My boyfriend is freaking out because he is
going to college this year and he doesnt
want to hurt me or even try a long
distance relationship because he doesnt
want to risk anything. He has been
talking about becoming friends this
summer, talking it down to just that. He
didn't know if he wanted to do it before
school got out or after. We have been
going out for seven months and I dont want
him to start talking about this yet, we
still have over three months until he goes
off to college(which is less than and hour
and a half away). It kills me thinking
that hes thinking this. I want to be
with him so bad. What can I do to change
his mind or at least consider a long
distance relationship> I know this
sounds lame, but he means the world to me
and I can't stand the thought of him
leaving my life.
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Sasha
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2004 Posts: 9 Location: North Carolina
Hello Posted: 05-20-04 23:58pm
It seems that your boyfriend is a little
less committed to the relationship than
you. Maybe he's seen other long-distance
relationships that didn't work out and so
he just doesn't want to try. I don't
know if you can make him change his mind
about trying for a long-distance
relationship. That's going be hard to do
if he's really set on it. I think that
you should just try to be friends. The
reality is he's going to see other females
in college and things like that and be in
a different environment. Is this
relationship mutual, I mean, does he love
you as much as you love him? It seems
that you really love him a lot and that's
making things tough. Being an hour and a
half away isn't that far away, when you
think about it. If he has a car he could
come visit when possible. I believe this
also goes to his level of commitment in
the relationship and how he's looking at
it. Are you in high school? If he just
wants to be friends you will need to keep
busy with your life and kind of shift your
focus from him to other things. Hope
everything works out.
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saz89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2007 Posts: 12 Location: northeast england
Posted: 03-15-07 06:18am
i dont quite agree with the above post.
because im in the same situation although
this relationship is coming to an end
anyway for other reasons.
but i didnt want to talk about it either
until it got closer then i thought it
justs going to be harder if we are
together.
he probally just doesnt want to get his
hopes up or get hurt, just try to take it
as it comes sweetie
