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Deppfever

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When to Tell People? Sad News
Posted: 06-28-04 20:00pm

Hi all,
i am around 6/7 weeks pregnant. I was just wondering whats the best time to tell people your expecting? I have told my husband (obviously) but I really want to tell my sister in law as she has 2 children and its good to have someone to talk about about symptoms etc (she did not tell anyone she was pregnant with her 1st until 5 months!!)!! My parents live in the uk and I really want them to know too, but i'm scared of saying anything incase I miscarry.

Just wondering what your thoughts are on the subject?


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Posted: 06-28-04 22:31pm

I didn't find out I was pregnant for sure until I was 10 weeks along. Of course I told my husband, but I too wasn't sure about telling anyone else for a while just in case. But after talking it over with my husbabnd we decided it was probably better for us to tell the family since: 1) we can't keep a secret that good, and 2) our families are very close to us. So if we did miscarry, our families would be able to understand if our moods changed from gleefully happy to depressed, and they would be there to support us emotionally. Thankfully though that never happened.
It has been very nice to have family to talk to through everything so far for us.
Congradulations and good luck with everything!

Amy
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Posted: 06-29-04 09:25am

I told everyone when I was around 8 weeks (when I found out). I only told them because my 8 year old sister told a lot of people. I would tell one person (someone to talk to) but wait until you are 12-14 weeks.
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Posted: 07-02-04 07:03am

Yeah I agree you should wait untill you are further along. Just for the fact that this early there is a still a chance that the pregnancy might not go through. When it's this early miscarrige is very likley still and I would wait untill your pregnancy has stabalized itself and you feel it is secure. I only warn you of this because I made the mistake of telling everyone around the 9/10 week and the following had a miscarrige. It was horrible having everyone all excited and then having to tell them that I miscarried. So for your sake, your hubby's sake and your friends & fam, I would definatley wait a while to see how it goes. I know it's realllllly hard to keep a secret like that.. But shhh... Wait just a little longer and it will pay off trust me.
Good luck! Congrats! And be safe!
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Posted: 07-03-04 23:06pm

Thanks everyone who replied.

Sadly I miscarried last night Crying
or Very sad and I had not told anyone, but it hurt just as much telling my mum and family that i'd lost the baby.
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Posted: 07-03-04 23:51pm

Hi there, i'm sorry about the sad news. But always think on the brighter side of it, it happened for the best and I am sure you will have another one. Take care and good luck.
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Posted: 07-06-04 11:35am

Sorry to hear about that i'm sure it must be tough to deal with. Hopefully within time you may decide to have another one. Things happen for a reason even if no one understands why.

Sorry.
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Posted: 07-06-04 12:24pm

I'm so sorry.
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