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Q: So Now What?
asked by: JessM4283 on July 7th, 2004
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Ok, here's a good one: i'm about 2 1/2 weeks late. To go along with that, i'm tired, nauseous all the time, constantly starving, and my nipples have been extremely sore for two weeks. However, I took two hpt's this weekend, and they both came up negative. Now, I know that people say that if you want a baby, and if you think you may be pregnant and worry about it, that doing so can make you think that you are. But here's the thing, yes I would like to have a baby, but by no means now, for many reasons. I've more been hoping that i'm not. Could just doing that cause me to be late, and feel the way I do? I know I should call my doctor, but i'm not sure how to word it or even what to ask. Any ideas? Thanks!!
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cath8899
replied on July 7th, 2004
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Hiya I know what your going through!I went through the same thing!I missed a period and did a hpt,actually I did 2!They both came back negative so I put it down to stress!Then 2 months later I still hadn't had a period,i eventually went to the doctors and found out I was 16 weeks pregnant!I was expecting it but still shocked!I felt like I wasnt ready and wouldnt be able to cope but my baby boy is now 6 weeks old and I am coping fine!
Ramble over, I would suggest that if you dont want to go to the doctors then wait a while and do another hpt, but remember that they are not always 100% accurrate, so its best if you do go to the doctors.
Also if you do find out that you are expecting and you are positive you dont want it then you could have an abortion or put the baby up for adoption, but you will be amazed at how much support you will get so remember that you are not alone!
Keep me posted and pm me if you ever need to chat!
Take care,cath
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JessM4283
replied on July 7th, 2004
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Thanks for your info. I went ahead and made an appointment for this tuesday, so i'll find out then! As far as expecting or not, I think it would be great. It would be a wonderful chapter to add to our lives. Thanks again!
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cath8899
replied on July 8th, 2004
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Hey no problem!Hope it goes ok at the doctors, keep me posted how it goes!
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JessM4283
replied on July 10th, 2004
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Bleeding
I started bleeding this morning. I have a little bit cramping, but nothing like it is with my regular period. It isn't really light or heavy for that matter. I've read about having what seems like a regular period while pregnant. Could this just be normal, or something worse?
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JessM4283
replied on July 13th, 2004
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Nope
So I saw my doctor this afternoon, and as it turns out, i'm not pregnant. As far as why I was 3 weeks late and have been spotting, she said it's most likely just a side effect of my pill, and to enjoy it. I kind of got used to the idea though. Now tell me if this is stupid or not: i've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I know that I am going to marry him. I'm 21 and he's 24. I always said that I wanted to be married before having kids, and he wants them now. However, I honestly feel like i'm ready now, and that having a child with him would be an incredible experience. We both have secure jobs, and know where we want to go in life. I have suggested that we try at the end of this year. Now, he doesn't think we should get married just because i'm pregnant because of the odds. But my thing is I don't want to have two different last names on the birth certificate. He hasn't pressured me on this whole matter at all. Am I giving in to his wishes by suggesting that we try? Or is it just me being ready and feeling like it's time?
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Sadler1021
replied on July 14th, 2004
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I wouldn't say its you giving into his wishes, you went through 3 weeks of thinking that you could have been pregnant. During that time you realized how wonderful it would be a little life that would be part of you and totally dependent on you. That is a special thing. Smile I totally understand why you would now want one. I also see why you would want to be married first. If it means alot to you and your not ready to have a big wedding but you want to be married and try at the end of the year, just go to the justice of the peace and have a big wedding later. At least that way you will both have the same last name and the baby too. If it doesnt matter to you, don't worry about it just do what makes you happy. Wink if you do decide for a baby, I wish you all the luck in the world!! Smile take care and god bless! ~steph~
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Pamela32
replied on July 14th, 2004
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Pregnancy/marriage
If you two are truly committed to having a lifetime together, then why wait to get married? If either one of you is hesitant, or having doubts, you should wait before bringing a child into this world. It's hard enough to raise a child these days without having a "broken home".

I have children who do not belong to my current husband. It makes life harder. Just advice from one who's been there.
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