brought
over his friend. totally inconsiderate...
any positive suggestions anybody? ladies
and guys alike. i want to know why hes
acting like this. i just want things to be
like it was before...were i would wake up
and feel like i was falling in love all
over again, like i felt i could trust and
confide in him.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-27-08 14:55pm
Wow, sounds like he does have something to
hide. If my bf would have done that to me,
I would have said "well why would you lock
it if you have nothing to hide?" have you
even shown signs of wanting to snoop
through his things or have you actually
done it? If not he sounds like he is being
pretty shady. . . .
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ladyT02
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Posted: 02-27-08 19:33pm
his phone is a palm treo hes had for a
year, he bought it used so it already came
with some glitches to its softwear. it
turns on and off, vibrates, reboots, etc
all by itself, i swear its possesed
sometimes!! lol the times i noticed it was
locked was when he would ask me to hook it
up to charge, the screen would light up
and show it was locked. or if it would
turn on suddenly it would show it was
locked. me being curious i nicely asked
him about it cause it seemed odd to me. he
never did it before why now?
thats the only time i noticed that it was
locked. i never go through his buisness or
personal phones.if he is harmlessly
flirting with her or whatever and doesnt
want me to know all i can do is laugh
cause im probably doing the same thing. i
actually talked to yesterday about it, we
talked for a good while and i explained to
him that i wasnt snooping thru his stuff,
that the only reason i was upset was
because he felt the need to test my trust.
he did say maybe he was a little too harsh
in jumping to conclusions like that but
that i shouldnt have felt the need to
confront him about it. god guys can be a
real pain when you try to explain things
in detail. but anyways this is something
im not gonna forge, i actually learned
from this. you can only
trust someone so little. i love him and he
loves me, he flirts harmlessly and so do
i, but that doesnt mean I will go out and
actually persue it.
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so this is gonna be
a little long but i would love to get
feedback.
i was crushed at
the fact that he FELT the need to test me
to see if i was snooping through his stuff
just because i noticed that it was locked.
i noticed a few times but until now was
when i brought it up. so many emotions ran
through me. i used to be able to confide
in him...i lost that that day. ever since
then i havent felt or acted the same
towards him. he'll ask me to get his phone
or charge it and i say no. he just
frowns.
