If I Want a Baby At 16,do U Think I Am Crazy??!! Posted: 09-24-03 17:57pm
...Well hi to all of you this is the first
time I post in this site And
I think I need some replies fron u girls
cuz well I want a baby sooo bad!!! My
boyfriend and I are planing to "make one"
in april of 2004 it was my idea and he
totally loved it(at that time we will
celebrate our first year together!! )
the baby will be due january or maybe
early february 2005 that year I will be
turning 17 too anyway,to make a long story
short I am sure we can manage to support
this baby(i know is not going to be
totally easy but we can do it)...I don't
know how can I explain this but when we
talk about this baby we both feel a great
joy,we want it fron the bottom of our
hearts but almost everybody get's like
when they think about a baby at age 16 so
I am starting to think that we are both
crazy!! ,i
don't need any serious advice but I will
truly apriciatte any comments from u
guys,just wanted to know what u think
about this....Thankx for ur time!!! Take
care....
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Heather_16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2003 Posts: 79 Location: Colorado
Posted: 09-24-03 18:08pm
Hey hun,
i wouldnt hate you, me and my boyfriend
were trying, and aparently achieved,
getting pregnant, and I just turned 16,
september 3. Just be sure you can give
the baby what it needs, including its
father. No baby or child should grow up
without its father or mother.
--heather
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-24-03 18:20pm
I think you should wait. I mean lets say
you go through this...Then you break up.
You are stuck with a baby. I say you take
time to save up, get married, get your own
place and then decide to have a family.
You sound so much like my sister who had
the same plan down to the last detail.
And nothing went through but she had a
baby. Shes not even with him. And he
never sees the baby. You are so young to
be starting off. Hold off for a while so
you can enjoy trips, clubs, las vegas!!!
Everything you can imagine...Then have a
baby later. Please think about it first.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Mum At 16 Posted: 09-24-03 18:24pm
Glow,
for a start I don't think you are
crazy, most women at some stage of their
lives have the urge to want children and a
family, some earlier than others. I think
it is lovely that you and your boyfriend
love each other so much, and both want
this baby just as much as each other,
therefore I am sure bubby will be greatly
appreciated and loved. I guess the only
advise I can offer is try to be ready,
prepare yourselves by collecting lots of
baby clothes from friends and family if
you don't have the money to buy new stuff.
Make sure at least one of you have an
income because bubby is going to need
things like nappies, be it disposable or
cloth, baby formula, doctors appointments
and checkups on regular occasions, and all
those other unexpected expenses that seem
to arise out of nowhere. Are you going to
get married? It is nice to feel a bit of
security when you are bringing a little
one into the world to.
Take care,
.::suzy::.
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Glow
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 6 Location: PR
What U Think...married Or Not??!! Posted: 09-24-03 19:02pm
First of all thankx 4 your comments I will
keep them in mind and suzy well ,we
talked about marriage he said that it was
my desicion and that he would love to but
guess what?? I said to him "let's wait
till I am 17 and finish high school" I
guess is not a smart choice
...It would be better to get married
before the baby so there could be more
stability,righ??!!
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Marriage Posted: 09-24-03 19:20pm
Glow,
everyone is different, and if you are
not ready to marry and you are comfortable
in the situation you are in then that's
that. It is your life, and you are the
one that needs to be happy with it, and if
you are, then you are doing doing a lot
better than some people. Besides it is
2003, and more people are living together
before marriage now than ever before. I
love being married because it gives me the
security I need to raise my family, but
that is me, and I know that not everyone
feels that way. One of my friends has
been with her man for 13 years and only
been married for the last 12 months. You
will know when you want to be married,
just like you know you really want
children now.
Take care,
.::suzy::.
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PnaiMaMi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 29 Location: New Jersey
Posted: 09-24-03 23:15pm
It is really you choice whether you want
to wait to get married or not before you
have a baby. You should really wait
though to get preggy since you and your
man has only been together for a year.
I'm 17 and i'm planning to have a baby
with my b/f and we're not married but we
basically live together. I stay at his
house and the only time I come home is
when I need more clothes. It was a big
decision for us though. I've been wanting
a baby since last year but he told me to
wait and I did. Now he's ready and
everything is working out really good.
Patience is a virtue!
Hey...i'm In the Same Situation!!! Posted: 09-25-03 11:55am
Glow,
i am 16 yrs old and just found out I was
pregnant...Agian. My boyfriend and I
have decided to keep it and be a family.
I want a baby so bad...But it is a lot of
work and a lot of hardhships. But keep
your head up and just keep your baby and
yourself safe.
Love always
-sarah-
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-25-03 12:48pm
It is best to get married so you have that
security knowing he will be there. And
its the best feeling to look at those
rings on your finger!! Trust me! I stare
at my rock everyday! Hahaha but you
should wait until you know for sure that
this is what you want. You should be able
to say, "ive seen it all and know im ready
to settle down!" good luck!
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Glow
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 6 Location: PR
....thankxx!!! Posted: 09-25-03 17:08pm
Well thankx for your replys!! :p we'll
see what happens until april,hopefully at
that moment I can share my joy :d with
all of you wonderful gurls at this
forum,because you trully are!!
p.D. Sorry for the spelling but spanish
is not my first language.I am from puerto
rico...Latinaa!!(we send love from here to
all of you )
much love,
~*glow*~
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UrBaN_GuRL
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Sep 2003 Posts: 6 Location: Louisiana, New Orleans
Please Wait Glow! Posted: 09-26-03 14:05pm
Glow,
i don't mean to be rude or anything but
girl you are crazy! you only 16 and
you want a baby! I can understand
completely that you and your boyfriend are
in love and yall want to have a baby. But
if your boyfriend really loves you he will
make you wait till you at least out of
high school and or stable enough to pay
for another. I am 17 and my boyfriend is
20 and he wants me to have his baby when I
get out of high school. But he's
respecting me and my mind that I want to
wait to have a baby because I want my
child to have the best of everything!
Well I hope you make the right chocie.
Keep me updated about your choice!
~amanda~
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-26-03 14:14pm
Thats great to wait amanda!!! Good
choice!
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schylar
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2003 Posts: 1 Location: montana
Posted: 09-26-03 14:21pm
Im abrely 15 and I just found out that im
pregnant..Me and my boyfriend didnt plan
on this to happen until we were out of
college.....Just because your' in love
does not mean its going to be easy...If
your' sixteen,arent you still in high
school?If your' in high school,then how do
you plan on supporting a baby?Wouldnt you
want your' baby to be able to have the
best you can give it?I say you wait until
you're out of high school so you can both
have a good job and be able to give it
even more than you could now;but...With
whatever you decide on...Good luck.
And
I think I need some replies fron u girls
cuz well I want a baby sooo bad!!! My
boyfriend and I are planing to "make one"
in april of 2004 it was my idea and he
totally loved it(at that time we will
celebrate our first year together!! 
)
the baby will be due january or maybe
early february 2005 that year I will be
turning 17 too anyway,to make a long story
short I am sure we can manage to support
this baby(i know is not going to be
totally easy but we can do it)...I don't
know how can I explain this but when we
talk about this baby we both feel a great
joy,we want it fron the bottom of our
hearts but almost everybody get's like
when they think about a baby at age 16 so
I am starting to think that we are both
crazy!! 
