Hey everyone,
I am 18 and recently me and my
boyfriend had a condom break on us, I then
took plan b, boy did that suck. Anyways
we have now decided that I should get on
birth control to prevent this scare in the
future. Now what I need advice on is a
seperate situation. My mom does not know
that I am sexually active I would love to
tell her but unfortunantely she was raised
like a nun and was a virgin till she got
married at the age of 29, so I think she
would be way too disappointed if I tell
her, I know she wouldn't trip too bad, but
she thinks weird because of how she was
raised. I plan on getting on the pills,
so how in the world can I hide that?!?! I
mean I have to take them everyday it seems
impossible. I'm considering not telling
her straight up, but not putting too much
effort into hiding them either, if she
sees them on her own, oh well!! What do
you guys think?
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JanetBee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Apr 2004 Posts: 332
Posted: 05-18-04 01:03am
Hi chula - for those of us who are a bit
older, it used to be exactly like what you
describe, for everybody! It can seem a
bit strange when I see so many teenagers
are having sex at 14 or 15, with their
parents permission, even having their
boyfriends stay over!
But you are 18, and you sound like you are
pretty mature about what you are doing,
and that you have a pretty good
relationship with your mother even if you
don't think she'd be okay about you having
sex. The fact is, she is probably
perfectly aware that these days you aren't
going to wait until you are married, and
she may sort of know you already are doing
it. But there's no point in rubbing her
nose in it, right?
Anyway, I was on the pill living at home,
when I was 17, and it is possible to be
discrete about it. It helps if you know
your mother doesn't snoop through your
things! The trouble when you have to hide
it, is remmembering to take the darn thing
every day, if you can't keep them
someplace where you'll remmember like next
to your toothbrush. What you'll just need
to do is keep them someplace she won't see
them but keep a reminder someplace to make
sure you don't forget, because that is the
main thing, is to take them every single
day without fail!
Good luck!
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Chula616
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 36 Location: Miami, FL
Posted: 05-18-04 01:27am
Thanks janet for your advice. I guess
i'll just start off by keeping them to
myself. My mom doesn't go through my
things because i'm a good kid, like I do
great in school, and i've never been in
any real trouble so she spends most of her
time snooping through my brother's
things...Lol. What worries me most is
what if I have to take them everyday at
noon lets say, and one day we happen to be
having lunch together or in the car on the
way to the mall or something like that.
What in the world will I do, because I
plan on being very consistent with the
time of taking the pills each day in order
to insure that they work to the best of
their ability.
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 05-18-04 02:04am
Hey.....I would suggest taking ur pills at
night....I take mine at 9:30 every night
because I am always awake. But I don't
hide mine, they are ont the kitchen
counter.....Lol. Also, you could get on
the shot, or patch, or the have a vaginal
ring and implants that are used for birth
control. You should explore all your
options before deciding on the pill. I
didn't want to be on the pill but my
doctor wanted me on it for 3 months before
she out me on the shot to make sure I do
ok. But personally, I would go for
another form of birth control. The shot
is only every 3 months and u change ur
patch once a week for 3 weeks and in the
4th week u dont put one on. Pretty easy
huh? Lol. Hope this helps.......
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Chula616
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 36 Location: Miami, FL
Posted: 05-18-04 03:24am
Thanks kissie , I read about the shot and
the patch but i've never ever been on
birth control so I wanted to start pretty
basic, I probably will eventually change
to something more comfortable, but the
shot kind of scares me since they say it
takes away your period completely, I know
most girls would be trilled, but i'd be
scared. Thanks everyone for your
opinions, oh and if you have any
recommended pill brands let me know, or
tell me your experiences with pills.
Thanks again.
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hawn36
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2003 Posts: 15
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Posted: 05-18-04 03:36am
I also went on the pill when I was 18.
I started out on ovcon but I had break
thru bleeding so then I was put on lo
ovral. I'm presently on kariva which are
working great for me!
If you're planning on hiding your "sex
life' from your mom, I recommend taking
the pill first thing in the morning. If
you take it at night and by chance your
not at home at your usual time, you might
forget because you're getting home late or
whatever. First thing in the morning is
pretty basic... You wake up.... Take the
pill and no more worries the rest of the
day.
Its hard to tell your parents that you
want to start having sex. My parents
werent even that religious but I still
dont think I would have told them. I
guess its easier for them to tell their
son to buy a condom than it is to tell
their daughter to go on the pill.
