Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 1410 Location: burlington
Doctor's Appointment Posted: 06-18-04 13:06pm
Well I went for my check up and everything
is looking great. They said my weight
gain is perfect( I dont feel it is lol)
and we will be having a big healthy baby
girl the doc felt around
to see where the baby was(from outside)
and her head is down..And her heartbeat is
in the 130's. So everything is good and
now I go every two weeks.
My mom suprised us by showing
up at the doctors office(i live with ryan
for the summer and was suppose to stay
forever). Well she was showin us the
shoes she bought for baby mackenzie and
all this other stuff. I wrote her a
really long email tellin her how I dont
want to go back home..Well she wrote me
back saying I have to go back and so ryan
and I got in a big argument on the way
home..I started crying because I cant do
this by myself. Im scared im gonna lose
ryan because I wont have time for him
since ill be doin everything myself. He
said he will not drive down there everyday
or even everyweekend or anything like that
to see us but I know he will but he says
he wont. Im really scared im gonna lose
him and I dont want to. He says if I go
into labor when im at my moms thats the
only time he'll come down but then he'll
leave right away when its over I think he is upset
right now but I dont know what to
do...What can I do?? I dont wanna lose
ryan and I dont want to seperate us and
the baby...This is soo flippin confusing!!
I need help so please if yall can help
us, id really appreciate it.
~heather,ryan and mackenzie
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angel4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2004 Posts: 236 Location: New York
Posted: 06-18-04 13:11pm
Awww hun, im so sorry to hear the problem
youre having. But first of all congrats,
on your dr's appt.
Since i'm new, I dont really fully
understand your situation, but I would
like to help and offer advice....Can u
briefly explain the situation and why u
have to move back to your mom's house and
stuff? Sorry if it is a pain, but I
havent been around this forum long, so im
not excactly sure what yur situation is...
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 06-18-04 13:13pm
Awww heather im so sorry to see this
happening. Are u going to move back home?
U and ryan should look into getting a
place for u and ur baby... U should sit
down and talk wit ur mom (when she's on
one of her good days lol) and explain to
her how u feel that ryan should be there
also with the child while u and him both
raise it as a family.
Ur 17 right? I dont know much about the
laws in the us but I think ur able to go
out on your own and its your right.
Tell ryan he shouldnt be like this to you.
He's supoosed to be supportive and yes he
may be upset but ur not allowed to be
stresed out in this stage of pregnancy.
Try and relax, and really try not to stres
about it but talk to btoh of them and
maybe even all three of u can sit down and
talk and figure out what a good situation
would be. Try and help ur mom understand
how much ryan needs to be in the baby's
life and try to tell ryan that if things
dont work out the way u want, he shouldnt
be taking it out on u becuz hes upset. He
should make the best out of it as he can
becuz it may take some time, but u and him
could raise the baby together in your own
apartment and ur mom should be able to
live with that. I hope everything works
out and im sorry to see u going thru this
shauna
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 06-18-04 13:17pm
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noodleandshorty
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 1410 Location: burlington
Posted: 06-18-04 13:49pm
To answer the question of why I have to go
back is because of school since im only 17
im not done with high school I have this
year left(senior year) but mom is lettin
me go to a tech to finish so I can be home
with the baby all day. I just got off the
phone with her and was on it for like
45min or so and had a long talk. She says
once I graduate I can leave, she just
wants me to finish school. Shauna I cant
leave or stay here unless im 18 otherwise
ryans parents can get charged with
kidnapping and thats a felony. So that
wouldnt be good. Otherwise we would get
our own place and raise mackenzie. But
mom is settin up my bedroom at home for me
and mackenzie to come back(for when
mackenzie gets here) so I dont have to do
everything. And so I can relax. Shes
really excited about the baby and I cant
blame her I mean shes gonna be a grandma
but its tearin me and ryan apart and it
hurts sooo bad because I dont wanna loose
him. But we went thru 11months with bein
apart(only saw each other on weekends) and
im positive we can last another 6months(i
turn 18 6months after mackenzie is born),
just its gonna be hard. Ryans parents
said that theyd come to my moms and visit
me and the baby and all that stuff so they
support everything that is goin on just as
long as me and baby are ok.
Angel4ever...My mom wants me to come home
in august or somewhere around there so I
can have the baby down by my house(moms)
im upnorth at my fiance's house and I was
gonna stay here and have the baby and
start a new life up here..But since im 17
my mom has all the power and says I have
to come back..So I have to go back and
ryan is very upset and I am too but I dont
let it bother me because I know in the end
we are gonna be a happy family and the
time apart is only gonna be short term.
But I hope everything turns out great and
I hope baby mackenzie comes out soon!! O
by the way...Does mackenzie rose or
mackenzie lynn sound good? Mom thought of
mackenzie rose and I never thought of
that...What yall think?
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Riversmommy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Posted: 06-18-04 13:50pm
Hey sweetie im really sorry to hear
that....But I moved out when I was 17 if u
dont want to go back u dont have
to.....Especially since u have a baby
together if ur not endangering urself or
that baby then u are fine just where u
r!!!! Talk to ur mom some more figuere
out why she wants u back and all that !!
Hang in there sweetie I know where ur
coming from completely!! Love u girl!
Jen river and raven
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 06-18-04 13:55pm
Last edited by insurancegirl on 11-03-04 17:24pm; edited 1 time in total
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lilmama2b_oct04
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 1970 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 06-18-04 14:07pm
I dont want you
to leave...Dont stress, it will be ok.
