Sexually Transmitted Diseases Forum

I am a very healthy 27 year old mother of one. I separated from my husband a few years go and he due to the separation left the country to travel and grow up.

Well, on his travels, he contracted the hpv virus in a form or a genital warts through sexual intercourse. I had not heard from him for over nine months and since we were always in contact I was desperately worried. He has finally made contact and told me what has happened.

As we have been together for more years than many other couples much older than us and I still love him so much, I cannot allow him to call himself "damaged goods" as he now sees himself.

This virus actually draws me closer to him as the thought of losing him has made me greatful that his stupidity wasn't worse and I know that he has learnt a very hard lesson as the man that used to shine, currently feels worthless and never good enough for me ever again.

I see him differntly to that. I see a man who will truely now love me for the fact that I see him for him and not for one mistake he made because of being human. It happens even to the innocent as you know.

I have done so much reading up on it now that I feel alot better about the whole situation. He only had one tiny one on the tip of his penis. The size of a pencil tip and had it burnt off immediately but its still always there.

The main thing is, I believe, that if you are careful, and see a sexual health clinic regularly together for regular tests as the virus shows up negative allot of the time. This way there may even be times permitted for trying for a baby but get the medical advice you need.

You may just keep it from him. I'm at a higher risk as a female but am willing to work with this. Even from the distance at first for him to get the courage to come home and face me as he doesn't want to see me cry.

Condoms help but arnt always completely safe. As it doesn't cover the whole area. Maybe my situation is different because of where the wart was. The condom may cover the area. Ive read to never have sexual intercourse during any outbreak and examine yourself regularly. And use a condom where ever possible.

The problem is that is is also spread through sexual intercourse, not just skin to skin when there is an outbreak. It all depends on how bad your virus is.

As soon as my husband returns, we are going to a clinic together for all the tests there is and advice on how to live with it as a healthy couple. He has had 38 different std tests and only came up with genital warts. Take it as a positive and not a negative.

There is hope sweety. I am not giving up and we are willing to do whatever it takes to live a normal life together and avoiding myself from getting the virus and that includes another child. 2 out of 3 in a relationship usually get it but some never do.

Smile. Do it together. There is so many out there. I wigged out at first. Cried and cried and thought, it will never be the same again. But after reading a novel of information. I feel our relationship can even be better because right now, I just want him home. It builds more trust. Doesn't it. Laughing

i hope this helps allot of people. There is not much information when you are talking about a healthy relationship with a hpv infected parter.

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