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Sexual Health - Women Forum - Sexuall Desire Is Gone Someone Help
Sexuall Desire Is Gone Someone Help Posted: 05-08-04 20:44pm
So , lately I have'nt really wanted to
have sex or anything along those lines.
My boy friend is feeling like its his
fault I keep telling i'm its not , and
that its me and I don't know what it is
.He thinks that mabye its because I just
had an abortion , it happened in january
and I did'nt think that it bugged me as
much as he says it has , I did'nt really
notice it until just recently . Basically
I just need some advice , on what I should
do , its starting to put a real strain on
our relationship and neither of us want
that .
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cherry_pie
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2004 Posts: 599
Posted: 05-09-04 06:31am
Well it could be underlying stress or fear
caused by the abortion.. Are you on birth
control? Cuz it could be a side effect
from that as well. If its none of these,
try going to a doctor and talking about
it, if it bothers you that much they might
be able to prescribe you something.
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oopoopoop
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Posted: 05-10-04 17:44pm
Hoppy - there two things that might be
going on here. First, it could be
hormonal. Your body was seething with
hormones when you were pregnant, and you
could still be getting over that, or be
confused. If you have also started a
different form of birth control, this
could be linked as well.
Second, you might now have made a
subconscious link between having sex and
getting pregnant, and you don't want to be
pregnant, so you stop wanting sex. (we
can go through life mostly thinking that
sex is for having fun, and forget that a
sex drive is a very effective way for us,
as biological organisms, to get around to
reproducing.) it should be possible to
convince yourself again that sex, really,
is for fun! It sounds like you and your
bf are okay talking about things, and that
he is being quite supportive. You should
be able to get your sex drive back if you
start off with activities that don't make
you afraid of getting pregnant again. So
agree with him that there will be no
actual intercourse for, say, a month.
Start with cuddles, massages, bubble baths
together, whatever -- but no matter what
else you get up to, no actual nookie.
That way you should be able to relax and
maybe rediscover the nice feelings,
without worrying about the consequences,
and build up a trusting relationship again
not just with your bf, but with your own
body.
