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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 06-14-04 12:09pm
Jeez! This is just too shocking to read!
Like, I live in canada so I get free
healthcare, and i'm still barely making it
by! It doesnt matter if ur boyfriend
makes 3-4 hundred a week and u make 150.
I made 150 a week and my bf made 500 and
we're still trying to figure out how to
pay for everything baby. U cant budget
everything in life becuz trust me hun, it
doesnt work out that way. And as everyone
said, u cant forget about rent and
insurance on the apartment, phone bill
cable bill heat bill water bill, etc. And
if u say ur gonna live at home, well then
thats just poor poor plannin! I've seen
girls "plan" to get pregnant at 15 and 16
and I could see 4 out of those 5 girls
leeave their babies with their moms all
the time and act like they dont even have
a child. As for girls who accidently fall
pregnant, they usually see what they did
and try to make it better for themselves
by becoming great mothers. Ur planning is
gona lead u right into bad news and I know
that no one can stop u from having a baby.
But think about this, uve thought about
having a baby, have u thought what
pregnancy's gonna be like? Oh sure its
cute to see pics of everyones bellies, but
think about the mornin sickness, the back
pain, the kicks in the ribs in the middle
of the night, summer heat, etc. U cant
plan how pregnancy and raising a baby are
gonna be, no matter how smart u are. So u
dont have all ur facts straight and by
showing this, ur definetly not ready to be
a mom.
Shauna
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 06-14-04 13:38pm
All I can say is I dunno where you got
that list, but a lot of it is
wrong.....And my baby doesn't quite use 75
diapers a week.......He uses about 40.
But the expenses add up in other places.
You didnt put maternity clothes or child
birth classes, and u know u will want to
take infant cpr and first aid bcuz what if
something happens and you don't know how?
And hun you need a lot more clothes and
towels and wash cloths than that! You
can't predict how many wipes you will use,
because I use them for everything!
Washing baby off, cleaning a place where
he spit up, wiping his butt, everything!
You will also always want hand sanitizer
for when you arent near a sink. You need
a changing pad for public places because
you dont want to lay baby down on those
dirty changing tables. You use way more
than 4 nursing pads in a day, and unless
you plan to wash bottles 3 times a day,
you need more than that. And strollers
arent that cheap! And you have to buy
baby toys. Educational ones! Not rinky
dink 8 dollar ones! Babies get bored and
they have to have something to do that
stimulates them and you won't find that in
most 8 dollar toys I am going to stop now
because this is long winded but hun, you
have no idea what it takes to care for a
baby. I didn't ever imagine I would need
these things or how expensive they would
be. Trust me, you are not ready for a
baby.
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chrystinmarie
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jun 2004 Posts: 128
Posted: 06-14-04 15:00pm
Gaby come live with me now and for a month
after I have my daughter. Of course I
love her and I love being pregnant, but do
you have a single clue what this pregnancy
is doing to my body? I am in constant
pain because she is moving around and
kicking and I am very tiny(short and
118-120lbs). Nextly I live with a baby
that is almost 2 months old, and I love
jenna too, but I know the work that my
sister puts into caring for her. Girl
just wait…a long time!
Chrystin
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mommabear16
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 1222 Location: illinois
Posted: 06-14-04 16:36pm
A lot of people who are on here, are
mothers..Or mothers-to-be....Okay...So you
need to listen to us. Because we know
what we're talking about.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 06-14-04 17:02pm
Ok girls.. Im going to think about your
advice tho... I really will. I know it
sounds like I just "want you to like me",
I know.. But youre right, you do know
best are telling me the straightout
thruth.. But I really will think long and
hard about it, and im not going to start
trying (becuae I havnt started yet, im too
scared to make that move)
<3
gaby
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 06-14-04 18:27pm
Your pathetic gaby.Absolutely pathetic
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Ok, This May Be Long Posted: 06-14-04 18:47pm
This is prolly going to be long..
Alright, well.. Ive been sitting in my
room thinking about this for awhile now..
Its actually the first time a sat down to
think about anything (regarding sex,
pregnancy, my boyfriend and I relationship
etc..) and well I guess your right. I
forced myself to believe my little "dream"
would work out perfectly, when (thoughi
dont like it) I really know it wont.
Btw, im not lying to you about anything..
You may be thinking 'oh shes just going
to go on bs'ing us, ill never believe
anything she says'.. And im sure some of
you will never trust me again, but I
understand that because I did lie.. But
right now im telling you the full out
truth.
