16..wants to Be a Mother..but Scared Posted: 09-24-03 08:18am
My name is sarah..And i'm 16 years old.
I'm pregnant and scared. I have little
brothers and sisters so I know what kids
are like. I'm unsure because my
boyfriend decided we would wait till we
had the money and a place of our own. I
want to give my child the best, and I want
my baby to have both parents and live in a
safe, warm, loving home. But i'm still a
junior in high school. I don't want to
have an abortion because i've already had
one and they are horrible. Plus i'm
afraid of becoming sterile. I don't want
to choose adoption because i've done that
before to. I just need advice...I want a
baby and I want to be a mommy, but I also
want to be 16. Thanks!
-sarah-
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Pregnancy At 16 Posted: 09-24-03 08:53am
Sarah,
goodness me girl, what are you doing, you
have been messing up all over the place.
You are 16 and have been pregnant 3 times.
I wish you well with your new pregnancy,
but I feel a little concerned about the
other 2. One abortion and one adopted
out. I don't know but from what you have
said so far you are a bit irresponsible to
be going and popping babies out, you seem
to have the idea that children can be
disposed of like a piece of trash. I'm
sorry to sound so harsh sarah but you
should have learnt from your first
mistake, but you are still making them. I
can't condone that kind of behaviour.
Sarah,
it is not impossible to be a mommy and and
the mello fun at 16 at the same time, just
a little hard. You need to decide what
you want to do with this pregnancy and
your baby. I would recommend keeping it
but then again this is not my decision!
Just think long and hard about it.
Suzy,
when I was 13 years old I was raped...Due
to the raping I became pregnant.. After
all this happened I thought...I don't want
an abortion and my mom didn't want my
little teenage body going through any kind
of trauma...So it was have a baby or get
an abortion. So my whole family decided
to have a baby and give the baby to a
family who couldn't have children. My
2nd pregnancy was my stupid doing. I had
unprotected sex and I will take the
stupidity and irresponsibility for that.
Now this time, I want a baby so bad. But
there is so much I want to do with my
life.
-sarah-
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-24-03 11:44am
Sarah
you should have this baby. God wants you
to have it. You cant keep giving them up
or aborting them. This is a mistake but
keep it. It will be hard but this is
something you need to do. Might I ask why
you never got on the pill or shot?
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 09-24-03 14:52pm
As always I totally agree
with nikki. You've made mistakes in the
past but this is your chance to make it
right. Let us know how your doing.
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Heather_16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2003 Posts: 79 Location: Colorado
Posted: 09-24-03 17:14pm
Sarah,
i just found out a few weeks ago that I
was pregnant. I just turned 16 the 3rd
of september. I wanted a kid too, soo
bad, and I still do, and I am...And I am
sooooo happy. Don't worry about if
people will hate you or not with decisions
that you make...But if you do have a
child, be sure that you can give it what
it needs, including it's father. I grew
up without my father and a shitty mom, it
sucked until I got into my last foster
home when I was like, 12...Just be sure
that you can give the baby all it needs,
and maybe some more. Me and boyfriend
are now engaged, and I am happier then
ever before. Just remember, get help,
ask questions, do what you need to do, but
don't care if people critisize you or hate
you for a decision you make, it isn't
their buisiness, even if you ask about
it.
Thank you so much, all of you. And like
nikki_carro said..Maybe god wants me to
have this baby. And my boyfriend wants a
baby, because his ex had a baby and he
thought it was his, but it turns out she
cheated on him(now my boyfriend is black,
the mother of the child is white, and the
baby is white) he wants his own child and
i'm 110% sure it is his. But thank you
again. :p
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-25-03 12:50pm
You welcome!!! Its obvious this baby is
for you if it keeps happening. And after
you do have this baby...Please get on the
shot! It will be hard enough with one,
having another is very, very hard!!!
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 09-25-03 15:24pm
:p I totally agree with the girl above me.
I am 16 and I have a 5 month old son, he
is the joy in my day. I am still in
school and I still get to watch him
grow...I think that if you keep getting
pregnant go for it, but learn from what
you are going through now, since (not
being mean) obviously you didn't learn
before. I have been rapped before, I know
what it feels like, but don't let all of
that and much more get you down... We are
women and we need to feel respect for
ourselves, if we don't respect us, who
will? Run on sentence!! I am here for
you if you need me!
You know you love me-
mezzy
aol sn:
mesmerizeu15
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insurancegirl
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I totally agree
with nikki. You've made mistakes in the
past but this is your chance to make it
right. Let us know how your doing.
