Help Me! I Think I'm Pregnant Again. Posted: 09-18-03 22:58pm
Someone please help me. I am 17 and just
had an ab=ortion a few months ago (worst
thing ever) my parents hate my b/f, I have
been sneaking around to see him. We
really love eachother, and plan on getting
married ina couple years. Well anyway my
period is late..And it never is.. I don't
think I could ever go thro an abortion
again. But I don't know how to tell my
parents if I am. My b/f says hatever I do
he will support me and be by my
side...Please someone I am so scared. I
know if I am this is gods way of telling
me that this all pat of his plan. Please
help
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shortee913
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Sep 2003 Posts: 141 Location: michigan
Posted: 09-18-03 23:10pm
Help me please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 09-18-03 23:48pm
So what was the reason u had the first
abortion?
If those reasons are still the problems
that u will have with this pregnancy, I
dont think u will want to go thru it
again....
So abortion is what u r thinking for the
second time? What do u feel about it?
Can u live with urself having this second
abortion with the same guy?
So if u wanna keep the baby, then how? R
u finanically, physically, and mentally
ready now (after a few months from the
last one)?
If u think u can handle it, then talk to
your mom. Since she already knew about
the first one.
But first thing first, get a pregnancy
test! Buy a few, use one every 4-5 days
for about 2 weeks.
Hello?????where Is Your Brain???? Posted: 09-19-03 09:05am
This is has to be the worst one yet. I
cannot believe that after having
unprotected sex, you got pregnant, and had
an abortion and are again having
unprotected sex!!!!!!!! Wake up girl! Do
you understand what causes
pregnancy!?!?!??!?I don't think you do.
Here's what you need to do.
1. Go to the store and buy a pg test.
2. Take the test.
3. Pray
if you are not pregnant, thank god right
now. He's trying to tell you something.
The second thing you do after you thank
god, is go back to the store and buy a
huge box of condoms. Make the guy pay for
them since he's going to be using them and
you paid for everything else.
If you are pregnant, talk to someone. If
you can't talk to your folks right now
talk to us, talk to someone close to you,
talk to someone responsible and will help
you make a good decision. You don't want
to have another abortion do you? Do you
understand how many couples are out there
that want a child? All I can say is that
you are being incredibly selfish in your
actions. You feel that you can have sex
but when you have to 'pay' for what you
did, you take the 'easiest' way out. It
may not have been easy to have an
abortion, but at least your problem is
taken care of right? Wrong.
Let us know what's going on.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-19-03 11:04am
Obviously its apart of gods plan and your
stupidity. You killed one baby, what are
you going to do? Kill another one?
Havent you heard of getting on the shot?
Pill? Patch? Hello, common sense darlin
you nessed up once, why were you going to
go do it again. Chances are if you keep
doing, gods punishment just might be that
you wont be able to have babies in the
future so I suggest you keep this baby and
cherish it.
Deuteronomy 18-19
18 you deserted the rock, who fathered
you;
you forgot the god who gave you birth.
19 the lord saw this and rejected them
because he was angered by his sons and
daughters.
Wow. Uh I think this is one of the few
times that I am dumbfounded. Well I
couldn't imagine me ever thinking about
having an abortion, when I found out I was
pregnant with cheyenne, it never even
crossed my mind. So I guess we are in a
different boats, because personally I am
kind of a religious type and though shall
not kill, is an extremly important
commandment to me, whether it be a child,
adult or unborn baby, they are all life to
me.
My first piece of advice to you would be
tell you parents. Then go get a blood
test with the doctor. If you are
pregnant, while the decision is up to you,
I wouldn't recommend getting an abortion,
if you don't want this child, find a
willing couple to have an open adoption,
they will pay all of yours and the baby's
medical and your food, etc and then your
problem of raising a baby young is over
and you helped a needy couple with their
dreams without hurting a child.
If your not pregnant, use birth control of
some sort! If you are not ready to be a
parent then sex shouldn't be part of your
life period. There is always a chance of
pregnancy when you have sex and since you
are not being careful you don't seem
mature enough to be making those kinds of
decisions yet.
I pray for your sake that you are not
pregnant because you need time to get your
life together before making yet another
life altering decision.
Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-
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shortee913
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Sep 2003 Posts: 141 Location: michigan
Posted: 09-19-03 15:12pm
I am pg! I took 2 tests today, both
positive.
` well I had the first one b/c of my
parents, I let them choose for me. I am
well was on bc, and it happened again. I
can't tell my parents b/c they don't know
my b/f and I are still together. I know I
m keeping this baby, no matter what I
can't put myself thru an abortion again.