I know some of you were wondering about
the prices like where I found them and
stuff.. Well I just used the ones that
the site gave me. . I didnt really want
to dissagree because again that would go
against my unrealistic dream..
Before I was going out with jason, I was
set onwaiting to have sex until marriage,
and when I just gave in that first time...
It bothered me, but I just forgot about
the whole idea. Idk why tho, I told jay
about this.. And he felt bad that he
ruined my hope and kinda pressured me..
So we decided to really not have sex
often, maybe not at all.. At least for a
while, until I get this whole 'i wanna be
pg thing out of my system' and I see how
it is to not think im pg for at least a
cycle!
Also, im going on 4 vacations this summer
which im looking very forward to! Then id
think about if I were pregnant, id have to
stay home and work for my baby, and I dont
want to do that.. Before I just thought
'oh yeah itll be great, I can go and have
fun and then just come back and work' but
thats 4 weeks of work im missing.. Which
adds up to alot of money that id need if I
became pregnant!
Like I said before, I know you will still
think im lying to you and that you will
maybe think I am going to try and
somthing, but im really not! I havnt
started trying yet, im still taking my
birthcontrol, and we use condoms every
single time!
Another reason why I thought having a baby
would be the 'perfect thing' is because
this girl down the street from me (bri)
shes 17 turning 18 just had a baby.. Ive
mentioned her before.. Her life is so
perfect.. She doesnt work, just stays
with her baby all day, goes out when she
wants, her mom grandma or sister babysits
for her.. Is going to graduation and went
to prom. Etc.. I guess I just looked at
only her and not all the other girls who
have to provide for there babies
themselves, and are good mommies, real
mommies.. Im not saying shes not a good
mom because she goes out, but shes just
not. She doesnt know how to take care of
ababy anyway, but thats a different
story.
So, to sum up everything. It was a dumb
thought to begin with, I wasnt thinking
rationally, and im not going to try to get
preggerz.. Im not even going to have sex
for at least a month or two.. Please dont
think im lying about this, im staying on
my b/c and usin condoms, and taking your
advice. . Thats why you gave it tome, in
hopes id use it, right? Well im going to.
<3
gaby
sorry about it being so long, I thought
about a lot and had a lot to say!
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 06-14-04 19:14pm
First I would like to say that this sucks.
I don't care if ya'll think the girl is
dumb ,unprepared ,not trustworthy, or
whatever. First I see that this was
brought from another part of the forum,
iwould like to say that it really wasn't
called for. And if she did lie , does
that really affect anyone on this board
but her? No. So why is it such a big
deal. I am 17 and pregnant ,and to tell
you the truth I have no idea what the hell
I am doing. But that is why I am here to
get help and advice ,not to be criticized.
And that is most likely the reason she
came here to. And eventhough her plan is
most likely way off ,at least she tried to
make some kind of a plan. A lot of people
say that you can't plan your life b/c
anything can happen ,and while it is true
that anything can pop up. But I have a
plan too ,and my plan for the next few
years of my life will never be right on
,but if you don't have a plan you'll be
wandering around life aimlessly ,and that
is when anything will pop up and you won't
be able to do anything about it. But if
you had a plan all you would have to do is
amend you plan. So a plan is required in
life.So this girl wants to have a baby so
what. I say stop trying to put her down
,and offer help and support nd if you
can't do that ,well don't do anything.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 06-14-04 19:20pm
Thanks for being on my side.. I dont mind
them dissagreeing (sp?) with me tho, I
dont expect people to offer me advice on
how to get pregnant anyways, but whatever
I think its over now (me wanting to be
pregnant)
<3
gaby
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Jenni
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Aug 2003 Posts: 49 Location: PA
Posted: 06-14-04 19:48pm
Yea I went through some kind of stage
where I had been with my bf for a year and
wanted to be pregnant and everytime I had
sex I thought I might be pregnant but it
was just the fact that I wanted to be
pregnant that made me think I was...I got
over it and not because of what people
said but I just did...Even though I love
babies..Ive come to realize that its not
all fun and games..My friend has been
pregnant 4 times and while each time she
has chosen to have an abortion...I still
see the emotional pain and im so not ready
to deal with it..So I guess im just saying
I understand where your coming from and I
encourage you to wait until your out of
highschool and completely ready..But I
cant tell ya what to do so im just gonna
say..Goodluck with all of your decisions
and if ya need/wanna talk my email is ultim
atewonder@msn.Com
~jenn
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 06-14-04 19:57pm
Thanks for wishing me luck!! Yeah, I
think everyone goes through that stage,
its just instinct, you just have to learn
to cnotrol it, ya know?
