and liz: as for your friend, I think
someone needs to sit down and have a talk
with her. Having unprotected sex is so
dangerous, and you'd think she'd be
shocked into reality after that
experience, but I guess not. I'm as
pro-choice as they come, but I was shocked
to read that she had an abortion at 6
months!! Please try to get her some
help.
Jen
i dont even think its soo much an abortion
issue there as much as the fact.... Yes
she can get pregnant, and she doesnt want
children etc... Babies can be dealt with
with abortion, adoption, or raising them
yourself... But things like aids on
irreversable, and the siituation will not
get better, will not ok anymore. I'd be
owrried about the girl catching an std,
because that could truly ruin the girls
life...
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-25-05 03:33am
Yes, std's would be absolutely awful, but
it is still much better and moral to have
protected sex instead of taking your
chances and then having an abortion later.
In all aspects having unprotected sex is
not the way to go!
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jlo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Mar 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 03-30-05 16:50pm
Hi ladies,
coming from someone who had an abortion at
21, am now age 30...It was the biggest
mistake of my life and I regret it to this
day . Yes, it is your choice, but unless
you are an atheist , please pray about
this or even consider adoption for your
child. I have been trying to conceive
for over 2.5 years now without success. I
cannot help but think it is because I had
an abortion in the past. Me and then
boyfriend, are now married and very
happily married for 7 years. We long to
have a child and I cry on a daily basis
for what I have done when I had the
abortion. I had one because I thought I
would not be able to finish college and
fulfill my other dreams that were really
important to me at that time. Plus I was
embarrased because I was pregnant and was
not married. That was very selfish of me
and I realize this no more than ever.
Now, I live the goals and dreams that I
set out to achieve, but they mean nothing
to me without a precious child in my life.
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bizzarbutterfly
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jan 2005 Posts: 17
Posted: 03-30-05 21:05pm
jlo
wrote:
hi ladies,
coming from someone who had an abortion at
21, am now age 30...It was the biggest
mistake of my life and I regret it to this
day . Yes, it is your choice, but
unless you are an atheist , please pray
about this or even consider adoption for
your child. I have been trying to
conceive for over 2.5 years now without
success. I cannot help but think it is
because I had an abortion in the past.
Me and then boyfriend, are now married and
very happily married for 7 years. We
long to have a child and I cry on a daily
basis for what I have done when I had the
abortion. I had one because I thought I
would not be able to finish college and
fulfill my other dreams that were really
important to me at that time. Plus I was
embarrased because I was pregnant and was
not married. That was very selfish of me
and I realize this no more than ever.
Now, I live the goals and dreams that I
set out to achieve, but they mean nothing
to me without a precious child in my
life.
do you think you would have met your
husband & he would hve acceptd you and
the child if you would have met him (i
cant say he would have or wouldt have coz
I dont know the situation)...
I thinkwith all the things people have to
do today bringing a child into the world
is a huge decision, and something many
people are not ready for (not that im
sayin you are ever totally prepared) but I
do believe that unless you are going to be
able to provide the child you want for
your children, be mental, physcially stabl
enough to look after this child for the
rest of your life, be financially and
other wise responsible for this precious
gift then I think its wise to think about
other options. I think as long as the kid
has a safe envrioment, a lvoing envrioment
and is provided for things would be fine,
unless it was going to really change your
life in a way you were simply not ready
for and could not handle emotionally to
give your life to someone else...
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jlo
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Joined: 30 Mar 2005 Posts: 3
Abortion At 21, Now 30 Posted: 03-30-05 22:12pm
I am not sure, all I do know is that we
both wished we had not had the abortion.
Sure, maybe I would not have the career I
have now or be in the nice house with nice
vehicles, but none of this matter to me
now. I think I would be able to move on
with my life if I could just conceive a
child. I would kinda feel like god
forgave me of the abortion. Mind you, I
know he forgives if you ask of him. It is
just the guilt and punishment that I have
placed on myself. I cannot condemn anyone
that has had one, but just want them to
know that it was a mistake for me and that
I will one day be judged for this. I do
have a blessed life however, and if I
cannot conceive a child, I am thinking
seriously about adoption.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Jlo Posted: 03-31-05 20:20pm
Please quit feeling so quilty, you did
what was right @ that time, you will
probably move on and become pregnant
again, when the time is right for you.
Having an abortion does not make you
sterile, who knows, maybe you might not
have carried the fetus to full term
anyway. Their are women that cannot get
pregnant at all or carry a fetus to full
term, or even have more than one child.
Things happen for a reason and we do not
always know the reason why.
Adoption can be great, if you are ready.
