Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Please Please Help Me!!!! Posted: 06-18-04 09:19am
Okay heres the story the night be4 raven
and I started going out this guy I had met
here asked me if I wanted to go to the
hotel his grandparents own w/ his brother
and his g/f to hang out and party and
that...Well I finished my second beer and
I wasnt feeling right and started to feel
sleepy so I layed but be4 I did I looked
at the clock it was 1am...I didnt wake up
till 6am and I was half way undressed and
I kno I wasnt when I layed down I asked
him wat happen he kept saying nothing he
was being really mean to me yelling for me
to get my clothes on and caca I havent
seen or talk to him since and I kno
something happened.........Well heres wat
I need help on the other day when raven
was over here I just told him we went to a
hotel drank and had sex b/c I didnt want
to get emotional or anything.....Well two
nights ago I told him the whole story he
got mad at me for lieing to him bout it he
was like ur trying to justify it y cant u
just admit u messed up y couldnt u tell me
about this in the beginning I told him b/c
I hadnt told anyone and I figuered if I
just didnt talk about it would go away he
was like well it didnt see...Well
yesterday he told me that I hurt him and
that u doesnt trust me and he is second
guessing everything I have said in the
past and that he wanted to break
up....Well I did some talking and we r
back together....But I talked too him last
night and he isnt sure if he loves me the
same way anymore he isnt sure if he wants
to spend his life w/ me he isnt sure if I
still mean something to him but he still
does love me...... Wat do I do to get him
to be sure of those things wat do I say to
make him realize that im the same person
he fell in love w/ in the beginning my
heart feels like its in a million pieces
please help me!!!
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 06-18-04 09:25am
I can't believe raven would react that way
to you telling him something like that. I
know most guys wouldn't be mad at .Y.O.U.
They would want to break the other guy's
legs. You do realize if that guy had sex
with you then it .I.S. Rape and if raven
doesn;t understand how serious and
emotionally draining dealing with
something like that is then....
I think you should be proud of yourself
for getting up the courage to tell someoen
about what happened and raven just seems
to be beating around the bush (one day he
loves you, the next he doesnt know, or he
doesnt want to be with you). Does he
understand what an emotional rollercoaster
that creates for you? If anything he
should trust you more and be supportive of
you after telling him something like that
not accusing you or telling you he wont
trust you anymore. Sorry hun I don't know
what to say only that if you ever need to
talk im here (and as a sidenote I have
been through a sexual assault before; I
hate calling it rape). I'm so sorry he's
acting like this but just know that its
.S.O. Good you told someone.
Lots of love
tanya
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 06-18-04 09:29am
Last edited by insurancegirl on 11-03-04 17:17pm; edited 1 time in total
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angel4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2004 Posts: 236 Location: New York
Posted: 06-18-04 10:15am
Jeni- try not to stress too much, hun. I
have learned by now that guyz always need
alittle time to cool off, then they can
have a clear head to talk things over and
forgive. The worst thing to do is push
them when thier not ready to listen to
reason. Sigh, they are just a diffrent
species all together. They cant
understand that we girlz need to talk
things over and make it all better "right
away"!!! I'm sure he'll come around, hun,
just be patient, and in the mean time,
talk to us about it!! We're here 4 ya!
