I met the most wonderful man 3 years ago
on the internet, a man that dreams are
made of, sensitive, funny, caring,
affectionate, romantic, everything I
thought didnt exist in one man did in this
one. It was like my dreams had come true
and my life was complete. I ended a
previous relationship and moved my man
into my home with my 3 teenage children, I
said to myself "right now its my turn for
some happiness", I was 35, my children
practically grown so they didnt need me so
much anymore. What a rollercoaster ride
it turned out to be.
I sold my home and moved my family far
away from my close relations, friends and
more importantly I took my 2 youngest
children away from their father, friends,
grandparents and school, leaving my eldest
17 yr old daughter with her grandparents
because she didnt want to come.
We had plans of buying a business to work
together and live a happy, comfortable
life.
Far from "happy ever after" what a
disaster it has turned out to be.
My partner didnt work for the first 2
years of our relationship, I financially
kept him, I paid he's depts , he was
jealous of the attention I payed my
children, wanted me all to himself, even
wished my children away to my face, he
played computer games all night and slept
all day while I was out working. We
argued a lot, sometimes about the
children. My 16 yr old son has been in
trouble with the police, I also discovered
he spoked pot. My 13 yr old daughter got
rushed to hospital after drinking too much
while she was out staying over at a
friends house.
Through all of this my partner was still
all those things that I said at the start
and I love him with all my heart.
This weekend things came to a head, we had
an enormous fight about my son (who has
just been arrested for stealing). My
partner practically asked me to chose
between him and my son.
He made me so angry the way he was talking
about my son that I attacked him, so he
called he's parent to come hundreds of
miles to come pick him up and take him
back with them.
Anyway now he is gone, when he left he
asked me if we could just have a couple of
weeks break and then he could come back, I
said I would think about it and let him
know.
I know that it is for the best that we end
our relationship, better for me and my
children, so I must face him and tell him
its over.
I know he will be heartbroken and so am i,
after everything, I still love him so
much, I miss him.
This is so painful i'm finding it hard not
to breakdown completely.
You might think im stupid, gulluble and
living in the clouds, the your probably
right, I dont think im looking for any
answers by writing this, I just needed to
say it.
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ARAero
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 2 Location: PA
the End.... Posted: 07-11-04 21:39pm
I think that we met the same man! I know
what you are going through completely. I
have difficulties with dealing with this
issue myself. At least you were not
married and had a daughter with him. All
the horrible things he did to my son and
myself, I still have a heart for him. I
am having such a difficult time ( I know
that I just repeated myself). The pain
and heartbreak is so much to handle.
Somtimes I just wonder why I am still here
or when will I get over this time in my
life. If only I had a crystal ball to
find the answers to our situation. It's
so difficult letting go but deep down you
know that you what to be with him but he
is not good for you at all. Why do women
fall for these losers who do nothing but
break our hearts? Can't a princess find
her true prince..Let alone true love? I
am here with you completely in pain and
heartache. Please feel free to e-mail me
at lave
nderangel79@aol.Com I would love to
chat!
Hang in there....The sun will come out
tomorrow!
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ajay70
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 4 Location: MN
Sometimes It Just Needs to Be Done Posted: 11-19-04 05:24am
Well to the two of you I am very sorry
that you hav egone through the pains you
have so far. I am at the moment in the
process of getting divorced from a very
short term marriage. I had seen to many
signs of what was to come from him the
cutting off from people starting with
friends and jobs to being jealous of
things from relationships I had with my
family to anything actually. Sometimes
it is coming to the point wher you realize
what is there really to come of this. We
all think and daydream about the one good
moment and multiple it to make up a whole
life. But the sad fact is like I told my
husband people for them most part don't
change from who they truelly are and no
one can force them to change. I have a
friend who also is in a situation that she
basically refuses to get out of. Every
once in a while she says they are through
but they have a daughter together and then
where not together for about 3 years in
which time she had a child with some else
two years later they got back together.
Now he has went from cutting her off from
her hobbies, job, holding the one child
against her saying it was like she cheated
on him even though they were nto together
for a few years. And she keeps saying
well if this happens I will get out but
it never seems to last for even a week.
It has now got to the point were she even
excusses physical battery for him. I
would hate for any of you to get to this
point so sometimes it really is the best
thing to cut away form the people who
don't make you a better you and appreciate
you the way everyone should be from some
that truely loves them. Plus number one
is your children if you don't get out of
this type of relationship for yourself do
it for your child. I have told my
husband this too, I would rather have the
chance of two seprate happy homes than one
bad one that is no good for a child(no
matter what there age). And a side note
for you with the two teens still in your
house, considering your daughter didn't
want to go(oculd have been because of
school friends or a gut instint not to
trust this man you became envolved with)
maybe your other children aren't happy
with this situation either and or doing
what they can to either get your attention
or refcuse their's so they don't have to
deal with things from home. Well I hope
this helps and if anyone wants to talk
just email me sgtbab
yguns@yahoo.Com. Sorry if I go and
go I can't sleep and it is 4 20 somethign
in the morning. Take care and pray for
the best for you all.
