Hey all, i'm having ed problems...My new
girlfriend is really hard to make orgasm,
and can't achieve them from sex alone.
It's made me feel really inadequete and I
lose my erection right before sex, or
can't get it up at all...
I don't have problems getting an
erection except just before sex with her,
or like I said I lose it before
penetration. Even if we begen, i'm really
limp from worrying and can't enjoy it at
all.
If I could just get this attitude out
of my head, i'm sure I could do fine, I
mean I was the man with my previous
girlfriend (like 2 1/2 hours a pop) but
these problems are killing me. Everything
sexual gets me worrying about it and of
course nothing happens. If i'm worrying,
I can't even get it up over porn, physical
stimulation, etc...But if I can relax i'm
ok. But I can't relax around her. I
talked to her a little, and we haven't
tried anything since, but i'm still
worrying and the problem exists.
Can anyone please help me chill out
around her? If I can just lose the fear
of performing...Any suggestions?????
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sunshinefromthesky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Florida
Relax! Posted: 07-05-04 12:26pm
How long have you been together? How old
are you both? And lots of women dont
orgasm from a man......
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Dizzy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4
Posted: 07-05-04 21:03pm
Hey, we're both 19, which is too young for
this problem in my opinion, and we've been
together almost a year but my problems
have been going on for a few months now, I
just recently told her...If I could just
rearrange my thinking? I dunno...If I
could think about the sex or visual
stimulation rather than or without
automatically monitoring my penis in
fear...
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 07-06-04 01:00am
It could be a chemistry thing, maybe if
you try and relax and your new girlfriend
too it might help, and remember, sex isn't
everything like the post says above, not
all girls climax!
Sincerely,
sandy
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 07-06-04 04:18am
Have you talked to her about what she
finds enjoyable (touch, kissing, whatever)
& tried just relaxing & learning
about her & her likes/dislikes while
also helping her to learn about what you
like/don't like etc. It is never a wise
thing to compare how things were with
another partner - very destructive for you
both.
As was said above many women do not orgasm
with men, some never do, so it may be that
she won't/can't rather than anything
whatever to do with you, but certainly the
more you stress the worse it will get -
your stress will also affect her &
make it even less likely that she'll
orgasm. Try some relaxation/meditation -
it may help in the longer term - it takes
awhile to learn & be able to put it
into practise at will.
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