Well i've been on both sides of the fence. As a child of my mother, I learned that my father wanted nothing to do with me, wanted her to have an abortion, because he didn't want any kids. They were straight out of high school, and she got pregnant. He was really selfish then, and is really selfish now, but my mother did just fine without him, and has raised 3 kids all on her own without the deadbeat dads, and I commend her for that! However, i've been on the other side. At 19, me and a new boyfriend were getting serious, I was on b/c but had to cancel it due to the high cost! I was told that it would take my body time to adjust due to the lack of the pills, and to use protection, but we didn't, we hadn't for so long. Needless to say I got pregnant, and learned I was pregnant right after his ex had his first child. I was devastated, but I knew in my heart abortion wasn't the right thing. I told my mom first and she of course went balistic. She didn't want me to suffer the struggles she had to as a young woman raising a child. At that particular time she was selfish, because her only motive for wanting me to have an abortion was because she felt I wouldn't be able to support it and it would ruin her rep. Not had made up my mind yet, I went to my boyfriend, thinking he would reassure his love and want me to keep it. It was totally opposite. All he kept saying was he didn't want a second child, he couldn't afford it, he wanted it aborted. Devastated, and right before christmas of 2001, I decided to go with the abortion. I had no support what so ever, it was a very emotional time for me. On december 28th 2001, I proceeded to planned parenthood for an abortion. Before pulling into the clinic there was a man outside with a picket sign that stated, "the father has a choice too. No abortion", my boyfriend, showing no feelings, continued to pull into the parking lot. I went into the clinic, everyone was very courteous and polite. Many women waited, some left out of fear. I remember being in the waiting room and hearing screams from the women who were going through the abortion, but I had already made up my mind. I had the abortion, that wasn't as painful as it seemed, but it did damage. It caused nausea right afterwards and bleeding. I received a bacterial infection because of the surgery, and it decreased my chances of ever getting pregnant due to abnormalities with my cervical cells. Now, on this day, I was finally able to conceive again, with the same man. He eventually came around and wanted to start a family with me, the family he could not have with his first child. So there you have it. I was blessed with a child, a good man, and a job that came days afterward. God works in mysterious ways, but he gave us free will for that reason. So with that knowledge do what you see fit, but I can tell you, from experience, that abortion has the potential to become a life long problem, emotionally, and physically. Good luck.