I just need someone to talk to, help me
thro this, my b/f says everything will be
ok, and that its my decision not his. I
just need to talk to someone, I am scared,
embaressed, excited, everything. Please
help...
With love, sami
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-19-03 15:22pm
Sami,
you are only 17 girl, my goodness and you
say your in love? You have so many years
to fall in love and against your parents
wishes? Im sure they have a good reason
not to like the guy and they know whats
best for you. Ok look. You need to
calm down though. You should not go
through another abortion. This is your
mistake, your consequence, your baby, not
your parents. You need to tell them that
you will keep it and that you have been
with your boyfriend still. And apoligize
for sneaking behind their backs. You
have nothing to be embarassed about.
Scared and excited yes. You are
pregnant! But it will be alot of work
and you need to work to save up for this
baby and make sure your boyfriend does the
same. Hopefully he is there for
everything. You need to ask god for
guidance and help you through all of this.
Plan on seeing a doctor even if its
without your parents first. You are 17
and pregnant, you can apply for medi-cal
and they will appoint you to a doctor and
you wont pay anything. They will give
you vitamins and a check up. But dont
have another abortion ok? Take care, im
here if you need anything or someone to
talk to.
Ok, So Your Gonna Have a Baby Posted: 09-19-03 21:28pm
I'm so happy that this time you're gonna
keep it! Ladies, correct me if i'm wrong
but isn't the easiest time to get pg is
right after an abortion or miscarry? I
mean it's really really easy and while
breast feeding. For some reason unknown
to me.
Ok well anyway, now your next step is to
tell your folks. They are gonna find out
sooner or later when you get big. I was
21 when I got pregnant and my mother was
hateful. My father-concerned. My mother
came around in a few months when the baby,
her grandchild, started kicking and she
wanted to feel it. I think she was upset
about being a young grandma...But now that
child is her pride and joy. She loves him
so much. I'm sure yours will come around
too. As soon as you tell them and after
all the tears and crying...You have to
decide what to do next. Are you and the
bf staying together? Are you staying in
school? I hope. Are you going to work at
all? You'll need to find a doctor and all
that fun stuff. Then after a few months
and you are sure you are not going to
misscary comes the sort of fun time. You
get to pick out stuff for the baby. In my
opinion I would check thrift stores and
resale shops. You can always find good
deals in resales...I used to work in them.
Cribs are about half price, as well as
walkers, play pens, strollers and the
likes...And the ones I worked in, once
upon a child, had great clothing. My son
wore clothing from there since he was 18
months.
I will be praying for your health and
happiness. I know you will do the right
thing. Even if you two don't stay
together...This little person will change
your life forever. Don't forget about
going to college still!!! It will be hard
but you can do it!
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shortee913
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Sep 2003 Posts: 141 Location: michigan
Its Me Again! Posted: 09-20-03 13:52pm
Please if anyone knows how to get
assistance in michigan pleasel et me know.
I know if my b/f and ii do this we will
need help...So if you know anything/ how
to apply pleas elet me know asap. Also I
just wanted to say altho me and my b/f are
young we are very much in love, and we
will be together for a long time. We have
been together for a year and half and will
be together forever ...Please just help me
By the way if you have yahoo, I am online
right now so if you want to talk
mommytocheynaomi
good luck and best wishes
-jessika-
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PnaiMaMi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 29 Location: New Jersey
Posted: 09-20-03 20:26pm
You can go to plannedparenthood.Com and
see if they have clinics that you can go
to. You know it's your decision whether
you want your 'rents to know that your
preggy because a doctor can keep it
confident. When are you turning 18? I'm
17 and will be 18 in 4 months. Don't be
scared just take responsibility for what
you've done. Having a baby shouldn't be a
regretful thing.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-22-03 11:21am
You actually should go to the courtsor
hospital and look up medi-cal, and other
assisting programs. Im not sure about
michigan.
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liana_1013
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Greenville, PA
Pregnant Posted: 12-15-05 11:57am
I remember when I found out I was preg. I
thought it was going to ruin everything.
My dad and I are real close so it took me
a month to tell him but he was wonderful.
Now he's the best grandpa I could ask for
my little guy who is so adorable. I don't
believe in abortion so I really had no
option there. Adoption was tempting
because my b/f kicked me out when he found
out. Then just when I thought I had hit
the bottom I met a wonderful guy had my
little one and now my life's going great.
Sure your going to give up some things now
but you can always go back. Your parents
will be your rock sure at first the'll be
upset but they'll get over it if you wnt
to talk more email me liana_1
013@yahoo.Com good luck
