Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Please Help Me! Posted: 06-18-04 10:06am
Okay heres the story the night be4 raven
and I started going out this guy I had met
here asked me if I wanted to go to the
hotel his grandparents own w/ his brother
and his g/f to hang out and party and
that...Well I finished my second beer and
I wasnt feeling right and started to feel
sleepy so I layed but be4 I did I looked
at the clock it was 1am...I didnt wake up
till 6am and I was half way undressed and
I kno I wasnt when I layed down I asked
him wat happen he kept saying nothing he
was being really mean to me yelling for me
to get my clothes on and caca I havent
seen or talk to him since and I kno
something happened.........Well heres wat
I need help on the other day when raven
was over here I just told him we went to a
hotel drank and had sex b/c I didnt want
to get emotional or anything.....Well two
nights ago I told him the whole story he
got mad at me for lieing to him bout it he
was like ur trying to justify it y cant u
just admit u messed up y couldnt u tell me
about this in the beginning I told him b/c
I hadnt told anyone and I figuered if I
just didnt talk about it would go away he
was like well it didnt see...Well
yesterday he told me that I hurt him and
that u doesnt trust me and he is second
guessing everything I have said in the
past and that he wanted to break
up....Well I did some talking and we r
back together....But I talked too him last
night and he isnt sure if he loves me the
same way anymore he isnt sure if he wants
to spend his life w/ me he isnt sure if I
still mean something to him but he still
does love me...... Wat do I do to get him
to be sure of those things wat do I say to
make him realize that im the same person
he fell in love w/ in the beginning my
heart feels like its in a million pieces
please help me!!!
Well i'm not sure if this is too late to
post. But I just came across it, read it,
and decided to write something. You have
to understand that he is hurt because you
did lie to him, if you were honest with
him in the first place this would not have
happened, but I know that at the time you
were not thinking because you wanted it to
go away but at least you came clean. Did
you know what happened that night because
you said you were past out and woke up
with your clothes not on. That too me
would be this guy took advantage of the
situation. You have to be careful when
drinking and you can't be trusting people.
What you will have to do is prove to him
that he means the world to you and that
you really are sorry for having to lie in
the first place but that you regret and
realized your fault.
I really hope things work out it takes
time to heal what hurts but overtime it
will be ok.
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Jamie2006
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2004 Posts: 27
This Is Terrible Posted: 07-14-04 17:00pm
It sounds to me like you were druged and
then taken advantage of. Did you feel
like you had had sex? Was there semen
on/in you. Were you sore? If so you were
raped. If so what happened to you is a
terrible thing and I can understand why
you wouldn't want to tell anyone that can
be very scary. Your boyfriend may just be
shocked and not know how to deal with this
so give him time, not too much though
because ultimately if he loves you he
needs to be there for you and support you
as you go through the emotions of healing
from something this terrible. I hate to
say this but if he can't be there for you
when you go through tough times than you
shouldn't be wanting him around at all.
Through thick and thin. That is what it
is all about.
