Anger Problems And Depression Posted: 05-17-04 23:49pm
I have been depressed since I was like 14.
(i'm 24 now) I have 2 kids, both boys,
age 2 1/2 years and 4 months. My
depression has only gotten worse. My 2
year old is a the peak of his terrible
twos, and it dont help that hes add. I
can't get him to stay out of things, or to
listen. He talks real loud when he wants
something and when he does that the baby
wakes up(if he is sleeping). It wouldnt
be so bads except my 4 month old is a
grump if you dont give him constant
attention. I find that hard to do. I
find myself yelling at my 2 year old a lot
and I want to yell at the 4 month old.
(i dont though). I am so frustrated with
the both of them and I just want to be
left alone all the time. (i do
everything for them that they need
though)i get mad if either one of them
wants anything. I love both my kids but
I can't get out of this depression. It
doesnt help that I get out of the house
once a week. I dont drive and we have
one car, which my husband takes to work.
We are both in school, only mine is
online. There is no out for me. I
don't like meeting new people really
because I never find the right people that
woiuld be good friends, and I can tell
from the time I meet them is they would be
a good friend or not. I have a couple of
best friends, but one lives in a different
state and another one has no kids, no
job(she is bipolar) and she is still into
the whole drug thing. My other friend
that I have is a drama queen and wont ever
leaver her kid to go out. So I dont
really do anything with anyone when I do
get out. So my interacton is mostly kids.
I am going crazy here, any advice on how
to relax and not to get so angry all the
time?
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 05-22-04 13:02pm
Kids that young (no matter how much we
love them) are real pains, they do not
talk (i mean you can not have a
conversation with them) & they do not
read books of interest, nor watch any
decent tv shows & they can't even use
the computer or play decent games. That
doesn't mean you don't love them &
care it just means that they are still
developing into "people".
Having to be alone so much with kids that
age would be hard on anyone, so stop
beating yourself up for what are natural
feelings. You do/give them all they need
& I am sure that that includes cuddles
etc. You say you don't drive (if you
learnt would you be able to have the car
& so able to go places??). Is there
anywhere you can get to on foot (a park in
good weather, or shopping centre or a
playgroup?) where you & the kids could
go & maybe meet people (adults!! As
well) - you don't have to become great
friends with everyone you meet, just have
aquaintances that you meet at a park or
playgroup where both you & the kids
can have some time out of the house, sort
of away from each other & maybe with
the chance of meeting someone to chat
(play) with.
Also I feel that you are making things
harder for yourself, you choose to dismiss
people too easily(it's interesting that
the two friends you mention are really not
available) - do you really try to
look/make friends or is it easier to just
say you can't find anyone!! (i often do
this myself, so please think rather than
just take offense & agnore.).
The baby may respond to soft music, soft
talk & cuddles or tv, the 2 year old
may respond to the same things. When I
can stoip yelling in frustration at my 9
year old I find that I can often get
through to him & not have my blood
pressure go through the roof if the louder
& faster he yells the softer &
more slowly I speak (while being firm!!).
That is the other thing with kids that (if
you can realy stick to it for long enough
- the long enough being the really hard
part!!) if you are consistent & mean
what you say no matter what & carry
through with both good & bad (rewards
& punishments) they do tend to respond
eventually.
Is your 2 year old on any meds for add??
Sometimes add is wrongly diagnosed (it's
the in thing) either because it's "in" or
to shut us parents up!! Also some meds
can make things worse or have no effect
(every child is different). You might
check via a search engine for some
alternative, natural therapies/meds that
might help him.
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