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jazzie

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy

Joined: 20 Jun 2004
Posts: 7
Location: jefferson ohio

Help!!!!!! May Be Pregnant Please Answer Asap Posted: 06-27-04 16:58pm


Ooook im kinda new on this sight but I already posted 1 or 2 on here but I still need more advice. My b/f and I messed around more than a couple times ....I want to be pregnant but I dont know if I am I get really bad headaches,and sometimes my boobs are tender but other days there extermely bad..My stomach hurts after almost evrything I eat ...But other times I dont even have to eat anything ...I know if ur pregnant ur stomach dosnt get big right away but mine goes from hard to soft I am always tired. I dont know ,and im too afraid to ask my mom to take me to the store or the doctors for a pregnancy test..If you have any sugestions please e-mail me at sydmi ester@hotmail.Com because I dont get on here all the time cuz of 2 reasons ....1.I have to watch my sisters kid and 2 I never get any privacy .........Please help me im only 14 and I am wondering hard about this

lilmama2b_oct04

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Joined: 01 Mar 2004
Posts: 1970
Location: Wisconsin

Posted: 06-27-04 17:11pm


Um if your 14 you shouldnt be trying to get pregnant, and this isnt the place to come to get advise on how to get pregnant and crap like that. We are not going to support you gettin pregnant, but we will support those that are already pregnant. Your 14! You have your whole life ahead of you! My sister is 14 and I couldnt even imagine her gettin pregnant at this age, there is no way in hell she would be ready to care for a child... You still live at home with your mom, still have school, cant get a full time job, how the hell do you think that you can have a baby?!?! Yea you might feel like you are ready, and that you love your boyfriend, but chances are, that you dont even know what love is about. Think it over again, and please stop trying to get pregnant at the age of 14, its sooo childish, that is proof that you are sooo not ready, if you were mature enough, you would realize that you arent ready, and it would be better to wait til your older.

2ferano

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Joined: 23 Dec 2003
Posts: 3717

Posted: 06-27-04 17:33pm


Okay, well first of all you "messed around" okay. But have you had sex? If not, then you probably are not pregnant. Why do you want to be pregnant? Do you think it will help you keep your boyfriend? Cause let me tell you that is not true. And even if it did work, he would resent you deep down and what good would that be? Honey, you are 14. You do not need a baby. I understand that some girls do want babies and that is all that they want. Fine, you can always have them later on in life. My advice is to go and get on the pill. Your mother does not have to know. Go to a family planning type clinic, it is free to girls under 18 and your parents do not have to know about it. Get on the pill and get their condoms that they provide free of charge. Use protection. Not just the pill. You have to be cautious. And if you want a baby that badly then think of his/her best interests. Don't you think that baby would rather you wait until you are old enough and have the abilities to take the best care of him/her? I think so. Use your head please.

jazzie

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy

Joined: 20 Jun 2004
Posts: 7
Location: jefferson ohio

Posted: 06-27-04 18:07pm


Thank u guys u were helpfull {really u were im not being sarcastic} but I didnt say I was trying to get pregnant! I said I wanted a baby i know its stupid but im not trying I also know I wouldnt be able to support it and it wouldnt be fair to the baby ....Alot of girls want a baby....And no thats not my excuse....I just wanted a little advice ...And I know having sex was stupid of me I just love him so much and ...I donno but you guys really opened my eyes like I said I just wanted some advice ...Not support but do you guys mind if I stick around and chat w/you ...I donno maby it will def. Change my mind on wanting a baby thanx guys I am appriciative

KissyBai912

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Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida

Posted: 06-27-04 18:57pm


Hun, I got pregnant at 14. And I had just turned 15 10 days before my son was born. Trust me, no matter how much you want it, you are not ready for it. I love joshua more than anyhing else in the world, but it changed my life in ways that I cannot imagine. I used to have tons and tons of friends. I am now down to 3 or 4. And only hang out with 2 of them on a regular basis. It's hard. I get lonely and bored sometimes, because even just to go an a little outing like the mall, you have to pack a diaper bag, bathe and dress baby, bathe and dress yourself, make bottles, pack the stroller in the car, get up there, and then lug it all around, and some stores you can't even fit strollers into! It's not much fun. Babies can be a lot of fun, but they are a lot of work. The other day I was up at 9 in the morning and I had to stay up with josh until 2:30 in the morning because he wouldn't sleep. I was so exhausted I was in tears. And its summer. Just think about how hard it will be when school starts. It's just some stuff to think about. And i'm sure no one would mind if you stuck around to talk. I really hope this opens your eyes because nobody, and I mean nobody is ready for a baby at 14.

2ferano

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Joined: 23 Dec 2003
Posts: 3717

Posted: 06-27-04 20:39pm


I am so happy to hear that you are not trying to get pregnant. So happy. Are you going to look into going on birth control? You definately should. Especially since you are now going to be sexually active.

lilmama2b_oct04

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Joined: 01 Mar 2004
Posts: 1970
Location: Wisconsin

Posted: 06-27-04 21:58pm


Yes, you should definetly get on birth control... Its completely normal to "want" a baby... Its a natural thing that just happens. But please please do not loose your mind and think that its ok to just have one now, it wouldnt be fair to the baby. I lost my virginity at 14 and I dont think its wrong to be sexually active, but you need to be smart about it and use a couple forms of birthcontrol... Like the shot(or pills, but im not suggesting the patch), and a spermacidal condom... No sex is completely safe, but if you are going to be sexually active, thats the best way to go...

jazzie

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Joined: 20 Jun 2004
Posts: 7
Location: jefferson ohio

Posted: 06-28-04 14:46pm


Well I talked to my mom about it she said she dosnt want me to be sexually active but she says she cant stop me ....I think im done w/sex for now because your right I am to young but she gave me the offer on the pill and I think ill take it just incase... But you guys really helped me alot ...Just hearing how childish it was from someone else really kicked me in the butt thanx guys ....But u didnt answer me on if you care if I stay or not would you guys mind talking to me a lil bit?

KariM1804

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Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 852
Location: grand blanc michigan

Posted: 06-28-04 15:34pm


No of course we dont care if u stay. Wow. .Personality wise ur a lot like gaby~

Mesmerizeu15

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Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA

Posted: 06-28-04 15:37pm


I too got pregnant at 14. Unlike chrissy thought I was trying... And in all honestly, lets just say I wish I would have waited, because my boyfriend isnt the person I should have done this with. Things have drastically changed.

jazzie

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Joined: 20 Jun 2004
Posts: 7
Location: jefferson ohio

Posted: 06-28-04 15:39pm


Thanx ...I hope lol im glad I have someone to talk to ...Its just me and my mom and we just moved now she is always working

jazzie

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Joined: 20 Jun 2004
Posts: 7
Location: jefferson ohio

Posted: 06-28-04 15:42pm


You guys are so sweet but what I dont get is ...How do you tell if someone is on the sight or not?

Mesmerizeu15

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Location: Pittsburgh,PA

Posted: 06-28-04 15:49pm


What do you mean?? I dont think that there is a way of telling, other than making a post and say "hey john doe are you here?" stacie