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Q: Can I Tell Who the Father Is?

asked by: unknown on June 19th, 2004

New User

Hi,

i have just found out that I am pregnant, and I am tore up between being happy and devastated.
I was using the patch, and my last period was end of april. April was the last month I used the patch. I was sleeping with my long term partner until may 15th, when we separated. I met somebody else and slept with him on may 31st. We didn't use condom only first time we had sex, and he didn't finish inside of me. Last week of may, right before I slept with a new guy, I took pregnancy test because I was supposed to come on that week and didn't. Test came back negative. I contacted my dr, and she assured me that it wasn't unusal not to come on after you stop using contraceptive methods. I had some morning sicknes today, and my breast have been feeling tender for some time now, my belly has grown. Due to all this, I decided to take pregnancy test again. It came back positive.
I am not sure who the father is. I have been with a new guy for only 20 days now, and I am wondering if test can show pregnancy so early?
How soon do they show if you are pregnant? Is there any way to tell when I conceived?
Please advise
thanks

Replies(12)

littlehunybunny

replied on June 19th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

In order to figure this out you need to let us know what the first day of your last period was.

Stacey

unknown

replied on June 20th, 2004

New User

Last Period

I was on the patch for so long that I stopped keeping tracks of my periods. I always new it would come in 4th week, week off the patch. I started last patch on april 10th, which makes 4th week first week of may. I honestly don't know if it was may 2nd, or 3rd or 4th, but it was in that week.

KissyBai912

replied on June 20th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I would say it was probably the first guy who got you pregnant then. But it is possible it was the 2nd guy. But I would put my money on the first.

unknown

replied on June 20th, 2004

New User

That's what I think too, but I am not sure. Can pregnancy test come back positive within 20 days? Can it detect pregnancy so soon? That is how long has it been since I first slept with new guy.

KissyBai912

replied on June 20th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Yes it could come back positive within 20 days....It generally takes about 2 weeks after conception for a test to come back positive.

unknown

replied on June 20th, 2004

New User

Can ob gyn pinpoint the day of conceiving? Could anybody or anything?
Thanks a lot on your help and info Smile

unknown

replied on June 20th, 2004

New User

Are the dates too close to ever be able to determine who is the father?

littlehunybunny

replied on June 20th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

It can be estimated, and since they were close it might be hard, but the estimate will be closer to one then the other. If the estimate is before the first guy even, then you know he is the one, or estimated after the second guy then he is the one, but if between somewhere, its hard to say!! Smile

the best you can do is tell both guys and get a paternaty test when the baby is born.

Stacey

unknown

replied on June 20th, 2004

New User

Oh that is not the issue. I have already talked to them. I just wanted to have my own peace of mind instead of waiting 9 months to find out Smile

where to I go to find out? Ob gyn?

Sinsaint

replied on June 20th, 2004

Experienced User

An ultrasound should be done and that should give an approximate gestational age. Talk to your obgyn about the dates you slept with both of these men and the two of you should be able to narrow down which one is the father (so long as there is a big enough time space between sleeping with the two men).

unknown

replied on June 20th, 2004

New User

I was hoping that 2 weeks is enough of a gap to determine which one is the father, especially at such an early stage of pregnancy.

unknown

replied on June 21st, 2004

New User

I had no clue how hard is to get obgyn to see you. They told me everything, from "we can get you in august" to "there is nothing we can do for you until you are 8 weeks."
i found one office willing to help me, they suggested blood test. How accurate is it?

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