Joined: 01 Apr 2004 Posts: 33 Location: Los Angeles
Should I Use My Eggs Or a Donor Posted: 05-13-04 02:38am
I am wondering if I should use my own eggs
for a surrogancy or a donor.
So far I am thinking of going with a
donor. I am affraid of passing on a lupus
gene to the baby. Some people would say
lupus is genetic and others would say it
isnt however, I dont think I am willing to
take that risk.
How about you guys? What would you do?
Shawna
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LadyBrannon
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jul 2003 Posts: 506 Location: TX
Posted: 05-13-04 05:19am
Hi shawna...I can honestly tell you that
my hubby and I have been fretting over
this for about four years...Still no
decision.
I have pros and cons for both. Not much
help am i?
hugs,
ladybrannon
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leucara
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2004 Posts: 33 Location: Los Angeles
Hmmm Posted: 05-13-04 06:26am
Well, I think I will use a donor because
otherwise I will always be worried
at every doctors appointment. That
wouldnt be good for my lupus or the baby.
I would feel like I was living on the
edge. I want to live stress free.
So we are leaning towards donor.
Shawna
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mia
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2004 Posts: 147 Location: dallas
Donor Eggs Posted: 05-14-04 20:42pm
Hi,
i was in remission for 7 years when we
started hormone injections to get
pregnant, ( since at the age of 36 I was
not making eggs, which I latter found out
can be caused from having had lupus
earlier) and it started a flare for me in
october. I finally got everything under
control, but now we are faced with exactly
the same problem. Do we dare attempt to
get pregnant again or just use a surrogate
( either way I have to use my sister's
eggs since I haven't made any of my own in
3 years).
And in the vanity department, i'm a
little sad that i'm the only blonde in the
family besides my mother, who has passed,
and my sister and husband both have dark
hair and skin. So, no matter what, it
won't look like me, but I would give that
all up just to have a baby. We have been
trying for 4 years and spent around
$15,000!
