feeling hurt by masturbation Posted: 02-28-08 19:13pm
hey guys, I do not mean to pry but i have
a serious question. Now i already know
that it is completly normal for everyone
to masturbate. However, I am a little
discouraged. Me and my fiance always take
morning showers together before he goes to
work. But if i am too tired then i wont. I
can't help but notice that if i do not
take a shower with him he masturbates in
the shower. This is very hurtful to me.
Why? I don't know. I mean, I am like 2
feet away and i just wish he would ask me
to do it rather than him do it himself.
How can i get him to stop? I mean i have
mentioned it to him in the past and i
think he was a little embarrassed because
he did not really give me and explanation
or try to make me feel better about it. I
just feel really hurt. We have had issues
in the past like him cheating on me with
his ex wife so i don't know if
sub-consciously I am thinking that this
act is toward someone else rather than me
since I am in the same room as him and he
does not take the opportunity to ask me.
Any suggestions/comments would be
appreciated. Thanks in advance!
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MiseEire
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 02-28-08 22:29pm
I wouldn't feel too down about that. Male
masturbation is quite straight-forward, a
sexual release based on emotionally
unconnected fantasy that would not impede
on any aspect from a relationship
standpoint.
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seanyboy44
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 3
let it be Posted: 02-29-08 02:44am
there are some times when guys just need
to do it themselves nothin to feel bad
about. Talk to him about it and im sure he
would understnad.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 02-29-08 11:11am
If it was like, in the evening when you're
both home and relaxing and he does it,
then I might be concerned. But it seems
that it's just more of a routine/stress
release morning thing for him. Maybe it
would help if you thought about it that
way?
I can understand why you would feel that
way though. But think- would it really be
good if he asked you every time? Every
morning? Probably not. You'd probably get
sick of that pretty quickly.
You'd probably get
sick of that pretty quickly.