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angel4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2004 Posts: 236 Location: New York
Posted: 06-18-04 14:08pm
Aww, sweetie, I understand how u feel. Im
sure you dont want it to have to come down
to you leaving your mom and never seeing
her again. She seems to want whats best
for you and mackenzie and she seems
excited for you, but she probably dosnt
understand how much u will miss ryan and
how scared you are of loosing him.
1. Couldnt you go to school where ryan
lives? Or is that not an option?
2. If your mom insists you stay with her,
couldnt ryan move in too?
You seem so scared of losing ryan, but
honestly, I dont think he would ever leave
you, just judging from what u say, what he
says, and the way you guys are together.
He so obviosly loves you and mackenzie.
He is probably feeling hurt and confused
too. But belive me, hun, I understand how
much u need him, especially now.
Im sure yall will figure out some solution
to all this. I think its great that both
of your families seem supportive.
Keep on posting about it, share all your
feelings and between all us girls, your
family and your fiance, im sure a solution
will come up.
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PregnaJordan
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Posts: 2908
Posted: 06-18-04 14:47pm
U dont have to be 18!? I left home at
16...My mom could have called the cops but
she didnt sincei was turning 17 so
soon...Once u turn 17 ur "legally" an
adult, but under ur parents until ur
18..Its weird..But theres notihing she can
do at 17
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 06-18-04 14:48pm
Yep jordan's right it's only kidnapping if
your under 16. After that you can make
your own decisions
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 06-18-04 15:35pm
Hey hun,
i am sorry for what you are going through
but do you think it is possible that your
mother sees something in ryan that you
don't? I don't know him very well but
it's possible. I mean, I almost married
dewitt and moved away and now it has been
over a week since he has called! He
doesn't really care at all.....And I am so
glad my mom didn't let me make that
mistake. Ryan might be a good guy but if
he really truly loves you, he can wait a
few more months. And trust me, when you
are trying to adjust to life with a new
baby, you will want to be at home. I
think it would be good to just think
things through, and decide what you really
want. Ryan may not always be there, but
your mom will. Just think about it hun
and I love ya!
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noodleandshorty
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 1410 Location: burlington
Posted: 06-18-04 17:06pm
Ok well I had a really long talk on the
phone with my mom and we made an
agreement. She said I come back home go
to the tech and if I graduate early I can
leave right away but otherwise if I plan
out graduate I can leave. She just wants
me home from school which I understand,
she doesnt want me to end up like her
because she was in my shoes and didnt
finish school. So I can see were she is
comin from. Yes ryan and I are gonna get
married but she will not sign the papers
because she wants me to be sure he is the
one before she does anything. She told me
she loves ryan like hes her own and does
not hate him. So she doesnt see anything
differently. Jordan, I dunno if the laws
are different or what but we thought the
same thing til we asked ryans lawyer and
he said they can get charged with
kidnapping. Its stupid, I even said what
if im willingly staying? And he said his
parents are still allowing me to stay in
the house so it would be kidnapping. Its
stupid I know. I know my mom will always
be there for me but I dont want me kid to
grow up or be around smoke(pot and ciggs)
or drinking or grow up in the enviroment I
had to which was an abusive home. Ryan
cant move in cause his job is up here and
we need his job since I dont have a job,
so basically we are stuck and my mom wants
me to go to school down by her. Ryan and
I sat down and had a talk durin his lunch
break and we are ok now and he is ok with
me goin back by my moms..Hes not happy
about it but he understands now cause of
the schooling. And hes excited because if
I graduate early I wont be gone longer
than 2months so hopefully
everything works out. He wants to make
another deal with my mom...Heres the deal:
I have the baby up here then when its time
for me to start school I will go back.
Because ryan wants to be their for when im
in labor(hes afraid he'll miss it since
hes two hours away). But im sure he'll
make it but we'll see what mom has to say
about that deal thanks for the help
girls yall really do know how to make
someone feel good with your replies. Im
just really scared that I cant do it by
myself..I mean I know I can but I dont
wanna type thing ya know? Im really
excited that mackenzie will be here soon
but its kinda scary at the same time. Ya
know what im saying? I was just watchin a
show and this girl gave birth and her baby
died..I started crying? It was weird..I
dont wanna have a stilborn or anything
like that id die if that ever happened.
Why does that happen?? Does anybody know?
Heather
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Riversmommy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Posted: 06-18-04 17:27pm
Im really happy that figuered things out
w/ ur mom!! Im doing it by myself right
now while raven and I get caca together it
is hard really hard b/c river is the
spitten image of raven when he was a baby
and it breaks my heart when I look at him
especially when he laughed and smiled the
first time b/c raven wasnt here its really
hard but I kno u can do it sweetie! Love
u!!
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the doc felt around
to see where the baby was(from outside)
and her head is down..And her heartbeat is
in the 130's. So everything is good and
now I go every two weeks.
I think he is upset
right now but I dont know what to
do...What can I do?? I dont wanna lose
ryan and I dont want to seperate us and
the baby...This is soo flippin confusing!!
I need help so please if yall can help
us, id really appreciate it.
thanks for the help
girls yall really do know how to make
someone feel good with your replies. Im
just really scared that I cant do it by
myself..I mean I know I can but I dont
wanna type thing ya know? Im really
excited that mackenzie will be here soon
but its kinda scary at the same time. Ya
know what im saying? I was just watchin a
show and this girl gave birth and her baby
died..I started crying? It was weird..I
dont wanna have a stilborn or anything
like that id die if that ever happened.
Why does that happen?? Does anybody know?
