Couple of weeks ago my girlfriend dumped
me. We'd been going out for 7/8 months -
haven't been bothered about it, until a
few days ago when I found out why. The
week leading up to the break up, she had
been spending a lot of time with one of
her male friends from work, and they kept
seeing each other a bit. I tried to
convince myself that thinking something is
going on, is me being paranoid. Well...I
wasn't paranoid. She didn't even have
the guts to tell me that it is the reason
she left, but still said, 'i wanted to
meet you in person to do this, because I
respect you'. She gave a load of crap
about lack of communication - which was
entirely her fault, and how she was
different around me i.E. Nagging and
saying that I don't deserve it - which is
just caca. And said that she still loves
me - which really angers me off because
she's lying, or trying to make me act warm
to her whilst she simultaneously gets her
way with her new boyfriend. I feel
entirely rejected, there is nothing I can
do to feel any better about myself.
We've probably said about two words to
each other since, but I hate her because I
never expected her to be such a
manipulative, deceiving liar. She is all
happy with her new boyfriend, and I can't
do anything, even getting a new girlfriend
might be stupid as i'm going to university
in september. I don't know what this new
guy has that I don't. In fact I know
this guy quite well and he's ok, but it
still angers me off. It's as if she has
won the war and i'm just a loser with no
hope. My perception of girls and
relationships has changed a lot. I feel
like I wanna get a girlfriend, have sex
with them, and then dump them, in order to
get my revenge on womankind. Everytime I
just picture her and her new boyfriend,
it's like being punched in the face. I
really need to sort my life out and pass
exams etc. How can I move on?
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niceguy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2003 Posts: 150 Location: New York
Posted: 05-21-04 14:42pm
Hey I feel your pain. But you see, its
the era of equality. Lots of guys dump
girls or fool around with multiple girl
friends while telling each of them they
are the only ones for them.
Infidelity is rampant these days. There
is no morality left. If you find a really
nice girl who really loves you and ony
you, then you are one lucky dude.
My suggestion is try to get her out of
your mind. Find someone else though it
might take time to do so. Then make sure
your old girl friend sees you with the new
one and sees how happy you are. Make her
jealous and hurt her like she hurt
you....
Good luck to you.
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 05-21-04 17:27pm
Hey I know what you are going through, my
b/f of 2.5 years dumped me, fine, things
might have fizzled out a little but a week
later I found out that he had been going
to a good friend of mine and confessing
his feelings for her before we broke up.
And this guy almost cheated on me with her
in the beginning of our relatinship and
less than a month after he dumps me they
are togehter and *in love and hoping to
marry* forget about her like I am trying
to forget about them both its difficult
but i'll be better trust me, hang in there
and we arent all deciving liars
meg
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RubyFerrera
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2004 Posts: 18 Location: Barcelona SPAIN
Posted: 05-28-04 20:04pm
It's all about revenge, my friend. And
i'm not talking about any violent type of
revenge, mind you. What you've gotta do
now is give yourself a little confidence
and physical makeover. Buy some new
clothes, go to the beach and/or gym and
cut your hair. Buy yourself a new
cologne and sooner or later some little
bee will be buzzing round your stamen.
Be happy. Be happy and busy and watch
how she comes crawling back. By that
time, you'll already have forgotten her
and be the better for it to boot.
Oh, but I must confess, the title of your
post is a little offensive. Men and
women both have equal capabilities to lie
and deceive. To dump it all on the poor
ladies is just plain unfair. Ruby
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FairyLexi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2004 Posts: 398 Location: chicago
Posted: 09-11-04 02:13am
You should just be the bigger person and
not seek revenge, and don't just sleep
with some girl and dump her that's how
guys get a bad rep. In my opinion all
guys cheat and lie I haven't met one guy
who proves my theory wrong and now you
feel the same way about girls.
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NuBNPrince
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Dec 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Fort Washington, Maryland
Posted: 09-11-04 13:03pm
It's been two days since my 'break up',
per se... I'm still feeling heartbreak,
but i'm beginning to see the light of
getting over her.
I know with a little time, you'll see the
same. Like some of the other said, find
something to keep your mind occupied.
