Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
:( .. . Long... But Heres the Update :( Posted: 07-05-04 18:42pm
Ok well if u dont know what im talking
about then u can read the post I just made
a little bit ago ''i shouldnt...Right??"
.. Anyhow.. Im a person ok. I
called his loser a$$.. And I once
again regret it. I hate him more then
ever,i mean to the point where I wouldnt
care if his a$$ died! I know that
sounds bad.. He was such a di*k!!!
He was with his girlfriend jazmin..And she
was running her mouth.. And I was like
"so ryan your sons due in 2 weeks, were u
planning on calling1?!?!, its been over 2
months!" and he was like "yeah I was going
to sometime but I figured u were just
gonna call when u had him. Ive been
busy anyhow'' and im like 'busy!?!?
Whatre u doin now???" and he said
"shopping''.. . . Ugh!!
Then I was asking him if hes even getting
ready for this and he said he bought a
little bit of stuff.. Then his g/f's
in the background sayin 'tell her not to
worry about it, I have baby stuff from my
sister"... Shut the hell up b*tch its
not ur baby! And then we talked some
more. .He said he didnt have a job
etc.. And I told him the only reason I
called was because I wanted him to know I
will call the day after hes born and he
can come up to the hospital and take his
damnnn paternity test so we dont have to
delay childsupport. Anyhow, he said he
doesnt believe its his (i think mostly
said it because his g/f was there) and he
said "im not the one that went around
doing it all those guys''.. Thats not
even true!! And he named off one guy
and I said 'no I did not sleep with him!'
and his g/f is in the background sayin
'yeah right ur such a liar!!" and shes
never even met me! I was so mad....
He was sooooooo mean again.. And I
told him ''fine u know what, u will not
see this baby, or take him anywhere at all
until all the court stuff is over..
And that might be a while if u even
care..And if u wanna see him, u will only
see him if u stop by my house, without ur
g/f.'' and he was like ''fine I dont
care'' he doesnt even care if he sees his
son
.....So I told him I hated him and that he
was worthless and I would call to get his
stupid test. .And that was it. Im
more upset now then ever. I just..
. Ugh I dont even understand!!!
I feel like
dissapearing.
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tweety12986
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2004 Posts: 772 Location: houston
Posted: 07-05-04 18:50pm
I am totally sorry for suggesting you
call. Why is he that way? At the very
least he should be able to talk to you in
a respectable way and have the courtesy to
tell his dog to shut up while he was on
the phone. You will be ok and he will
live to regret everything he is doing
now... Just wait.
Meagan
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 07-05-04 18:51pm
Awww kari! I'm really sorry he is being
so crappy! I will never understand why
guys cant get their act together and be
responsible! Try not to worry to much
over it and get stressed because thats not
good for you or the baby! Just know that
you are strong and you can do this! You
are going to be an awesome mom with or
without this guy! You just remember that!
Take care sweetie!
Lauren
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rissalee21
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2004 Posts: 526 Location: michigan
Posted: 07-05-04 18:54pm
Kari hun I know we havent talked to much
but I totally understand how you feel. My
babys father is the exact same way and so
his is girlfriend. I think it was a good
thing for you to call him..Even though it
upsets you just remember you do not want
someone like that in your beautil sons
life. It just makes you realize what a
pos he is and that you will be an awesome
mother to him. Keep your head up hun if
you needa talk im here.
Marisa
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
Posted: 07-05-04 19:43pm
Thanks alot girls it means a ton to me! ~
im so mad at myself. I wish I wouldve
said more. I was just stunned at how
much of a jerk someone could be. Theres
so much I wanted to say that I didnt say
while he sat there running his mouth about
me in front of his
girlfriend............... Im sorry..
My apolgies will only go to my son because
he got stuck with such a rotten father
because of my bad judgement. The only
thing I dont regret from ryan is the baby
because he already means the world to me.