Foster homes are full of children that
need good homes.
Sincerely,
sandy
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jlo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Mar 2005 Posts: 3
Abortion At 21, Now 30 Posted: 03-31-05 21:49pm
Thanks sandyallen for the kind words. I
agree that the abortion may not have
anything to do with my problems of not
conceiving right now. I try not to let
myself get down about it and try to catch
myself. I can say that I have learned
from the experience and it has made me
stronger as a person. I know this girl
who has been ttc for over 5 years and was
one mother from using her sister's egg
when she found out she was pregnant. God
is good!!! The good thing is I know that
me and my husband are capable of
conceiving since we once did.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-05-05 23:57pm
I am sorry that you are one of the few who
has an abortion and then later regrets it.
But, you mentioned that you asked for
forgiveness, so you have been forgiven.
I don't believe god is punishing you,
especially since he knows you are doing
enough of that to yourself. Just relax
and enjoy the sex you are having with your
husband and you will conceive in time.
Good luck to you!
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Posted: 04-14-05 15:44pm
jlo
wrote:
hi ladies,
coming from someone who had an abortion at
21, am now age
30.
at age 30, it should
take you anwhere from 6 to 12 months to
become pregnant. Invest in an ovulation
monitor to increase your chances (they
aren't that expensive). It isn't at all
unusual to take more than 2 years of
trying for a successful pregnancy.
Having sex every other day (as opposed to
every day) will heighten your chances.
Even if you have sex the day before you
ovulate, you can still get pregnant
because sperm can live up to 5 days in the
uterus (some estimates put that at 7 days
maximum).
Quote:
..It was the
biggest mistake of my life and I regret it
to this day . Yes, it is your choice,
but unless you are an atheist , please
pray about this or even consider adoption
for your child. I have been trying to
conceive for over 2.5 years now without
success. I cannot help but think it is
because I had an abortion in the past.
Me and then boyfriend, are now married and
very happily married for 7 years. We
long to have a child and I cry on a daily
basis for what I have done when I had the
abortion. I had one because I thought I
would not be able to finish college and
fulfill my other dreams that were really
important to me at that time. Plus I was
embarrased because I was pregnant and was
not married. That was very selfish of me
and I realize this no more than ever.
Now, I live the goals and dreams that I
set out to achieve, but they mean nothing
to me without a precious child in my
life.
I will save most of
what I would write in response to this for
another board. However, I will ask that
could you be able to realize your "goals
and dreams" as easily as you do now if you
had an 8 year old to provide for? I am
sorry that you regret your decision but
the majority of women do not and there is
no indication that any other young woman
will feel regret as you did. On the
contrary, the opposite is more true.
However, I will apologize in advance for
this is something that belongs in the
debate forum and not the support forum.
Peace,
jenn
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yoitsmeyogi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 5 Location: Sri Lanka
Anyone!!! Posted: 09-23-06 05:50am
Is abortion safe at 6 months?A freind of
mine is pregnant at 6 months and she's
considering abortion, is it safe?? What
would be the consequences? Pls someone
reply soon cz im desparate!!
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Re: Anyone!!! Posted: 09-23-06 23:54pm
yoitsmeyogi
wrote:
is abortion safe at 6
months?A freind of mine is pregnant at 6
months and she's considering abortion, is
it safe?? What would be the
consequences? Pls someone reply soon cz
im
desparate!!
stop spamming!
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Anna_Belle
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2006 Posts: 5 Location: united kingdom
Posted: 10-02-06 04:30am
I found out I was pregnant last friday.
I've thought about it over the weekend and
i'm going to the doctors later this
morning to discuss termination. I know
it's the right decision to make but I am
pretty scared about it all. How long does
it usually take after seeing my gp to the
actual termination?
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Anna_Belle
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2006 Posts: 5 Location: united kingdom
Posted: 10-02-06 07:08am
Well i've just got back from the
doctors.
I have an appointment at the hospital next
tuesday morning, he said they will do the
termination about a week after that.
Can anyone tell me what I can expect to
happen at this appoinment next week?
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Moo
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Posted: 10-02-06 13:21pm
anna_belle
wrote:
well i've just got back from
the doctors.
I have an appointment at the hospital next
tuesday morning, he said they will do the
termination about a week after that.
Can anyone tell me what I can expect to
happen at this appoinment next
week?
i know this has been started on an old
thread but, being in the uk I hope I can
help.
They will usually do a scan to see how far
along you are and discuss what will happen
durng the temrination/possible side
effects and also discuss birth control for
after the abortion.
Try not to worry and if you have any
questions then ask
