Depression Forum - New to This Board

Heyas,

i'm a bit new to these boards but I dont really have much else to go or people to talk to for support. I'm pretty depressed and I dont even know what to do or say. Was kind of curious to see or hear some other peoples opinions.

Well down to the facts, i'm a 23 year old male. I got married a bit more then a year ago and things were fine. I love my wife more then anything in the entire world.

Anyway as time has passed we drifted apart a bit. I would say I would do some things and forget about them and then they would never get done. We have never been physically or verbally abusive with each other. So about 3 weeks ago we wake up together and she says to me, I dont think this is working out. Perhaps we should separate for a while.

Now separation and divorce being mentioned more times then I would have liked to hear during the course of a heated argument, as a way out, I figured this as a bluff. Also, me being a jerk I figured, yeah right this will never happen, so I say ok fine let me shower and then i'll pack my crap and go.

Well needless to say neither of us handled it that well at that time. The truth of the matter is I love her more then anything in the entire world. I dont want our marriage to be over, but the fact is, if she doesnt want to be with me there really isnt a whole lot that I can do about that.

Today we were supposed to hang out so that we can slowly, I think, fix things so we can fix our marriage together. However she used to be big into keeping a geocities website, yahoo profile, etc.

The last time we hung out she wasnt wearing her wedding band (i'll never take mine off because it means so much to me). Well today I missed her and being excited about being able to hang out I checked the website to see her picture and she removed all the pictures of the wedding and anything with me off of it. I was like hmm, so then I checked the yahoo profile and then again it was updated yesterday and the marital status and any mentions of me were removed.

I thought to myself that I was being paranoid. She truly loves me and everything will be fine, I just need to give her time. Well I call her to tell her that I can leave for work early and when I call our house phone she changed the answering machine so that it doesnt even say my name on it anymore.

What do you all think. I'm just being paranoid right? I mean I dont know what else to do without her. She means everything to me and I dont know how to cope with her gone. I love her so much to the effect when I first met her she thought she was pregnant with someone elses child and that still didnt matter to me. I told her that and everything was great then.

I dont know what to do because in this whole time frame she says she just needs time to heal etc. I'm afraid to give the time because it may come off as I dont care or i've moved on, or give her time to forget about me. Then again if I keep being persistant, I annoy her because I dont give her time to heal and relax, etc.

I dont know what to do, does anyone have any advise or think i'm just being a bit over reactive?