Hi there, I know a lot of you will
probably be able to help me out here, and
I hope that you won't be too judgemental
of me, I really need some help here.
I'm 16 years old, and at a party in may, I
got really drunk. I know I shouldn't have
as legally, I am not old enough to drink
alcohol. I was so paraletic that I
passed out, and cannot remember a large
portion of the evening. I also suffered
several bangs to the head as I could not
stand properly. At about 3am, sunday
morning, I woke up in a bathroom, next to
a guy, and he came on to me, as I was
still pretty drunk I went along with it
for a while... Then when he said do u
think we should have sex? I said no, as
we had no condom. Then I banged my head
on the door and can't remember what
happened.
As the next weekday was a bank holiday, I
was unable to go to a doctors, so I went
on tuesday for the morning after pill.
Which I took, and then I had my normal
period on the day it was due the 4th june.
It's now the 8th of july, and I still
have not had my period which was due on
the 3rd. I was wondering if this meant
that I am pregnant, as I have not had my
period yet.
I know that the morning after pill
(levonelle 2) is notorious for messing up
the menstrual cycle, and wondered if this
could be a cause of my delaed period. I
have also just taken my gcse's, so it may
be stress related, though my period has
never been late before.
I know that if I am pregnant, I will be
having an abortion, as I feel I am not
mentally ready to care for another life,
when I have trouble caring for my own. I
also have plans to go on to college, and
possibly to university, and having a child
now, would make those plans pretty much
impossible.
If any of you can offer me some advice, it
would be much appriciated. Thank you xx
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Teenytoona
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Apr 2004 Posts: 101
Posted: 07-08-04 14:10pm
Littlemiss,
no one really should judge you as no one
is perfect. If you do find out you are
pregnant, whatever you decide is what's
best for you, no ifs, ands or buts.
I hope you are doing well. What happened
at that party was illegal, and i"m not
talking about your drinking. You said you
can't remember what happened, which to me
means you're not sure if he had sex with
you, but you pretty much guessed that's
what happened. If he had sex with you,
that's wrong and criminal of him to have
done so. Sure you shouldn't have been
drinking, but there are alot of "shouldn't
have dones" in this world that aren't
worthy of the judgement people force on
it.
On the other hand, a boy or man having sex
with a girl or woman when she says no
or
she is unable to repsond due to
intoxication or being knocked out, or for
some other reason unconscious, is
criminal. It's called sexual assault. I
don't mean to alarm you, but that's the
legal definition. If you want to discuss
this more, you can send me an e-mail.
The morning after pill does in fact mess
up your cycle a good bit. Since it's only
been a few days your period is late, just
keep waiting and keeping an eye on it. It
may be a good bit later than usual. My
hunch is that the incident happened at a
relatively safe from pregnancy time for
you (from what you wrote it seems about a
week lapsed between that night and your
period, if i'm wrong, I apologize).
Seeing as stress delays the first part of
the cycle (between first day of menstrual
period and ovulation) it's very likely
that the stress from your test taking and
stress from the aftermath of the party
could have delayed your period. Of course
nothing is 100% guaranteed, that's just an
educated guess.
Good luck, feel free to e-mail me if you
like.
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littlemissx223
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 18 Location: Sussex
Posted: 07-09-04 06:12am
Teenytoona,
thanks very much for your reply, it was
really helpful, and I really appriciate
you taking the time to write it gor me.
I had my period later that evening, which
made me feel so relieved I can not explain
it.
Again, thanks for taking the time! U
really helped to put my mind at ease,
thanks.
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CrazyBanana
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Apr 2004 Posts: 48 Location: So Cal
Posted: 07-17-04 02:01am
Littlemiss, i'm glad you aren't pregnant.
But if you still suspect that the guy
might have had sex with you, i'd get
tested for stis and stds. Remember that,
with a lot of sexually-transmitted
infectioos, girls don't have any apparent
symptoms, unlike guys, and it's best to
catch them early. I'd do it just in
case.