I just hope hes nothing like his
father(sperm doner) and meagan hun dont
apoligize its ok it was ultimetly my
decision and i'll just keep learning from
them*
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 07-05-04 19:50pm
I know its easier said than done, but try
to move past him and focus on whats in
front of you....Raising your son! You're
gonna be a great mom! Sorry you havent
had the best day, but try and smile! Let
me know if you need to talk!
Lauren
Kari,
mama chanda knows best! I told you not to
call him hun! You don't need the extra
stress he puts on you! Girl, listen to
me! Don't call him again. As far as I am
concerned. Do not call when your lil man
is born. Call him when it's paternity
time and child support time. Other than
that, screw him!
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 07-05-04 21:10pm
Awww girl u know u and ur son are way to
good for that creep! He's just acting
like that too becuz his g/f's there, but
lok what kinda act hes puttin on in front
of her. Its showin he aint a good dad and
hes worthless. Dont bother with him after
ur baby's born. U and him are too great
for ryan to even go near. Look at
everything u've done for this child. U've
fought ur eating disorder and that is very
hard to do, and it shows ur already a
great mom. And ur son will know this and
look up to you, not ryan, you. He'll know
who was there for him and he'll hear what
ryan had put u thru throughout ur
pregnancy. So dont worry about him hun.
He can go the rest of his life regretting
not bein in this childs life while u get
to watch him grow and be a wonderful man,
someone who his father wasnt. I hope ur
doing okay now and im sorry hes such an
@$$.
Dont worry, he wont be like his father,
u'll raise him to not be like that and
he'll turn out great
shauna
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 07-05-04 22:08pm
Don't worry about him or her. She is
probably just mad that she has your
leftovers, and he is just an a$$. Just
make sure you get that paternity test.
And when all is said and done ,he will be
kissing your a$$ trying to get off of
child support, and his girlfriend most
likely won't even be around anymore. Btw
how old is he, and does he have any other
children? I asked that b/c if he has oher
children and he can prove that he is
paying child support you may only get
about $300 a month ,but if he doesn't have
other children or at least not paying
child supposrt for them you could get up
to $600 or $700 a month, but then again it
all depnds on if he is a minor, where you
live, and of course the judge.
Down here my family has ties to a couple
of family and criminal court judges, that
is where I get this info from. Ohh yea
,you may also need to show proof of your
income. And I know it is not possible in
all cases, but try to get info on all
possible judges in your case. The best
judges are usually women with or without
kids, and men with kids (and married if
possible). They are usually the most
sympathetic.
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 07-06-04 10:28am
I woulda just told him straight up that
ya'll didn't need him anyways and that you
are better off without his sorry butt.
Any man can be a father but it takes a
real man to be a daddy. And apparently he
ain't. So don't worry about him hun, you
are too good for him. As for his health
forum, I would like to throw her a beatin!
Lol! I really would if I could for ya!
Lol I just re-read that and it sounds so
ghetto! lmao......
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angel4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2004 Posts: 236 Location: New York
Posted: 07-06-04 11:34am
Chrissy is right, u r too good for him.
He dont deserve to be part of your or your
son's lives. Ugh, ya know! I am so sick
of hearing about these dead-beat, good for
nothing guys.... Sometimes I really hate
men! Sorry, but I do. They are a totally
different species! They have to be!
Otherwise I cannot comprehend how some
guys can act the way they do. Ugh, kari,
hun, u dont need him.....Really, u dont.
Hey girl just read ur post and sorry to
hear about what happen. These girls are
right he aint worth it and you know you
deserve better as well as the baby.
There's no problem with you being the mom
and dad. As for him when you do take the
test you can shove it in his face. I do
agree he was just actin up cuz his gf was
there. All men are like that and their
gf's just don't know how to mind their
business. You be fine.
Sometimes at the moment you could say all
you can and then right after you tend to
wish you said more but it doesn't matter
you can do without.
.....So I told him I hated him and that he
was worthless and I would call to get his
stupid test. .And that was it. Im
more upset now then ever. I just..
. Ugh I dont even understand!!!
I feel like
dissapearing.