<3
gaby
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
Posted: 06-14-04 20:25pm
Newlife- sorry, wether this is a forum or
not, most of us are not going to 'support'
and cheer on a 14 or 15 yr girl to try to
get pregnant! And hello.... Good
thing we did all give our real advice (and
sometimes people need that reality
check!!!) but supposibly gaby has
re-thought and realized it may not be the
best idea (i dont know if I fully believe
she all the sudden changed her mind..
But hey, u never know, and im hoping that
its the truth)...So im glad we all spoke
the truth. I wont sugar coat a teen
trying to have a baby and no one else
should either....Most of us have
experience and were going to give people
advice, wether its the kind they want to
hear or not.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 06-14-04 20:39pm
Yeah, and im thankful for your advice too!
Ultimatly youve I guess changed my
future, for the better!
<3
gaby
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 06-14-04 20:43pm
I didn't say you should sugar coat
anything ,i do believe in being blunt.
And as my daddy always told me when I was
a little girl "always speak your heart and
yor mind ,but don't disrespect". And
disrespecting her is just what people on
here are doing ,so I encourage giving real
advice ,but some people are just plain
mean and I don't care what anyone says
,than is not called for. As I said
before people come for advice ,not to get
jumped on ,and so many people have made
comments that are not constructive ,and
are only posted to make her feel bad.
Did I say to cheer her on? No. Did I
say to support her trying to get pregnant
? No. But you should try to be
encouraging and not demeaning. If you
have to tell her that you think she is
doing the wrong thing well than say that
and tell her why. But don't say
something just to try and make her feel
like an ass. And like I said if she lied
,so what ,how is is hurting you, that is
her problem and hers alone. She may not
be mature or very wise or educated. But
ya'll don't know her and don't pretend
like you do just because you've read some
of her post. I mean I am 17 ,so most on
here would think ,that I am in high
school, just graduated, or dropped out.
But ya'll don't know me. I am 17 ,i am a
college student ,and I graduated high
school when I was 15. So did that throw
you for a loop? So everyone should stop
trying to act like they know this girl,
and I don't care what she has posted.
She has changed her mind about trying to
get pregnant ,well great for her. But do
you really think that you had a hand in
that by critisizing her? Because I
don't. And who knows she may have
changed her mind ,but she may still want
to ty to get pregnant ,and has just posted
that she change her mind to get all of
ya'll off of her back. And if you don't
understand what I am saying here than you
may as well give up because you never
will.
karim1804
wrote:
newlife- sorry, wether this
is a forum or not, most of us are not
going to 'support' and cheer on a 14 or 15
yr girl to try to get pregnant! And
hello.... Good thing we did all give
our real advice (and sometimes people need
that reality check!!!) but supposibly gaby
has re-thought and realized it may not be
the best idea (i dont know if I fully
believe she all the sudden changed her
mind.. But hey, u never know, and im
hoping that its the truth)...So im glad we
all spoke the truth. I wont sugar
coat a teen trying to have a baby and no
one else should either....Most of us have
experience and were going to give people
advice, wether its the kind they want to
hear or not.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 06-14-04 20:47pm
Wow, how did you graduate at 15, if you
dont mind me askin?
<3
gaby
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 06-14-04 20:48pm
I skipped two grades (i was in gifted).
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 06-14-04 20:55pm
Wow, good for you! Thats amazing!
<3
gaby
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
Posted: 06-14-04 21:11pm
Umm newlife.. First of all ur new..
.So dont sit there and try to say we cant
know anyone on here just because its
through posts. Ive talked to gaby many
many times off the forum as well through
im and also through the forums. And no,
many of us dont know u, but thats because
u havent been here long. Many people
know gaby and her story better then u
think ,therefore they may be more blunt,
or come off more 'mean' but thats because
they know all the facts that u dont know.
And it does affect people when people
lie on here because believe it or not,
people do get to know eachother on here
and dont like it when their lied to. Not
sayin gabys 'lie' was a big deal because
really it wasnt huge or anything, but just
in general, it does matter to us if people
lie. Sometimes just telling someone
nicely isnt enough and sometimes it takes
a little bit more pushing to get through
their heads. Which proven, obviously
sometimes can work if she is telling the
truth and changed her
mind..................
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
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