Young Guy Needs Tips With Pe Posted: 07-03-04 01:04am
Hey. I'm 17 and just recently started
having sex with my g/f. Well, imagine
how I felt when I discovered just how hard
a time I had controlling my orgasm for the
first time. Despite that "pleasant"
surprise I also realized that this problem
sort of stays around, and it has really
begun to frustrate me. Basically, I will
lose it in about 15 seconds if I begin
going all out. However, i've begun
trying this stop and go method where if I
feel like i'm going to lose it I will stop
for maybe a few seconds and begin again.
I know this has to be frustrating to my
g/f, but what other ways can I deal with
this problem? Does this stop and go
method start to help, or should I just
finish the first time up quickly(the
second time I can last considerably
longer)? I've read things about the
kegel exercises, but I don't really know
what those are. I would like to see my
doctor, but I can't really do that because
my parents wouldn't exactly approve of
helping me have sex nor finance the
check-up and meds from my doctor. How
long do "normal" guys last before their
first ejaculation?
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haligirl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Canada
God I Miss 17 Posted: 07-08-04 00:23am
Darlin' you like many many many men before
you , are completely normal. You have
just started on the long twisty
rollercoaster like road to sexual
intamacy and ther are so many things going
on in your head (above and below) that the
timing that you will eventually grow to
know and love, is right now driving you
crazy. I promise this will get better,
it is normal for any guy to not last so
long the "first time round" , do you
masturbate b4 hand (earlier that day or b4
your gf comes over or does she give you
oral sex b4 you two actually get down to
it?? These are suggestions that many of
my guy friends and boy friend suggest.
Not that you have to demand a bj form her,
but I do know that this way if "the
starter round tends not to last very long"
you get it over and done with and then can
get on to the main event. If she does
not liike the idea suggest mabye a hand
job although at the same time you too can
be manually stimulating her.. This will
also help in teh long run of building up
your ..Ahem might I say presently fast
times situation. Do not be embarrassed
and do not think that you are alone.
Also you mentioned that you didn't want to
see a doctor...Did you know that what ever
you discuss with your family doctor is by
law not allowed to be discussed with any
one else (patient confidentiality) and b4
you start screaming "viagra me now" try
the above mabye the masturbate thing first
like an hour or so b4 the events begin, if
possible, you might find that this is the
release , excuse the pun, is what you are
looking for.
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burnmonkee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2004 Posts: 2
Thanks! Posted: 07-09-04 00:27am
I was almost worried I wouldn't even get
one reply, but you have no idea how much
better that just made me feel. Thanks
for the help! I will definitely try some
of the things you mentioned.
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ronniehome
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2004 Posts: 22
Posted: 07-10-04 06:48am
I agree you should get off before youre
girlfriend comes over or try abit more
foreplay and bring her into it ....And yes
a lot of guys well all guys have the same
thing happen to them it does get better
and you will last longer as time goes on
.....
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mooseboy84
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 5
Posted: 07-11-04 05:52am
First thing just masturbate or have oral
sex first. That will get the "pressure"
off and you wont be so excited.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
New Toy Posted: 07-11-04 10:23am
You are perfectly normal!!It takes time to
learn how to control yourself.The good
news is that you're ready for more almost
right away!So,like the previous posters
said,masturbate before your girlfriend
comes over or have her bring you to
orgasm(in what ever fashion she
wants),then try to please her-then go for
mutual satisfaction.That way,no one is
left out!!Oh,just remember to use birth
control.Sometimes a condom can help with
delaying orgasm,they make them with a
delaying cream inside.I think it's made by
durex or lifestyles.
