Please Read If You Have Misscarried Before???? Posted: 07-13-04 08:12am
Hi all,
i had a misscarriage 40 days ago today?
I still have not had period yet so thats
nearly six weeks.I know my cycle is all
over the place and will take time to sort
itself out etc etc.
But the last few weeks I have not been
feeling like myself at all.
I am extremly moody,im hell to be with at
the moment,i feel so sorry for my
partner,yet I sometimes feel angry because
to me he seems like he is coping with
losing our baby.I feel like he should be
crying or something.I feel like I want to
shout and scream at everybody,i feel very
tearful,very aggiated by everyone and
everything,my eating habbitts have gone
all up the spout,im usually very careful
about what I eat,but lately I have been
eating all sorts off rubbish which just
isnt like me at all,high fatty
foods,sugar,sweets etc.I feel like im
losing it or somethin,i cant
concentrate,im not sleeping well.I have
suffered from depression in the past and I
am terrified im slipping back.I really
really dont weant to go back on to
medication.I feel so tense all the time,so
stressed out.My skin is bad.I just snapped
at a work colleague,the poor guy!!!!
This just isnt like me.I think im coping
with the misscarrige I know it wasnt meant
to be etc and have excepted it but
everynow and then I go to peices,i thought
id feel better by now or at least be on
the way to feeling better.Its all like
very very bad pms multiplied by about
100.Will I feel like this until I have my
period?????
My gran mother is also very ill at the
moment so I am worrying about her at the
moment to.I just dont know what to do.I
feel like I want to sleep all the time
except I cant sleep.Yet I dont want to get
up in the mornings.........
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 07-13-04 11:35am
I'd say very likely. I'm sorry for your
loss and hope you feel better and are able
to conceive again. Good luck!
I can relate to how you are feeling
because I have had a miscarriage and just
found out today that I am having another
one. The first one was at 10 weeks and
now this one is at 7 weeks. They can't
find a heart beat both times. It really
sucks and seems that everyone around you
us so supportive but it's really hard for
them to understand exactly how it feels.
I am new to this forum stuff and am hoping
that I can help someone and someone may be
able to help me work through the wide
range of emotions this forces us to deal
with. I hope this works and to hear from
someone soon. Take care
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Jane Down
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2004 Posts: 4 Location: London
Miscarriage Posted: 07-24-04 14:17pm
Do not give up hope. I had a miscarriage
on christmas eve last year. I was
absolutely devastated, it had taken me so
long to get pregnant and I couldn't
believe it was all over. It actually took
me a couple of weeks before it really hit
me and then I couldn't stop crying for
weeks. I thought it was the end of any
hope of me ever having a baby (i'm 36 so
felt that time was running out). I was
absolutely desperate, really depressed and
couldn't be bothered with anything. I
started to drink a bit too much as
well(having spent the preceding year not
really touching alcohol while I was trying
to conceive). But here I am 23 weeks
pregnant, I found out I was pregnant in
march, just three months after the
miscarriage. I actually feel that a
miscarriage sort of "unlocks" something in
your body and makes it easier to conceive
when you are next ready. You will get
pregnant again. Talk to your doctor about
what may be causing you to miscarry. A
friend of mine miscarried twice and after
tests it showed she had "sticky blood"
which was too thick to pass through to the
placenta so her babies always died at
about 6-8 weeks. They put her on a blood
thinning tablet and now she too is
pregnant again, 15 weeks. Do not give up,
you absolutely will get pregnant again,
there are actually very few people who
literally cannot have a baby. Lots of us
need help to get there, lots of us will
lose a pregnancy or two along the way, but
one day you will have a baby. Stop
punishing yourself and get back on track
witha healthy diet and prepare for your
next pregnancy. I wish you all the luck
in the world.
Jane
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 07-24-04 14:33pm
My sympathy to all of you that had
miscarriages! I have been there! It
seems like a big piece of you goes with
the miscarriage it seems like you are
unable to bring yourself back, but, you
will in time, we all need time to heal for
any reason and if you do need a little
help, don't be ashamed to ask, heck, we
all need a little help sometime.
God bless!
Sincerely,
sandy
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maryl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jul 2004 Posts: 5 Location: california
Posted: 07-26-04 20:12pm
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It
is hard to imagine, but in time you will
feel like yourself again. I had 4
miscarriages, but I also have 3 wonderful
children (10, 8 and 4). I had 2
miscarriages before my first, and 2 before
my last. All of them were hard to cope
with, but the 4th one was at 14 weeks and
by far the hardest. I felt exactly the
way you do. I went for counceling and
ended up on medication for depression, but
only temporarily. It really helped me get
through both the loss and the anger at my
husband. I was very angry at him because
I felt he didn't understand and he didn't
say or do the right thing during the time
I was having the miscarriage. The
anti-depressant helped me see how I was
really feeling and how to communicate it
to the people who loved me and wanted to
support me (but didn't know how). Since
you have experience with depression, you
know how it can cloud your judgement, so I
think it might help to see a counselor and
let them help you decide if
anti-depressants are the answer.
And, yes, alot of this is merely your
hormones out of whack, and getting back
into a normal cycle will probably help,
but in the meantime, wouldn't it be nice
to have an objective 3rd party to talk to
and get through this rough (but temporary)
time?
Good luck, I am sending you all positive
vibes!! Mary
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vickiew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jul 2004 Posts: 10
Posted: 07-29-04 14:15pm
I am so glad that I have found this forum.
I too miscarried in may 2004. We have
tried for over 3 years and were so happy
when it finally happened. I still find
myself dealing with it--crying when I
think about it... We got the okay from
the doc to start trying again, but I don't
think I am ready emotionally yet. My
husband is very supportive, but I still
don't think that he gets it. They just
don't experience it the same way I guess.
It is nice to have a place to share
feelings with other people who have gone
through this. Good luck to all!