For me, I got more serious about going to
the gym. You'll find that at first,
you'll see beautiful women and compare
them to her, but that'll dissipate in a
few days. The important thing is to get
back to being content with being single
before you try to date again. It'll
erase the revenge you feel in your heart,
and make you appreciate the next person
that comes into your life.
Also... I have to agree with rubyferrera.
As much as it sickens me to hear women
blame men for every single problem they
encounter, we can't just fight back by
blaming them. We all have to learn to
try to understand each other a little
better. In this case, she was just one
girl who you're obviously going to be
better off without.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 09-17-04 10:21am
She seems all happy in her new
relationship.How was she when the two of
you first started dating?All smiles and
kisses,right?Everyone is on their best
behavior in a new relationship and the
newness is wonderful and it's all sunshine
and roses.Then,you both settle in a bit
and things start to get real.There are
issues and things to deal with.Like the
fact that you never put the toilet seat
down or that she never cleans her hair out
of the sink or that one of you has a
spending problem,etc..Some people do not
like the everyday ins and outs of a
relationship,they like the honeymoon
period,when everything is all sweetness
and light.And when that changes,they move
on so they can have that freshness and
excitment of a new relationship.Some
people never learn how to keep a
relationship afloat and are always moving
on.Give yourself some time and move
on.There are decent folk out there,but get
yourself together first!Best to you!Patty
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LuL
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 8
Posted: 10-13-04 11:59am
Now we are like 5 months ago, how things
are going bud ?…… hope all is well
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Daile
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 319 Location: Missouri
Posted: 10-15-04 15:05pm
I know how you feel. I was with a guy for
two years, only to find out at the end of
it that he had been cheating on me the
entire time!!!! Not only that, but he
didn't use protection with anyone. Let me
tell ya, I ran down to get tested when I
found that out;)
anyway, I really don't know how to get
over someone. I mean, i'm not still
interested in this guy anymore, but I
haven't stopped thinking about him either.
It still irks me to no end that I didn't
realize what a friend he was!
One idea on how to make yourself feel
better tho: start a fire! I lit my
fireplace the night I dumped this guy and
burned everything he had ever given me
(except the glass things, cause I didn't
want them to explode, so I just stomped on
them). Believe me, that will make you
feel better. Not to mention, when she
finds out you did that, she'll be
pissed:d
daile
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drexl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 37 Location: canada
Posted: 12-10-04 00:40am
I'm confused so confused about the
relationship, getting dumped(rejected) was
so natural to me, I always maintained that
ther was a fundamental difference between
being dumped and being cheated on first
and then dumped, but two years ago I fell
for someone who didn't do any of that and
it ripped my heart out anyways, I still
cant stop thinking abou this girl, I never
see her and I completly removed her from
my life because I was so jeleous of her
and my roomate that I could not look her
in the eye. If this is really what love
feels like, then love is laim. As for the
woman who is cheating on her husband and
hiding it from him for the sake of your
kid you suck for that, emotional bondage
is crule and nobody deserves to be treated
like that.
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john2001
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2004 Posts: 6 Location: Altoona, Pa
Women Are Manipulative And Scheming, It Is In Their Nature Posted: 12-15-04 10:27am
Men have an awkward nature. We just want
warmth, intimacy, sex, closeness. Women
have an evil nature, they have alterior
motives almost all the time. Also, most
women never want any man who wants them.
If I had a dime for every time a girl said
to me, "john, you are so good to me, so
nice, but..."
girls want men who treat them bad. It is
a fact of life, and there is no getting
around it. I think that is why women
create problems in marriages where they
needn't be, so they can have that drama.
Women are cold, manipulative, scheming
people with an evil nature. It is a fact.
We want to be close to them, we have a
natural need to be close to them, but so
much time is wasted on getting over these
barriers that they set up.
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coolabhi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Dec 2004 Posts: 10 Location: INDIA
Welll.................i Feel You Are All Wrong Posted: 12-15-04 12:07pm
Well, manipulative ,
wicked>>>>>>>>i
feel all these adjective are too harsh fr
gals welll I felt sad reading ur story ,
but thts ur destiny! I got many gals as
my frend even thoug I am frm india n only
16 but yet I can tell you those frenz are
soem of those persons that I trust the
most in my life n there hasnt ever ben a
single chance when my trust is
broken!!!!!!!!!!! so dont blame the
entire race for a handfull lol
take care
abhi
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Roxy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2004 Posts: 25 Location: Il
Posted: 01-05-05 01:36am
Hello john2001
I just read your message about women
being cold,manipulative,scheming,and
evil.Wow,that's kind of harsh!Yes,many
women are all those things but please give
the rest of us women some credit.Yes,many
women like to be with "bad men".And
yes,many women create problems in their
marriage,and many have alterior motives
and have an evil nature,but not all.Maybe
you're used to seeing or being with this
type.Don't think because your "nice" that
women will leave to be with a jerk.Some
jerks need jerks.I just think men and
women who want to spend their time/life
with one another need to be
open,compassionate,faithful,and honest
with each other for them to work out.If
one partner cannot or will not sit down
and figure out the problems they are
facing,yes...It's only human nature(i
think,but is wrong) to find that
"communication" elsewhere.It is so damn
simple for men and women to talk it out
without "running" into someone else's arms
for that support.If a man or woman does
not want to talk it out,i think he or she
has something to hide.You seem like a nice
guy john....But it sounds as if you're
hurting.Sorry.Just try not to blame all
women for your hurt.Take care,have a nice
day and smile!!!!
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digweed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 5 Location: London
Posted: 07-16-07 09:05am
RubyFerrera
wrote:
It's all about revenge, my
friend. And i'm not talking about any
violent type of revenge, mind you. What
you've gotta do now is give yourself a
little confidence and physical makeover.
Buy some new clothes, go to the beach
and/or gym and cut your hair. Buy
yourself a new cologne and sooner or later
some little bee will be buzzing round your
stamen. Be happy. Be happy and busy
and watch how she comes crawling back.
By that time, you'll already have
forgotten her and be the better for it to
boot.
Oh, but I must confess, the title of your
post is a little offensive. Men and
women both have equal capabilities to lie
and deceive. To dump it all on the poor
ladies is just plain unfair.
Ruby
In lame terms living a good life is the
best revenge
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3402 Location: The Beach!
Couple of weeks ago my
girlfriend dumped me. We'd been going
out for 7/8 months - haven't been
bothered about it, until a few days ago
when I found out why. The week leading
up to the break up, she had been spending
a lot of time with one of her male friends
from work, and they kept seeing each other
a bit. I tried to convince myself that
thinking something is going on, is me
being paranoid. Well...I wasn't
paranoid. She didn't even have the guts
to tell me that it is the reason she left,
but still said, 'i wanted to meet you in
person to do this, because I respect you'.
She gave a load of crap about lack of
communication - which was entirely her
fault, and how she was different around me
i.E. Nagging and saying that I don't
deserve it - which is just caca. And
said that she still loves me - which
really angers me off because she's lying,
or trying to make me act warm to her
whilst she simultaneously gets her way
with her new boyfriend. I feel entirely
rejected, there is nothing I can do to
feel any better about myself. We've
probably said about two words to each
other since, but I hate her because I
never expected her to be such a
manipulative, deceiving liar. She is all
happy with her new boyfriend, and I can't
do anything, even getting a new girlfriend
might be stupid as i'm going to university
in september. I don't know what this new
guy has that I don't. In fact I know
this guy quite well and he's ok, but it
still angers me off. It's as if she has
won the war and i'm just a loser with no
hope. My perception of girls and
relationships has changed a lot. I feel
like I wanna get a girlfriend, have sex
with them, and then dump them, in order to
get my revenge on womankind. Everytime I
just picture her and her new boyfriend,
it's like being punched in the face. I
really need to sort my life out and pass
exams etc. How can I move
on?
let me tell you,not all
women are like that! how would you feel if
you found someone after this who you
really liked,more thatn your ex,and she
did that to you?or vice versa,what if she
really liked you and was totally serious
and you did her like that?You shouldn't
punish other people for one persons
actions.not all women are deceiving liars
and cheaters.there are a lot of good ones
out there,you just happened to find a not
so good one.And your title is a bit
offensive
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so dont blame the
entire race for a handfull lol
